Controlling one's desires
Q: Can I use drugs to lower my sexual desires?
Advice
Stray thoughts
Q: I have a problem, a big problem. Inside my head/heart I always have a whisper that is very wrong if said using my mouth. The whisper is like it is easier if we don't need to do ghusl like others, whisper like ghusl is a burden. It happens in my head. Afterwards, I quickly do istighfar and say Lailaha ilallah muhammadur Rasulullah. I am afraid. I know its very wrong if I said that with my mouth and can be kufr.
Not having any inclination towards the girl one's parents have chosen for one
Q: I'll try to keep this short and sweet. My family is originally from Pakistan and very cultural. My parents are currently trying to get me married as well. My mother claims that she performed Istikhara a year ago for a marriage proposal to her sisters daughter and had a dream where she was at their house celebrating. I on the other hand feel very uncomfortable with this relationship and prefer another woman that I have brought to my moms attention as well. On one hand I can go with my choice and disappoint my parents, or I can go with their choice and regret it myself. Do you have any guidance in the issue?
Whispers of Shaitaan
Q: I gave two goats for my sons Aqiqa. When the first goat was slaughtered I was ok while when the second one was being slaughtered my inner voice was saying that this Aqiqa should not be accepted by Allah. I am really in a problem and doubt as I don't know whether the Aqiqa of my son would be accepted by Allah. Please advise.
Premarital relationships
Q: I do not know what to do. There was a boy and we were interested in marriage to each other. He was willing to speak to my father and planning on getting married soon insha Allah. Due to a certain fear, and doubt I have put in his mind he is now not willing to go ahead. I am shattered as its the first time I have been through this. We are really interested in one another and I would still like to marry him. With regards to our istikhara, we have both read at the same time, though with different results. He is a bit stubborn too. What do I do in this situation?
Shaitaani whispers
Q: I did a great deal of sins and I did many many big sins but now I want to repent. So I repented and felt happy but recently I masturbated while thinking of my aunt and two of my female teachers but now I have realized my sin and I repented and I have promised Allah that I will never repent this sin again but sometimes i feel like Allah wont forgive me or he didnt forgive me. I cried and sincerely repented but sometimes i feel bad so what is it? Is it shaytan? And what are the signs that Allah really forgave me?
Touching one's sister with lust
Q: Two years ago I was sixteen and my sister was fourteen and we lived abroad and due to expensive accommodation we lived in a one bedroom apartment. So me and my sister slept on two mattresses but shared one blanket and one night I touched her breast but she was wearing clothes. But the same happened when we shared one bed and I was twelve and she was ten. But now I am extremely guilty of what I did and recently I prayed for forgiveness and felt satisfied and repent seriously and ever since that point I never looked at my sister from a negative angle. So now I want to know I can't definitely tell it to anyone so it okay to repent seriously to Allah and plus when I was twelve was I innocent because I don't remember that I had wet dreams then. So now what to do?
Taking care of one's father
Q: My father had a stroke and now has disabilities that require full time care even though he can still walk. The retired wife refuses to look after him. I am his child and married who works full time. What do I do? Put him into care or leave the job then I won't have money to pay the bills. The other siblings also are not willing to help. My father was a religious good man who was a committee mosque member.
Family problems
Q: My question is should I attend the family wedding or not because my husband has a problem with the uncle who's daughters getting married and my husband is very stubborn and telling me not to go because he wants to hold a grudge not me. It is very close family my aunty (mums sisters daughters wedding) Also because of this reason he tells me and children are not to go to their house either, please advise what should I do? Attend so that I don't upset my family or not go then I will face many questions why. My aunty and uncle are trying to make peace but my husband just will not listen to anyone as he does not like the uncle and his intentions from the past and because or an argument since 15 years ago. I have to face this all the time and if the uncle and aunty are at other weddings. He tells me not to go their either. Should I still attend other function he tells me not to go even though it's close family? Please urgent reply.
Living with a Hindu
Q: I did Nikah with a Hindu man already married and having 2 children. We loved each other and having partnership business. But he has not believed in Allah and the Prophet Muhammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). I had been making dua for his hidayat for having a lawful life in future. But today after 6 months of nikah he repeated 3 times the word, Taalaq in anger. Is Talaq happened between us. My doubt is that since he is an unbeliever, so there had been no valid Nikah took place and hence no Talaaq as well. Kindly put light on to this. I really do not want to have any illusion on the cost of my imaan. Allah will reward you brother for your kind job. Please reply.