Advice

Q: I am a female 23 years of age. In my life there is a boy I want to marry with good intentions. Right now he is responsible to look after his family as he doesn't have father. My parents are insisting with me to do marriage with another person for which I am not ready at all. I have done istekhara so many times its positive always. But the condition of life is too tough now either to listen my parents or wait for the person whom i like. He likes me too. I again did istekhara asking Allah Ta'ala to guide me either to wait or move with other proposal. Subhan Allah I have dreamt that I should wait for the guy which was a clear indication from Allah Ta'ala. Please suggest me what should I do according to this situation after seeing istekhara. An early reply would be apprecitated. The boy I like he is now trying for a job so it may take some 2 or 3 years till he completes his responsibility. Should I take a decision based on istikhara? What should I do please suggest me something better.

Q: Here in the UK if people want to watch TV they have to pay for a TV license. The thing is I have a problem with my eyesight and people with disability only have to pay half of the price for the TV license, so years ago when I was a child my dad put the TV license in my name so we only have to pay half the price, so its in my name and the money comes out of my bank account so does that mean I get gunaah for it being in my name and paying for it and also do I get gunaah for all those people in the house who watch TV? I never chose to have it in my name. My patents made the choice when I was a kid and i only found out when I was older. What should I do?

Q: I was reading salaah and just as I completed a thought occurred to me how people could claim to be God. I wondered how it was so easy for them to have uttered "I am God" while wondering I fear I might have subconsciously uttered those words due to lack of paying attention to my thoughts. I fear I might have committed a form of shirk unintentionally. I am panicking because I don't want to lose my Imaan. Please advise.

Q: I hope you are fine Insha Allah. My question is about my husband. I have three kids and Alhamdulilah 7 years of marriage. I am a muslim Alhamdulilah, my husband also belongs to muslim family. After marriage I have come to know that he doesn't like Islam. Whnever I talk related to islam he gets annoyed and says to me you can take divorce. My question is in this situation I have to leave my husband? I am also a mother of 3 small kids. I waited 7 years that Insha Allah Allah give him hadayat. According to Islam is thiss ok to live with that person who didn't respect Islam. I hope you will understand my question and waiting for your reply.

Q: I am very worried. I have been married for four and half years. Recently my husband has been talking about separation and does not want to come home. I have tried talking to him but he does not say anything. Please advise.

Q: My name is Asad. At times I feel depressed of my wrong and think that I am actually an "Asad of my nafs or an "Asad of sin." However, I want to be an Asad of Allah Ta'ala. Please advise if it would be appropriate to change my name to 'Asadullah.'

Q: My wife makes my seven year old child sleep with her daily for the last two years. I keep asking her to not to make him sleep in my place but she ignores this. Due to this situation, we are only able to get intimate once every two months. Please tell us your recommendation for us.

Q: I love a guy and he loves me too. Our parents know about it but my father has no problem. Even his family likes me. Only my mom has a problem with our relation. I did ishtekhara even my mom did and the answer was yes. How do I convince my mom. Please give me some wazifa. I can't live without that guy. I feel like committing suicide.

Q: The problem with my mother is 13 years ago she was operated for left side breast cancer. She had undergone chemo 6 cycles and radiotherapy. Now since past 6 months she complained about the pain in her left side chest and drastic weight loss, the pain was excruciating and after multiple diagnosis and biopsy the Doctor's concluded that her breast cancer has re-occurred and spread to the lungs and part of the liver, there is no other symptom other than the pain, fatigue and weight loss. The allopathic Doctors have said that chemo would aggravate the situation and might make her bed ridden, moreover we are not in the favor of allopathic treatment as we have seen her suffering years ago. Hence we approached ayurvedic doctor and to add to my problem he mixed some medicines in cow's urine and prescribed to take on empty stomach. My mother never misses her prayer, recites quran, reads surah baqrah daily and I give her ruqya water on empty stomach. The fact that she has to drink the urine early morning is killing me though she does not know about anything of this. Kindly help. I don't want to go against Allah and his Rasool (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and treat my mom. If there is shifa in it I would surely go ahead and give it to my mom. And how can Allah Ta'ala put shifa in such a filth. I have full faith in Allah and hence reluctant to go ahead with the medication.