christian

Learning more about Islam

Q: The reason for my email is that I am struggling to find myself on a religious level and would like to know more about Islam. I grew up in a very strict Christian home and most of my life I have only been exposed to how Christian people should live and it’s very difficult for me as my views about a lot of things regarding religion has changed since I went to University. It’s not that I don’t believe in anything, it’s just that I’m very confused as to what to follow. In the past three years, since I left home to study at Stellenbosch University, I have been exposed more to the Muslim religion and ever since then i started questioning my Christian ways, but I’m to scared to tell my parents about how i feel because I’m afraid that they won’t understand where i come from and I’m also scared of disappointing them. So i ask you if you can, will you please help me to understand your religion better just to help me find myself?

Communicating with a non-mahram

Q: From the first day of my college I started talking to a girl in my class. We met everyday and talked about many things. We also chatted on the phone. Days passed and she opened up about her personal life. Her parents got divorced when she was in 4th grade. After 2 years her mother passed away. She's the only child of her parents. After that she was adopted by her maternal uncle and since then she's living with him and his family. We discussed about religion also and she, being a christian, I told her about Islam. College closed for 10 days for holidays. After holidays, classes started again and I started ignoring her. Whenever I see her, I try to run from her. I don't even look at her. But today, while I was sitting in the corner of the class, she came up to me and said: "Why are you ignoring me? Did you forget about me?" and she went away. I felt that she was hurt. What should I do? I try my best not to get emotionally attached to someone because in the past I was hurt by getting attached to someone. As a point of sympathy... I feel that I must talk to her.Please suggest some remedy!

Marrying a Christian girl

Q: I am a Muslim guy and I have been in a relationship with a christian girl for a while. I am trying to make this relationship permissible on all aspects and I want to marry her but we are not planning to register this marriage in the court (not legal marriage) just Islamic so that we can be confident that whatever we are doing is not a sin/Haram. We are very serious in this relationship and we want to take it to a legal marriage level but not now since she is still a college student and her parents and not fine with her getting married that early. I believe, I can fulfil all the Islamic marriage requirements from bringing in witnesses to announcing my marriage. It's worth mentioning that we live apart in two different cities, more than 6 hours away from each other but we do see each other every once in a while.

My question is: Is marry this girl according to the Islamic laws permissible?

Esaai ke saat dowsti rakhna

Q: May thora masle may hon... Bt ye ha k meri ek frnd ki frnd ha ju Christian ha wo 80% Islam ku sahi manti or may uski or help kar raha hn use har tarhan se smjha raha hn reference de de k meri he frnd uske b thora thora bta rahi ha lekin mera uski life may ane se zada asar hua ha is taraf... Ab masla ye ha k may abhi parh parh raha hn or wo bhi to agr wo ainda wakt may mere hath pe kamla parh leti ha... Wo Karachi hotu ha mayne Lahore to kya maslihatun Islam may rah k wo ghar walun k sath church ja sakti ha? Kyun k uske ilawa koi hal nahi... May apne ghar walun ku itni aram se smjha paonga ab kya karun.. May, aj k society le lehaz se dekhen tu maa baap kahte hain k kamane wala hojao phir shadi lekin mera different mamla na... Bohat pareshan hon kya karun. Meri planning y3 ha k use pura satisfy karne n bd jb musalman karunga to wo may ye plan kia ha k maslihatun wo church jae or bs wakt nikale inshallah sahi wakt dekh k nikka inshallah karunga ab baten kya kaun? May ghalat hn ya sahi? Wo larki ha ghar hoti ha agr wo bta degi to jan ka khatra ha.... May chahta hn jan b bacha jae Muslim nasal ku b masla nw ho plz muje baten... may 22 ka hn wo 19 ki

Court marriage

Q: Im not very well learned, I just know basics. I would like to know if it is permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a christian man first in court then a while after the man will embrace Islam then get married via shariah? I would appreciate if you can explain in depth if possible so that I can relay your message to the parties involved the proper way.