Advice

Q: Last year, my girlfriend became pregnant. I tried to make things right by making Nikaah (I did not make Nikaah immediately). Unfortunately, things got complicated and I think under the influence of her mother and family members, she wants nothing to do with me and doesn't allow me to see my child. In fact, she has taken out a court injunction against me so I cannot make any contact with her or the child or else I will go to prison on the premise that if I see the child she fears that I will abduct the child and take the child to Pakistan. Her family is adamant that they do not want me to have anything to do with her or the child! I have tried to talk in an amicable manner with her but to no avail. I have not seen her or the child for about 3 or 4 months now. I send things for the child via a third party. I wanted to know Islamically, what can I do about this? What advice can Hazrat give me? Do I divorce her? How can I get to see my child again? I am aware that I have made a terrible mistake and I have asked Allah for forgiveness but I am struggling inside. My heart is burning because I cannot see my child.

Q: I recently got married to a man I thought I knew. But I have found out he is not the person I thought he was. He will chat different women on social medias. It used to bother me then. I got over it and tried to over look. For the past two months I was happy and we never argued as he continued doing what he always does. Then the other day he put a picture of him and a woman he met on social sites on his whatsapp. I couldn't believe my eyes. Me and him come from the same circle I felt really ashamed like he could do such a thing. When I confronted him he told me that's his page he can put what he wants. This really got me angry because I felt he has disrespected me. I decided I can't deal with him and just to ask for a divorce. My question is will my reason be valid or I will be committing a great sin. I don't want a divorce but he is pushing me to call it quits.

Q: I have a friend whose studying ilm. She is a Muslim. She has a loving family and loving friends. Everyone in her life cares for her very well but she is still not contented. She always has fears. She randomly starts crying. She sometimes sees things behind her. Yesterday she saw a black cat behind her but there was nothing there. She does all her amaal. She reads her morning and evening duas and manzil too. She feels like she is possessed by a jinn but she is not sure. She has no fear of running away or committing suicide. She only hasn't done anything yet because I've stopped her. She acts happy and fine in front of her family, teachers and classmates but when she is with her friends she gets a chance to express herself. She wants to be fine and normal and wants to get treated but she can't tell her mum because her mum is very sensitive. She'll probably slap her or sit in a corner and cry and her dad is the same as well. Can you please send me some duas for her heart's contentment and to escape from fear! Can you please tell me how to get rid of the jinn if she is possessed! Can you please help me!

Q: I wronged a disbeliever in a non-Muslim country and was thereafter fined quite a lot of money (the money went to the disbeliever). The disbeliever has not forgiven me so far. If the disbeliever dies without forgiving me, is it possible that Allah Ta'ala may not punish me in the hereafter for wronging the disbeliever by telling me that I was already punished in the worldy life (by being fined)?

Q: I have a friend who reverted recently. He's a native African who's been separated from his mother for a long time. She's said to have this "calling" to be a "sangoma" which in his terms is a medium for communication with spirits. He says the "spirits" now worry him and he sees them. What should he do? Is this even possible since we cannot see the jinn? And if its not jinn then it can be nothing else right? But his mind is playing tricks on him right? I did advise Ayatul kursi and Suratul naas.

Q: My husband was forced to divorce me due to my not conceiving and his parents never accepted me due to past history. I was finding it difficult to conceive and they made my husband divorce me. He didn't carry out with it however we knew it would be inevitable that he will remarry a girl from India or through the marriage sites that his parents will be advertising on. During the 'separation' I conceived subahanallah and naturally. However they in the meantime did find a girl that accepted to marry him and his parents and him promised marriage to the yateem girl from India. Now that I am pregnant which he was always hoping I would just fall pregnant his parents are not allowing him to be with me as they are furious that we lied and kept seeing one another. My husband wants to know if it is wrong to refuse a yateem girl's marriage after promise had been made and to call it off against his parents wishes and want to know how does he seek forgiveness for deceiving his parents.

Q: What does the shariah say about "swinging", "swinging couples" which we now see is creeping slowly into our own Muslims in S.A.? What if both partners give permission and are happy with it?

Q: I have a 3 year old son. He was a shy child but now he has become very active. He plays so hard that he hurts himself and even becomes very angry and stubborn at times. I am 38 weeks pregnant and at home to take care of my child. Please give me a dua to calm my child and help to teach him to share and behave well.

Q: I just wanted to know if it permissible to go to Moulanas who give you taweez to wear with Quraan written on it? Or if they give you water to drink/ taweez to burn in your room at home? Like in SA we have lots of Moulanas that “treat” people this way. Is this allowed? NB: the Moulanas perform salaah, do not do anything that would be shirk etc. How do we know who is legit or not?

Q: All my good deeds done all my life are wasted due to wrong intention "raya kari". Satan is playing with me real hard. He makes me remember all my good deeds and disturbs my sincerity. Is there anyway I can get those deeds back? Can I be forgiven? How to avoid this attack? It comes again and again? Whether it's faraz ibaada or nafil. He hits on my intention and succeeds.