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Mother remarrying

Q: My husband and I have a daughter Alhamdullilah and Allah has blessed us with twin boys who will be born soon In Shaa Allah. I am stuck as to what to do. My mother who has decided to marry again this will be her forth marriage but this choice has made both myself and my sister very unhappy we are heartbroken about it as she has before gotten married without our knowledge. Now this time she has told us that she made this choice and did not ask our opinion or how we felt. I know it is Sunnah to be married, but this decision has caused so much pain to my marriage as well as my husband is always saying really bad things about her and I am constantly having to pick sides. I cannot find a way to solve this I am suffering but cannot explain to my husband that she is still my mother and I need to respect her but what if I can never accept her decision to marry again. I don't want my children to suffer as well and I am afraid this will cause her to not meet with her grandchildren. May Allah guide in this difficult time. Based of the above. Is what my mother is doing correct by choosing to marry over the heartbreak of her children?

Hurmat-e-Musaaharah

Q: If mother slaps you on the knee and you have jeans on and no heat is felt no lust no desire no erection, does that constitute hurmat-e-musaahara. Been getting waswasa a lot. Please explain. I do not have any kind of lust towards my mother and will never. I am married alhumdulillah for over a month.

Mother insulting Ulama

Q: I'm really becoming despondent of my parents attitude on Islam and how they criticize every sunnat that I strive to practice in my life and this is really becoming intolerable for me. On two separate occasions, my mother abused Pakistani Deobandi Ulema. I realize that this is a serious blasphemy and her nikah with my father must have been broken. Is it right, mufti sahab? My heart ached a lot when I heard such a comment on the pious deobandi ulema of pakistan who have sacrificed their lives for uplifting deen. And are reflection of the lives of Sahaba R.A. I have a lot of aqeedat with Deobandi Ulema and cannot live along with such a person who abuses them. I have heard stories of Sahaba R.A and pious akabireen who left their parents when they uttered blasphemous words against our Prophet SAW. As Prophet SAW's waaris are Ulema, for this reason I have decided to leave my house and enroll in Nadwatul Uloom or Mazahir Uloom for Alimiyah course without informing anyone from my family. I'm 20 years old and have currently 660 rupees in my bank account (10 dollars). I know that when I leave my house I shall face a lot problems but I really want to become an Aalim and study the deen. Most importantly, I can never live along some one who abuses deobandi ulema, I cannot tolerate this for a second. Whole of my entire family is very very far away from Islam. They never offer namaz for 5 times a day. My mother criticizes Hazrat Maulana Ilyas Ghuman D.B and it really infuriates me a lot. Will leaving the house because I cannot tolerate such blasphemous comments and for becoming an alim from a madarssa like Nadwatul uloom constitue a sin?

Showhar ki maa showhar ku biwi ke saat taalluq rakhne se mana' karti he

Q: Mera sawaal ye hai ke mera nikaah hoa hai rukhsati nahi. Ab baat ye hai k islam main mujhe apni biwi se milne or bahar jane ki bhi ijazat hai or hum agar pyar karna chahe to wo bhi kar sakte hai. Ab meri maa mujhe mana karti hai milne se jab k larki k parents mana nahi karte or agar kbhi mera dil chahta hai to main chup k mil leta ho lakin apni maa ko nahi batata q k us ka bhi dil krta hai mujhse mile ab jub hame islam or qanoon ne ijazat di hai to hame q mana kia ja raha hai or han meri maa ne hame ekele dekh lia tha lakin hum kuch nahi kar rahe they ab wo khandan ki waja bana rahi hai ya kuch or baat hai ab main kia karo biwi k haqooq bhi hai or parents k bhi main bht parishan ho mujhe reference k saath jawab de de.

Hurmat-e-musaahara

Q:

1. A person feels lust for his wife. He has an erection thinking about her and he accidentally touches his mature daughter's bare hand. Since the lust was for his wife, is his nikaah broken?

2. A person touched his mother with lust. He hasn't confessed and fears that if he does, it will destroy his relationship with his parents. What should he do? He sincerely cries and regrets and repents to Allaah.

3. If after a man touches his daughter with lust and his wife becomes haraam for him and they separate from each other but they still want each other, can they be reunited again in Jannah?

4. Is a man still mahram for his mother whom he had touched with lust where hurmat musaharah has occured? Can he accompany her on a long journey? He regrets sincerely and there is absolutely no temptation and fear of it happening again.

Husband not allowing the wife to visit her mother

Q: I like to know that if your husband forbids you to visit your mother with good reason, do you still go without his permission or abide by his command? She has done and said terrible things in past and I really want to see her, but in fear that she will control our lives and say and do those awful things again and cause us to be so stressed he thinks it's wise I stay away. What does one do in this case?

Family problems

Q: I need guidance on what takes priority and precedence in terms of my dilemma. I live in a small town that is Islamic conscious and a very good environment for my children. Drugs and bad habits are minimal and less accessible than the big city that I come from. Spiritually living in this town is also far more uplifting and one is more conscious of Allah. My problem is my father passed away and my mum and sister are now putting pressure on me to move back home to the city. Drugs and the environment are a problem. There is also always family politics and Ill feelings of which I am not a part of don't want to be apart of as I prefer to stay neutral and out of everyone else's business. My mum and sister are making me feel guilty in order to get me to move back there. My mum is more than welcome to come and live with me but says she doesn't want to move away from her family. I feel that they expect me to risk and sacrifice my family and life and the upbringing I want for my children for their convenience. I have explained that I don't want to move and my reasons but it falls on deaf ears as they only seem to want to make things better for them. In Islam in know the importance of my mother and I feel guilty but want the best for my kids and spiritually for myself, my husband and kids. What would be the right thing to do Islamically? Am I supposed to risk my kids and my strong spiritual grounding where I live to accommodate my mother?