Customary practices

Q: Is one allowed to play nasheeds on one's wedding or when the bride enters, to play a nasheed at that time?

Q:

1. When a couple is newly married and they come home, the groom's sister cleans the legs of both the groom and bride and then they are allowed to go to their room. Kindy explain the Shari'ah ruling.

2. Is there any ruling to clean only the bride legs?

Q: When people in my family get married, they normally make a big thing with the groom. They splash him and throw food on him and make a big noise. This is before the nikaah. When he gets married then they trouble the couple and on the first night they peep and other things.

Would this be emulating kuffaar? I hate participating in this, but they force me to and get angry when I don’t participate and really give it to me. How should I combat this?

Q: A grown-up man has the financial ability to maintain his wife and family and he is eager to marry. But his parents want him to marry later after being more established. Then the man married a grown-up lady without informing his parents. the man earns enough money to maintain his wife. But now he and his wife are living separately because of his parents. His wife is very sad for this condition. In this situation what should the man do? Should he continue living like that apart from his wife? If he wants to live with his wife maybe he will have to leave the house of his parents and live separate from them.

Q: What is the Islamic ruling on dating? Will there be any difference in the ruling if the boy and girl are engaged and intend to get married in the future?

Q:

1. I have been in a secret nikaah for 10 years. As such, we didnt do walima. My immediate family now know about my nikaah. Is it possible to do a walima so long after a nikaah?

2. Also, according to my husband he says that because I'm a secret wife, I have no right to inheritence according to Islam. Kindly confirm/clarify.

3. I must point out that 5 years ago, his first wife learnt about us. She was devastated but wanted to meet me. She has accepted his nikaah to me but insisted that the nikaah must still be kept a secret and set specific rules for us. So...is our nikaah still a secret one and is it justifying for her to set such rules and ask that the nikaah still be kept a secret?

Q: If a woman gets divorced, keeps it a secret, and then gets married again secretly. Her second marriage is done without her guardian but in the presence of two witnesses and it is not announced.

After some time, she reveals this secret only to her children. They keeps this secret for almost 8-9 years because the children are afraid and their parents constantly tell them to hide it. After those years of stress and frustration, their children reveal all this.

I have heard somewhere that hiding your marriage is actually commiting zina. I want to know if the couple is subjected to the hadd punishment and this includes her children too as they were hiding too all this time although they did not want to?

Q: I would like to know if I could talk to a non mahram for the purpose of a secret marriage as my first wife will not agree to my 2nd marriage and is asking for a divorce if I marry a 2nd wife so hence i am considering a 2nd marriage.

Q: Some people say that nikah should not be performed in between the months of the two eids, i.e. the months between eid ul fiter and eid ul adha. Is there any basis for this in shariah?  

Q:

1. What is the ruling on doing an engagement party? Is it permissible in Islam?

2. Is it permissible to attend an engagement party if there is no music and ring exchange ceremony and it is just a party?