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Beta walida ko pareshan karta hai

Q: Meri walida jo hain namaaz ki paband hai owr ham sab betiyan bhi namz ke paband hai. Bas bete jo hain namz nahi parthey. Do beton ki shadi ho chuki hai tesra beta jo abhi 23 saal ka hai aqal wa shaor bilkul b nahi hai koi kam b nahi karta bas shadi ka bhoot sar par swar hai r bar bar tang karta hai k mujhey shadi karni hai meri walida ko pareshan karta hai apni baton se jis se wo chirchiri ho gai hai r tension leti hai r bare dono bete b apni pasand r marzi k mutabiq shadi ki hai ab pachta rahe hain unke wives bad ekhlaq r namz nahi parthey r bachey b bilkul apni trah bad eklaq r la shaor hain jab unhe koi masla dar pesh ata hai to meri walida ko tang karte hai r apna masla bayan kr k meri walida ko pareshan rakhey hain r meri walida ko wo ezzat nahi dete jo aik maa ka haq hai meri walida usi ghar main hote howe b meri walida ko nahi pochtey jab apna kuch masla hota apne mafad k liye maa ko pochety hain r tesra beta ab unhi ki tra shadi k liye zid kar raha hai r aqal bilkul b hai nahi samjhatey hain to kehta hai mujey samajh hai apne ache r burey ka esa wazefa bataen jis se wo aik farmabardar beta ho r aik deendar ba adab larki se shadi karne par razi ho jazak allah fi Amanillah.

Ma ki khidmat karna

Q: Aaj maine apne raat ke khawab me dekha main soo raha hu or meri ammi mere sir ke paas bethkar bhut roorahi hai or fhir meri ammi mere uper bhut sara pani daal deti hai or me uth jata hu Or apni ammi ko chup karane ki koshish karta hu Fhir samne se meri badi behan ajati hai.

Dream

Q: In 2013 my mom had insult (veins in brain exploded). She was in coma for few weeks, she was dying, doctors were saying there is no hope as they see, the organism doesn’t fight anymore etc. Praise be to Rabbil Alamin for the mercy He sent me saving my mom who is now walking, cooking, doing all she did before, amin!! She is 69. She is not Muslim and I pray Allah to make her Muslim, amin. She worries about everything. Now she worries about one member of our family drinking alcohol due to debts. I know disease are from Allah, as well as the cure and everything belongs to Him, not only disease and cure, but I say all details, because as I understand He doesn’t just send disease without any factors to happen first (please share the right knowledge if I am mistaken). Today I saw a dream that I see her in toilet, I am not sure if that member of a family was there too. Then suddenly I see her lying in the bathroom while hot water is running on her face. I think, mama, why don’t you turn it off and come to her and see she is (naked if I remember correct) kind of unconscious. The same dead swallowed no movement face as I was seeing when she was in reanimation in coma… I think she opened an eye for a second, or I saw somehow the color of her eye… I think she even tried to stand or made a movement with her hand to close the water, but I think I saw again that face with no movements and realized she has been struck again. in a dream or already awake I understood that worrying about this member of a family is a factor that is a first sign that she will have the same disease again or even die and Allah knows best. then I thought it could also mean that she will be guided to Islam in shaa Allah. Amin. What does this dream mean? Allah didn’t send it for nothing and I believe we must ask His knowledgeable slaves for interpretation expecting the answer coming from Him Alone.

Using one's zakaat to pay for one's mother's treatment

Q: I am a 70 year old retired person and have no means of income besides some investments in Islamic bonds. I pay Zakat Alhamdollilah every year to deserving persons. My 100 year old mother fell seriously sick and had a Paralysis stroke and presently is in Coma stage. She is attended by two female nurses [12 hours duty each] and one Physiotherapist at my home besides her prescribed medications. I am aware that I am not allowed to give Zakat money to Parents. However, cost incurred by me on her treatment and Nursing / Physiotherapy is beyond my reach as I have a very limited pension type income. Can I pay her treatment, Nursing and Physiotherapy expenses from my Zakat fund?

Mother not being pleased with the girl one wishes to marry

Q: My mum is refusing to marry me to a woman because she didn't find her pretty and she didn't like the girl's family. She says that they are dangerous and that the girl is not good (not respectful). But I know from mutual friends that the girl is righteous and she does her best to follow Islam, even if she doesn't wear Hijab. My mother had heard from a lot of families here that the girl's family is quite special and she doesn't like that. So she is arguing with me to not marry this girl. What should I do? I know from personal sources that the girl's family won't give her hand to me if I don't come with my whole family. Please tell me what should I do?

Relationship with one's father after divorce

Q: I have a very complicated question for you. Basically, my mother got divorced from my father many years ago, it was a forced marriage and was not built to last of course. Father was 40 years older than her, she was just 16 when she got married. Now she is saying I cannot speak to him, nor attend his funeral if he dies. In fact this year she has told me to completely sever all relations with him, otherwise she will disown me. I know she has been through hell and back because of him, and they did not get on well with one another, but do I have any rights, or must I be obedient and do sabr? If mother finds out that I have even glanced at him, I will be disowned and possibly thrown out of the house. I don't blame either of them. I love them both, but why must I go through all this? Is this a punishment for my sins? Your help would be greatly appreciated.

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I am a 19 year old male and currently studying Aalim course. A few years ago I had touched my mother with lust and I have finished reading the conditions through which hurmate-e-musaaharah will take place (i.e. if she had a cloth on which was thick and the heat of the body could be felt, etc). However I'm not so sure if the conditions took place or not because of it being a while ago however I have Ghaalib-e-Gumaan that the conditions took place. Is there any way out for me? Do I have to confess? Will Allah Ta'ala forgive me for this despicable sin even if I don't confess?