Cleaning impurity

Q:

1) Whilst seated on a high pan toilet and one relieves oneself, does the water, which is often polluted and napaak, that remains and comes from inside of the high pan toilet or commode, happens to splash upon any part of one's body, does Ghusl or wudhu become necessary so that Salaah be performed?

2) When having a Fardh Ghusl, does soap have to be used as a means of removing the dirt and impurity or najaasat which is on one's body, such as after a wet dream, or does merely passing water suffice for the Fardh Ghusl to be done to render one paak and clean to perform Salaah?

B) If merely passing water over the affected or dirty parts of the body is sufficient, is there a specific number of times that water needs to be passed over the dirty parts to render one paak and for the Fardh Ghusl to be completed so that one could perform Salaah?

3) Clothes that have become napaak as a result of wet dream or any najaasat or droppings of urine falling on them, do they become clean as a result of washing them in a washing machine only and thereafter worn and perform Salaah?

4) Is there a specific number of times to wash when making Istinjaa?

5) Does blood which comes onto the topee (headgear) while in Salaah, render the Salaah null and void?

B) if yes, does wudhu and Salaah be repeated or only Salaah?

6) If dried blood is on the topee (headgear) does Salaah read with it be valid?

B) If it was washed and still the marks of blood are visible, will one's Salaah be accepted if one reads Salaah with it? 

Doing hifz

Q: I just wanted to ask. I really want to become a haafiz but there are many things that bother me. I want to become haafiz but I am already 26 years old. Sometimes I think I want to work in Saudi so maybe I can recite Qur'an there or become hifz while working, sometimes I think I want to make a small business etc. I don't know what to do but I really want to become haafiz and I don't know how. I can't afford to go to madrasah. What should I do? Is becoming haafiz not meant for me? Is it bad for me that's why no matter what I do I feel like there is no way for me to become haafiz. I feel so down. I even pray seldom and I can't complete the five times prayer a day because I feel so down. I don't know what to do.

How will a woman who is experiencing menopause observe iddat?

Q: I want to know that if a woman had sex with her husband on 15.06.16 and separated on the same day. She thereafter did not meet her husband and had menses after one month. She claims with complete certainty that she is not pregnant. Her pregnancy tests are also negative. Her age is 53 and is going through the process of menopause and usually has menses after three to four months. Kindly tell me that if her husband gave her divorce will she have to go through iddat? If so what will be the criteria? 3 months or 3 menses?

Husband telling the wife "Go get another husband"

Q: I would like clarify the following. Emotionally down I asked my husband not to keep me hanging, if he wants to let me go he must. He said fine go. His intention was divorce so accordingly we made nikaah again. To provoke my husband (Allah forgive me) I told my husband I want another husband. He asked do you want another husband. I said yes. His replied go get another husband. He says talaaq did not fall as his intention was not talaaq. Was this a talaaq? I am confused with regards to how the first fell and this did not? We have many arguments however we love each other a lot. But pressure gets the better of us and we say silly things. I have doubts that similar statements were uttered. He says none are valid as he did not intend divorce. What is the ruling? Request for duaas.