Advice

Q: I am a student and I am 22 years. Alhamdulilah I am a Muslim, but I am in a distant relationship with a Bosnian girl via Skype. I have promised her to marry her while I was putting my hand on the Quran, and since that day and I'm committing haram!(naked, kissing...) despite the distance between us. I am seduced. I know it is haram this kind of relationship and it is not like that to get married in Islam, I feel confused, I want repentance. Wallahi I regret everything. She is also Muslim. I thought her much good but also bad things and habits. I try to avoid her as much as possible this last months so that I don't commit more sins, I seek solution for all this to stop. Wallahi I do not know how to do it. I don't have the knowledge in Islam. I already asked a Sheikh but none answered me. I do not question Imams here because I want to be anonymous and I don't want to unveil my sins because when Allah doesn't unveil them, I mustn't unveil them according to hadith. Tell me what to do, I have always loved and she loves me but I'm ready to leave her to earn Jannah and satisfaction of Allah but I certainly do not want to destroy and be responsible for her bewilderment or sadness.

Q: Please give me something to read to become calmer when meeting with people. I usually become very nervous and my hands start burning.

Q: Many people justify long working hours or giving far more hours to work than they give to Taleem, Dhikr, Salaah, Qur'an recitation, Dawah, Majalis, Khidmat of Deen etc by saying the following: "It's a Shar'i command to earn and we have to live in this world." Is this correct?

Q: My problem is I am suffering from male impotence, is there a wazifa for curing this problem, please let me know.

Q: What causes a person to go through difficulty that earns no rewards because I am experiencing that and I am trying to reform?

Q: Who has more rights on a man, his wife or his mother?

Q: When a non-Mahram comes to my house accompanied by a Mahram, I shouldn't go and greet them right? Like two of my female cousins and my aunt. I shouldn't go to greet them, correct? Especially if one doesn't follow Islamic etiquette?

Q: I have a son who is married. He and his wife both live with us for the last 6 years since marriage. Mashallah they have three beautiful children aged 4, 3 and 1. My son is always arguing and shouting at his mum but she is forgiving. The daughter in-law when asked to discuss issues always starts shouting at both of us saying we gang up on her. I have told them any person that shouts parents and does not listen to them and is not considerate with their parents the doors of hell are open. Am I right?

Q: I suffer from doubts and may have OCD so it makes it very hard for me to make decisions and know what thoughts to listen to. I have always wanted to be doctor and my parents have wanted that too. I was a little unsure lately and I heard that you can make istikhara and it will guide you. I am only in grade 11 right now and I don't have to apply for universities till next year. 1) Should I do it now and then see how it all works out? 2) I have heard that if you go ahead with the action you are seeking guidance for and there isn't any obstacles than it was meant to be but if there is then you should know it wasn't meant to be, I suffer from doubts all the time so making this distinction would be very hard for me. 3) Does that mean like if I failed a test or do bad in a class I shouldn't try to be a doctor anymore. 4) or I don't get into a program at one university but get into another since I didn't get into the first one I shouldn't do it? 5) I have always thought I would be a doctor, so if something like this happens and I still have a feeling like being one, what do I do because I have lots of troubles making decisions because of I am doubtful 6) Is there any way to stop these doubts?

Q: I am having a lot of difficulties with my boyfriends father. He does not approve us being together and he keeps on threatening to tell my family and shame me in our community by saying bad things about me. He is threatening my boyfriend that if he does not leave me he will make our lives very difficult. I think he does a wazeefa as he had dreams about our relationship. We have kept our relationship a secret and only a few of my friends know who have no contact with his father or our community. Can you please help me and tell me if there is anything I can do to make him stop and for him to leave us alone.