Q: I need help and assistant with something and is very serious. I am a sunni girl and want to marry a man who is a shia. We want to get married so we can start our future together but unfortunately due to him being a shia my parents are not agreeing. I have known this man for a long time and know that he is very kind hearted person and loves me for who I am and wouldnt ever change me. My father says that it is really bad and that I will be jumping into hell if I marry him and will take my parents to hell too. Making me feel like a bad person! I want to marry this person and he believes in Allah (swt), our Prophets, and the Quran so how can he not be a Muslim?! And also he doesnt curse the Sahabahs. And yes I know there are differences but they are opinions and other arguments between sunnis and shias and are politicial rather than religious. Also there are stuff that we both spoke about after we marry for example our kids and cleared all that but my dad is still being stubborn and feels that they feel change me into shia (which I know he wouldn't!) and also that he has read stuff that shows shias are just kafirs basically. He isnt even agreeing to meet him and im stuck because i cant leave either, my family or him! if i was to leave home what would happen then, would i get gunah for marrying a shia man?
A: Shiahs and Muslims are poles apart. They believe that the Qur’aan Shareef has been distorted. Similarly, they also believe that the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu anhum) had turned apostate, Allah forbid. The one who believes in this is obviously a kaafir. Hence, it is impermissible for a Muslim woman to get married to a Shia. You should immediately sever this haraam relationship and sincerely repent to Allah Ta'ala for getting involved in it. Make a firm resolve that you will never repeat this sin in the future.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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Q: You said that 'they believe the sahabahs are apostate' however he does not believe that! I explained this. He respects the sahabah same as us sunnis and does not swear or do anything so why is marrying him wrong? As I explained before he reads Quran, respects the sahabas, does not hit himself in muharram either. Ao why cant I marry him.
A: It is not permissible for a girl to be in contact or to speak casually with a non-mahram boy. You should sincerely repent to Allah Ta'ala for getting involved in this sin and make a firm resolve that you will not repeat this in the future. The Islamic teaching is that a girl should consult her parents and allow them to decide in the matters of nikaah. It is not in keeping with shame and modesty that a girl independently looks for her own suitor.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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