secret nikaah

Taking a second wife

Q: Is it permissible for me to take another wife?

My wife fell pregnant after 16 years with twins and thereafter a 3rd child. Since then she has been living at her parent's home which is already 2 years now. I understand that in the initial stages it was very difficult but now they have grown up so it is a little easier. I am very depressed at home as I really miss my wife and children around me. I live with my parents, but we have totally seperate quarters.

My wife always made excuses that she cant manage on her own. I am prepared to get a domestic worker to assist her with house chores and my parents are also prepared to help.

My parents dont see their long awaited grandchildren for many many months. I always travel on the weekends to visit my children but I really miss them when I am back home. Its really lonely without a wife and children for so long and heartbreaking to leave them. I also became a father after 16 years but have never seen the milestones of my children and how they grew up. Sometimes I actually cry myself off to sleep thinking about my children. My mother always cries and pines for her grandchildren which she was so excited for. I also admire other women who gave birth and returned home and can make an effort to manage. I always wonder how mums with twins managed on their own? My wife did come home for a week when the children were smaller but claimed the house is too small for 3 kids and she can't manage.

Will it be permissible for me to make a second nikah without informing my wife as I dont know how long more she intends staying at her parents house as I am very lonely and depressed.

Informing one's parents that one got married secretly

Q: Me and this guy that I met had been chatting for almost a year. He phoned my parents to ask my hand in marriage and they said no because he has been married twice before. So we got married without them knowing. I had 2 witnesses present and a Moulana did our nikah. It has been 3 weeks since we got married and I am still staying by my parents house. Now I want to run away so I can be with my husband but not sure if I should first tell my parents that I am married or just run away and deal with the stress at a later stage or should I ask for a divorce?

Performing a secret nikaah

Q: I want to marry a girl of my choice.. My mother and father both agreed upon this.. The girl's parents also agreed upon this.. But their will be a gap of a year as they agreed upon. But due to Islamic reasons and due to sins, we want to perform a secret nikaah to stop sins and to have the mercy of Allah SWT.. When the time comes we will perform nikaah before everyone. Pls guide me..

Taking a second wife

Q: I want to do second marriage... I like one lady and I asked my wifes permission many times but failed... She behaves abnormally and said that she will leave home with the kids and will never contact me etc. I want to get married since i like this lady and want to contact her in halaal way but in these conditions, I am so depressed. I never want to lose my first wife and on the other hand, I also dont want to lose my love. Sometimes I think about secret nikah and not declare it but I dont know what to do.

Secret nikaah

Q: I was secretly married to my husband since 2009. Till then I meet him at his home, where his mother also stays but she doesn't have any idea. We enter his home secretly. Sometimes his brother helps us but as it is so many years his mother knows (we believe) I go to their place secretly but doesn't say anything. Is it right for me to continue this act? I am ashamed of it but he is my husband and I can't say no to him. He told me he would marry me soon, may be this year. I need your advice.

Secret nikaah

Q: I have married one and half year ago. I would like to have child, but due to some medical reason my wife cannot conceive. Can I go for second marriage without the consent of my wife?

Secret nikaah

Q: I am Muslim and Sunni woman. Divorced for last 7 years. I have done my Nikkah last year in the presence of two male Muslims witnesses, with a man who supports me in every manner. My family was not involved as being a divorced people don't like remarrying of a woman. We kept on meeting but for last some time I am not getting any job and it seems my Rizq is banned on me, I am afraid that am I in a Haram relation. I have stopped seeing my husband but he's angry with me now. Please let me know what to do. Witnesses were there and man is mature and supportive but I am really scared. I perform all my prayers n tilawat tahajud and other ibadat but no rizq from anywhere. Please pray and advice.

Marital problems

Q: I am so stressed. I want a divorce from my husband but he is not agreeing. We had a secret Nikaah nobody knows about it till now. Now that the situations are worst and I can't continue to be his wife, I asked for divorce but he is not agreeing. Please tell me a wazifa which could help or anything. Please help me in this critical time please. What should I do?

Secret nikaahs

Q: Nowadays, majority of husbands have a single wife with the exception of some. In this situation, how can a woman be asked to tolerate her husband's second marriage. Isn't it a responsibility of the husband to inform her prior to the marriage of him entering into another marriage so that she can choose to marry him or not?