Q: I have something to ask. I have been talking to this nice gentleman. He is a Muslim and so am I. My parents found out I was talking to him. I was afraid to tell my parents because I'm Sunni and he's a Shia but when we die aren't we all Muslims Sunni or Shia it doesn't matter right? So my parents told me that he can come in 6 weeks time to get me and him engaged so we can talk with them knowing the man said that's fine yes but in his past he did bad things. When he was 14 he stole a car and he has records from the police. My parents want to do a police check on him but he has been doing very good. He's 18 now mashallah turning 19 and I am 17 turning 18 and I don't know what to tell my parents because we both love each other very much alhamdulilah and we want to have a future together. He has repented from his mistakes, he was young and stupid. But don't we all humans make mistakes and then learn from our mistakes? Therefore he's human and so am I. We made bad choices in the past so should it matter how he has police records? Because he's a changed man now and I want my family to accept him. What should I do I really need help thank you!
A: Shiahs and Muslims are poles apart. They believe that the Qur’aan Shareef has been distorted. Similarly, they also believe that the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu anhum) had turned apostate, Allah forbid. The one who believes in this is obviously a kaafir. Hence, it is impermissible for a Muslim woman to get married to a Shia. You should immediately sever this haraam relationship and sincerely repent to Allah Ta'ala for getting involved in it. Make a firm resolve that you will never repeat this sin in the future.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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