Khula'

Q: My wife is seeking khula/divorce on the ground of alleged "irrevocable differences". I agree (reluctantly) provided she reimburses my mahr as well as other items of wedding and walima dresses and suites and other items of jewelleries. I have been waiting for the past six months but her (parents) have been non cooperative and belligerent in a sense, NO RESPONSE at all.

Initially they went to Islamic Sharia Council in London, UK and petitioned for divorce which I contested on the grounds that the cause of marriage was her (fraud on the grounds of illicit friendship outside our marriage) entirely her own fault. After a couple of months they decided to withdraw her petition from Islamic Sharia Council. She has now enlisted the help from Birmingham Central Mosque citing the same false accusations and demanding divorce. I will strongly contest on the same grounds. I will give her khula on condition that meets my certain conditions like the return of my mahr, my jewelleries and expensive items of clothing’s. From Islamic Sharia prospective am I right in my demand of my goods?

In a nutshell she wants a divorce from me because I CAUGHT HER RED HANDED with a "family friend" (not even a family friend but just a friend. She is not prepared to break up their friendhip for the sake of our marriage). Please advise me on where I stand.

Q: If a woman asks her husband to set her free from her marriage (asking for talaaq or khula') because her husband had found out that she has a boyfriend that she refuses to severe ties with and even if the husband reluctantly agrees to her unreasonable demand even after numerous meetings and compromises. Can husband ask the wife to return all his belongings like Mehr, jewellery, clothes, holidays as the husband did not gave her as gift. What is sharia ruling regarding husbands rights? Does the husband have the right to demand the return of all his items. Can you please give us the sharia ruling on this matter Wallahu Alam. The husband demands return of his property as a precondition before giving khula. Jazakallah

Q: My wife wants khula. She is 7 months pregnant and she doesn't want to continue with this marriage. If I give khula then what will be the responsibility on me as the khula is on her request.

Q: I am separated from my husband for more than 6 months. My husband tries to arrange meeting and reconciliation but I dont want to go to my husband's home. Now my husband sends me notices that if i do not come within a particular date, it will be declared as a khula as I am not interested in any reconciliation done from my husband and he can get married again. If i don't reply or go on that particular date, will the khula take place? What will be the iddat period?

Q: If a wife proposed for khula and the husband accepted her proposal in front of a government qazi and his assistants without any other witnesses. Is this khula valid or not? 

Q: If a wife and husband both mutually agreed and signed on the khula papers infront of the Government Qazi and his two assistances. Is this khula valid or not? Her father and brother signed later but the husband demanded some amount, but he still did not take the amount. In this case, is the khula done or not? Does the marriage still exist?

Q: My husband and me live in the same house which is my parents house and my husbands in laws house. My father kept his account card with his permission to save alot of money. People were jelous of our relationship as husband and wife. We had alot of arguments. Later he started to threaten me to leave me and he also use to mention talaq though it wasnt given. One day he left us and went back to his parents house undercover. After two weeks he decides to come back showing fake guiltiness so I didnt let him in the house. After a month he decided to go back to his parents as I never took him back. He is there and has spent almost all the money we saved for him he cant provide for his wife telling her this is my money, I work, dont touch my card. He threatens me of giving talaq and so forth. I feel I cannot fulfill the religious obligations. Would it be correct for me to ask for khula?

Q: Can a khula take place if the reason for khula is that the life style of groom and bride are not the same. And the bride doesn't ask for khula directly to her husband i.e groom instead it was asked to the grooms parents?

Q: My husband is demanding an amouny of 12 laakh for khula. The amount of haq mehr was 50,000. Is it justified to ask for such a huge amount for khula? I am unable to afford this amount. What should I do?

Q: My question is regarding khula. The wife demanded for separation from her husband and husband was not ready. Finally he agreed for separation (divorce) with a condition of their son's custody and return of mahr and other financial settlement. The entire process was done in India by a lawyer on a legal paper and husband pronounced talaaq three times at one go (please note he had issued one talaq already few years ago) and they got separated. Now my question is, is this considered as second talaaq or khula? Also please be informed that they lived together 2 months after this procedure. So if this is khula that took place, is it right on them to live together? Are they sinning? Request you to kindly respond at the earliest so that I can stop them from sinning further or help them in the best possible way pleasing Allah.