Advice

Getting married to save oneself from sin

Q: I have a question about zina. For example there is a man named Adnan and a woman named Fatimah. Fatimah calls Adnan and asks him to come over. Now Adnan is scared he might to do zina with her. So he ejaculates without a partner. Is ejaculating worse then zina or would the sin had been lessened if he had gone to her? And also Adnan isn't capable to get married so was it ok for him to ejaculate without a partner from the intention of saving himself from doing zina? Of course it isn't permissible to ejaculate without a partner (istimbaat fil yad) but was it ok for him to do it that one time to save himself from zina? Should he have made sabr or was it ok for him to do that?

Marital problems

Q: I would like to go for a fasagh. As I am not happy and is afraid of my husband. He hurts me emotionally and physically. I am his second wife and most of the time he is with his first wife. We share a son together and he hardly has time for him. He has four other kids from his first wife and spends more time with them which hurts me as I can see the yearning in my sons eyes to spend time with his father as he is only three. I have embraced Islam almost 4 years ago and I have too google my religion as my husband does not salaah or even teaches my son. I don't know what more. He has never lifted his hands to me before but ever since he went on drug with the first wife he treats me and my son crap and hurts me. What can I do. I need help desperately. I have never went to the hospital or logged a case against him. I work and he sits at home.

Marital problems

Q: I have been married for three years and have two babies. My husband is abusive, drinks and might be having affairs as well. He says he wants this marriage to work but I can't live in Pakistan being born from UK as he takes advantage of me there. People say he is mad as the way he behaves makes my life very very hard to compromise. He has bipolar and shouts and fights without any real reasons. Please I would love him to be normal again. What should I do or read?

Cheating on one's wife

Q: I cheated with my wife by sleeping with another women. My wife came to know about it. She says if I say it's true then she wants talaaq. Should I lie to her that it's not true and continue with our marriage or should I tell her the truth.

Correcting one's intention

Q: I was wondering what would happen if a person for example buys a book with riya, but then makes tawbah and then uses it sincerely for only Allah Ta'ala? What happens in these situations when someone tries to follow Deen but he has corruption in his intention but later fixes it. Will he get reward for it?