Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: My family are trying to set me up as a marriage proposal to my second cousin but he is a salafi. Is there anything I need to know before trying to move forward with this?

Q: If I have married someone without my father's permission, is it valid? There were people who were present during the marriage but I don't know them. Hanafi mazhab allows it but in Tirmidhi, its against this type of marriage. Why is it? What should I do now if I got married like this without knowing. Should I get married with him again with my father's permission?

Q: I was married before and have a son who was born within my marriage and now I am divorced and would like to remarry. However I have no relationship at all with my eldest brother who supposed to be my wakeel, as he does not acknowledge me and he even calls me a Kaafir infront of people. He always insults me infront of others. He does not greet me back when I greet him and he is also someone that had been for hajj and prays 5 times a day. He is my fathers eldest son from his first wife and I am the youngest daughter of the 2nd wife. Both my mother and our father passed on. My question is if I would like to get married, do I need his permission since I have already been married, as I am trying to be the better person but he does not allow me to as I have now decided to keep my distance from him.

Q: I'm a twenty two year old female, and I have met someone I am ready to get married to. Alhamdulillah he is an Aalim and a qari. My parents, on the other hand don't want to give it a chance. They refuse to even meet him. I don't know what to do because I just have positive thoughts about this. I acknowledge that meeting him out of nikkah was wrong but I just want to make it right. Please advice. 

Q: A Muslim guy approached me and proposed marriage. I explained it to my parents and they asked me to invite him to the house, he told his father but his dad rejected me saying he wants his son to marry a daughter of his friend or else he will disown him. Will I break relation or I pray to Allah to have the guy back or what should I do? I am really confused.

Q: I am in a very difficult situation, please reply to my query. I used to like a boy who was very pious and prayed and used to fast, give charity, help others and pray tahajjud as well. We liked each other and many a times he helped me raise in my iman. He brought the proposal to my parents but my parents refused based solely on the cast system; him being pathan and me being syed. He was earning but not much, but enough for 2 of us. I still liked him and we tried our best to please my parents and seek their approval but all in vain. My parents used to beat me alot till my face used to swell. My brother used to physically molest me. This went on for one and half year. So one day when I feared for my life we went ahead and did nikah as per hanafi fiqh. We had the qazi, and a muslim man (sane adult) at the nikah ceremony. We read our nikah and qazi and another muslim man heard offer and acceptance of the nikah. we declared the nikah infront of our family and friends. Marriage was consummated. Then my parents forcefully brought me back home by making false promises and then they started beating me and strangled me and threatened me to forget the boy or else they will kill both of us. Then after sometime they married me off by pressuring me, to another man who is also a good man but he doesn’t know anything about my past. My family threatened me not to tell. Now few years have passed and I am living with this other man. If I leave, my parents will again beat me and harm me. And emotionally blackmail me that they will lose their reputation if I leave second man. My first husband has never given me talaq nor have I asked for khula. Please help me what should I do? I have kids also with second man what is the status of both marriges? I have always wondered what will Allah will do with me but I still believe what he does is for good. My parents separated me from first man on bases of many lies like my nikah was not valid. Please help me what should I do islamically?

Q: Can a widow's son become her wali for her nikaah if he is baaligh?

Q: I got to know a person with a rare illness who is bedridden for years. I am willing to marry him but my parents consent is doubtful. Can I marry him to help him to protect his chastity? Please advise me on this.

Q: I would like to know, I am separated from my elder daughter's mother, and my daughter lives with the mother. My daughter made nikaah a few days ago, and she used consent from her mother's current husband, although I maintained her all through the years, but when she graduated from university, and started working, she distanced herself from me. There was a proposal for her, which I was informed about, but as time passed, approvals, wedding dates were set by her mother, without consulting me. Subsequently the nikaah happened last Saturday. I was not informed by either her or her mother about the date. I would like to know is it permissible for her to use her mother's current husband as a person to give consent for the nikaah?

Q: My father cannot be present for my nikaah due to his age and difficulty in travelling. How will he still serve as my wali and how will procedures of nikaah be?