Various masaail of Nikaah

Living away from one's husband

Q: I am married to a man whose hometown is 200km away from mine. He was working abroad so he promised me not to separate me from my parents before our marriage. Now he came back to our country and started a business. He stays at his home. But I still stay with my parents as they are old and sick. I am their only daughter. They don't want to let me go to my husband. I am a teacher so, I go to my husband's house only on Saturdays and Sundays. We are married for 3 years and don't have children yet. Is it good to stay away from my husband as I need to look after my parents? Is it permissible? 

Wife working in one country and husband in another

Q: I got a job in the Maldives. So I moved to the Maldives with my husband and children. Now my husband got a job offer in the Gulf. He is willing to go probably in the next month or so. As per rules I need to complete 3 month notice period then only I can go back to my homeland. Is it allowed in Islam, if I stay abroad for 3 months without husband in the Maldives and then return.

Note: The children will be with me when my husband leaves and I have been staying in the Maldives for the last six months.

Fear of getting married

Q: My parents want me to get married but I don't want to. I am 22 years old and in all these years I saw horrible fights and extra marital affairs surreal stuff like that and they always blame me for their unsuccessful marriage. I am not mentally stable. I get suicidal at times such that I can't control. If I get married, how can I take care of my children when I can't control myself?

Whenever the topic of marriage comes, it's killing me when I think about all those years of fights. I can't take any sort of torture. I am unable to convince my parents. I instead end up yelling at them which I don't want to. I do read Quran but as soon as something regarding marriage comes up, I get those attacks again. I don't know what to do. How can I get over this situation.

Choosing not to get married

Q: I am young. I am physically and sexually fit. I do my hard exercises on a daily basis. I have a job and I earn (halaal). I try to give most of my time in worship. Now, the matter is that I don't want to marry, I just want to live my life as single till death. What should I do?

Returning one's dowry after getting married

Q: Alhamdulillah, twelve years back, I got married. At the time of marriage my intention was not to take any jahez (dowry) but one of my parents asked for basic materials like bed, furniture, house hold items (not big items). My intention is now to return the amount spent on those items to my father-in-law. 

My question is: Can I give my father-in-law the suitable amount? Shall I ask my parents about this? Or is it not required because the above items will be the milkiyat (owner) of my wife?

Choosing not to get married

Q: Is that person sinful who does not marry in this world if he/she does not find someone as relgious and God fearing as him/her in this world and wants to remain unmarried to marry somone very pious/God fearing in the Hereafter because a more religious/God fearing person will have better rewards in Paradise and would share them with his/her partner.

Breaking up a marriage

Q: If you see the signs of the curse of Allah Ta'ala on someone where they are unable to make duaa and you know he isn't a good person but hides it and pretends, what do the teachings say in breaking up his marriage and removing the wife from this ordeal?