Nafaqah (Financial support)

Husband asking the wife to pay towards purchasing the child's nappies

Q: My son is 3 years 5 months. My husband is telling me to potty train for few months. I am not training him due to the fact that I trained my first one at this age and he messed napaak everywhere.  I told my husband I will try this month to train him and he told me if his not trained then I will have to pay a portion for his nappies. I feel very hurt as he buys vape and uses which is a high expense too. I want to know is this Islamically correct for him to tell me that I should contribute?

Husband not taking care of the needs and expenses of his wife and children

Q: I am a working woman and married. Both me and my husband are working in respectable jobs. I handle my own personal expenses from day one of marriage and have never asked for pocket money from my husband. 

I have two children aged 1 year and 1 month. My husband refuses to help in the my children's financial needs. Both of them are on formula milk and their combined expenditure is around 80000 which I am solely bearing along with my own expenses. 

My husband's income is more than me. He refuses to contribute even half. Alhamdulillah, I am managing but my question is what are the rights of such a husband/father over his wife and children if he refuses to contribute even 50 percent financially if he has more than enough money. What are the faraiz and instructions for the mother/wife in such a case who despite being married is living like a single mother?

Being patient in one's condition

Q: My wife and I are both working and we are together trying to make our lives better. I am from Pakistan and I am not earning too much like I can take care of them strictly speaking but I can't save any money. We have 1 kid and another on the way In Sha Allah.

Together we are trying to save money but my wife insists that it's my responsibility to take care of the house which I admit. However I'm afraid that I alone cannot keep up our way of life or have any savings and even get our own house (I am living with my parents in joint family). She keeps saying this and it hurts me a lot since I only asked for a portion of her salary which I use to spend on her and the kids and still it makes me feel like a villain and being reminded again and again.

I need your guidance about this problem.