Q: Me and my husband have been apart for 6 years. He has not supported me and our daughter. I have given him an ultimatum to choose before we got seperated because he was abusing me physically and emotionally and financially. He became violent and started to disrespect my family and me. The Imam of our town said the marriage can be claimed void due to the fact that we have not been in any contact for 6 years and also if we can find out if he converted back to his previous religion. Can you please tell me if it is possible because I want to move on with my life and the Imam is dragging the whole process.

Q: I know that it is not permissible for women to cut or trim their hair. However, I wish to enquire about male haircuts. Is it permissible for a barber to cut males’ hair in uneven lengths? I was informed that it is permissible for males to cut their hair in uneven lengths and it does not enter under the prohibition of qaza’ mentioned in the Hadith. Can you explain to me the laws of Shari’ah that relate to cutting the hair?

Q: Is there a difference between Wahabbis and Deobandis? If yes, what is it? I know it can be a bit irrelevant but I don't go to shrines and family go. I haven't told them, I just make excuses so, I shared this with some friends and close friends said that I should write to someone but few of them said that it means that my sect is Deobandi and some said Wahabbis.

I'm sure if it's necessary to have a sect? Please tell me if I'm on the right path and if it's according to our Deen? If not then what should I do?

Q: Can I name my girl child "Ilham". My in laws are against it because they think it means revelation hence it is of a very heavy meaning and will not suit a child.

Q: I gave my husband a khula but i'm going through my iddah but we want to reconcile. If he gave me two talaq already could we remarry?

Q: If a Muslim wished someone merry christmas will he have become a kafir, because in modern times christmas is just another cultural money making thing and people do not know the reality of christmas that it is the celebrating of jesus birthday and therefore if a muslim said merry christmas at a time without realising at the time the consequence and value of what he was saying he merely just said it out of respect or he said it but out of regret then will he become a kafir at that point? Because a muslim could have said the words merry christmas but with regret in his heart, obviously one understands to not do such a thing again but will he have become kafir for saying this without truly meaning it ?

Q: I'd like to know if a Muslim woman can appoint another sister as an agent (wakil)?

Q:

1. If some drops of urine get on the side areas of vagina even after all the precautions, does pouring water over them using Muslim shower during istinja is enough? I usually wash my legs separately, wash with soap and pour water over the area thrice as i don't get satisfied by pouring water while making istinja from Muslim shower. What is the right way? I read on your website somewhere that drops dont need to be washed..they can be wiped with tissues. Is it correct?

2. How many times water should be poured on napaak body part? Some says two, some says three. I use soap then pour water thrice. Is washing with soap necessary?

Q: Can Qadha salah be performed after asar and fajar namaz? People say no salah should be done after asar neither nafal nor qadaa. My mother was about to offer magrib qazaa of previous day after asar next day, i stopped her as i read that no sajda should be done after asar farz till magrib. 

Q:

1. After I had passed stool, there was a lot of bleeding in my back part. I wiped until I saw no blood on the tissue, then took a shower, then prayed dhuhr and asr prayers. Then at maghrib I went to the bathroom, and saw even more blood. Do I assume that the bleeding started again after I prayed asr, or do I assume that the bleeding was going on the entire time and therefore I have impurity all over me (because I showered) and my prayers are invalid?

2. Also, I often have bleeding in my back part and the toilet tissue we use is not clear white - it naturally has yellow/brown/red bits in it (I think it is because the tissue is recycled) and this makes it hard to tell if something is blood/stool or just the normal color of the toilet paper. If I wipe until the toilet paper comes back clean, then wash myself, then check again using toilet paper, however during the check I notice some spots that I'm not sure is normal color vs blood/stool, so I check again, but this time the toilet paper is clean, can I assume I am pure?