Q:
1. Agar husband doran-e-guftgu bina larai jhagray or niayat k ye kahay "tumhara mera koi rishta" or bus ruk jai, nahi ka word b na bolay.
2. Agar shohar wife se kahay k agar tum ne ye kaam kia to tmhara nuqsaan ho jai ga. aur nuqsan se murad talaq ho to kia hukam hai, agar wife wo kaam kr le to.
Q: I need clarity on the status of my marriage.
We have been married for 3 years. Over the 3 years it has been noted that my husband is mentally unstable. We have not yet confirmed what exactly is actually wrong with him but he has no control over his emotions and actions as many people can confirm this. He gets angry for the smallest thing and causes chaos. Once the anger subsides and he is calm only then he realises what actually took place. He is very moody and aggressive with everyone around him. He admits that he needs help and therapy as he wants to get better. Every year at a certain time he goes into a severe depression he quits his job, he is aggressive towards everyone and he just wants to sleep all day. He goes into a frame of mind where he acts like someone who is insane. One minute he is normal, next minute he becomes angry for no reason at all and starts an argument. In one instance due to something small that happend he went into a rage. This resulted in a heated argument where he said infront of people that he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me (I personally couldn't understand how he could say this because the night prior to this incident we were quite fine and he still said he loved me before we fell asleep and we had still been intimate a few days prior). Days later after the incident took place I confronted him about what had happened and only then he realised the commotion he actually caused and realised what he had said. He then begged for my forgiveness and told me that he has no control over his anger. He explained that his anger controls his mind and he cannot control what comes out of his mouth. We have a baby of a few months old and he regrets disrupting her life with his uncontrollable anger. After what happend my parents are trying to keep us from seeing each other. This situation is extremely difficult for me as an innocent baby is caught up in the middle of this drama.
We love each other very much and he has agreed to go for therapy to get help for his uncontrollable anger. We would like to make things work especially for the sake of our baby. I would just like to know whether a talaaq took place in the above mentioned situation if my husband has confirmed that he only said those things in a state of anger beyond his control without realising the consequences of his actions.
Please advise what is the correct Quranic procedure of divorce as many people believe that a talaq takes place simply if the husband utters the word or implies divorce. Is it really so simple for a man to end a marriage in Islam?
Q:
1. Mai ne aik din jhagray k doran apni wife se kaha "neechy ayo, tumhen talaq deta hon" ye statement present me nahi balkay future k lye bola tha. Matlab tum neechay ao phr tumhen talaq deta hon.
2. Larai k baad, meri mother ne meri wife ke absence me mujh se kaha k meri wife keh rahi hai k us ne ab meray sath nahi rehna. mai ne kaha theek hai. meri mother ne "Theek hai" wali baat meri wife se bhe nahi kahi tu kia hukam hai. Meharbani farma ker meray shaqooq or veham ko door karain.
Q: Please read my query and answer me. I am very worried. I am in living in London for the last 5 years. I have 2 daughters. I got married 9 years ago and its been early time my husband made a condition but honestly speaking I dont remember what was that. When did I do, I tried to memorise this but I failed. He said (if you will do or did, you wil be divorced) but what was that, I dont remember. I asked my husband and he said that he even dont remember. Somehow he made a condition and he said that whenever he said that, he always threaten me and still he didnt give (divorce). I am confused and in suspect i dont know when my husband said that time i culdnt pay heed on it but now last 2years i am only trying to recall all past fights that in which what did my husbnd said and his intentions as he said he dont remember but ma wahum o guman mein hon k falan laraiyi Mei kaya kaha tha sara din issi soch mein guzarta ha buht socha (shart) ky bary mein lakin yaad hi nahi aa raha uss sa related batein yaad atti hain lakin wo shart nahi yaad aa rahi ma buht upset hon zahni tur per ma husband ki her baat ko (talq) samjti hon or inn 2salon mein buht laraiyan ho chuki hain ma sirf past ki baton ki yaad kerti hon please guide me ma pagal ho jaon gi
Q: I have so many issues in my life and thats why I am messaging you again and again. This is my lifes biggest problem, please give me a reply and ease my mind with the will of Allah Pak. I have waswasa in my mind. Actually me and my husband dont know that "go to hell", "leave home" also counts as a divorce. I always used to say give me a divorce whenever we fight, may Allah pak forgive me, so when I say give me divorce he always says "go to hell", "go" etc. After that when I got to know that these words also count as talaq e bain if a man's intention was divorcing his wife then I asked my husband he said Allah know my intention was never for divorce, I just said go to hell in anger nothing else, but after that I am thinking 24 hours that he is not my husband anymore. My life becomes hell because of these waswasas, what should I do? Once I said leave me and he said just to make me realize, 'I give you Tan' he did not used the word talaq or divorce he just said 'tan' then he said how could you ask for divorce even you know it is so bad. Please tell me what can I do?
Q: Last night I had a fight with my wife and in anger I threatened her that if she countinue the same way then next time I will tell her 3 times talaq talaq talaq. Since my intention was not to give talaq, but unfortunately I said the words 3 times. I want to know whether my marriage is still valid or not. Honestly speaking I tried to threaten her and next time I will tell her. I am regretting on this since I made a big sin.
Q: If a husband and wife are not talking to each other since two to three years and they don't have any physical relationship, so will the wife automatically be removed from the nikaah?
Q: I said to my husband that I want to go to my mothers house because I did not go to her house for 1 month. He said ok go but come back after two days. I said no I'll come after a week. He said that if you don't come in two days then always stay at your moms house. I asked him about his intention and he said that he did not intend divorce. I want to ask if divorce will take place if I stay at my moms house for more than two days?
Q: If a husband and wife are fighting and the wife asks for a divorce but the husband has no intention to give divorce and remains silent, then the wife again says that I can't live with you and husband unintentionally says okay but no intention of divorce at all. Now the wife said to him that since you said okay to my statement, our marriage is over. Please explain if it is a divorce even if the husband did not utter anything except okay. If it is a divorce then how many take place?
Q: After one talaaq when the iddah has finished and no ruju has taken place, later on another talaaq takes place after the iddah period and again later it happens for a third time. What is the state of this marraige?