Family planning

Q: Is it true that to do family planning due to fear of shortage of money, food etc. is Haraam and a major sin? Also please tell me the conditions in which one can do family planning.

Husband corresponding via sms with a female colleague

Q: I have found some message on my husbands phone to another female colleague with whom he works with and I have confronted him about it and he confirms it is only friendly message and nothing attached to it.  Ever since I keep feeling suspicious about him and I just want to read his messages. I now don't trust him anymore. How do I overcome this problem.  It is really disturbing me and I cannot concentrate on my salaah and it is making me so bitter towards him. I feel I am so sinful. Please help me and advise me how to overcome this situation.

When would it become incumbent on us to actively participate in physical jihad?

Q: Please can you assist me in understanding the ruling of jihad in todays age (where we are without a caliphate) and when it would become incumbent on us to actively participate in physical jihad? I ask because I am feeling increasingly helpless when I look at the atrocities that our brothers and sisters are enduring in so many parts of the world - e.g. Palestine, Syria, Lebanon, etc. I do realise that we can make duaa to Allah (subhanahuwataála), that He ease the affairs of our brothers and sisters, and that we can make donations and offer aid in relief work. However, are we not expected to do more, by way of uniting in physical jihad - e.g. in Palestine? At which point would this become obligatory for us? Are we waiting to unite under one caliphate before doing so? Please assist me insha Allah. I have tried understanding this issue for some time now. Unfortunately, I have not been able to find the sunni fiqh of jihad in todays age. I think that there are many people in confusion, and so they turn to less reputable on-line sources to understand their role in jihad better.