Advice

Q: I am going for umrah in April and I have recently been getting a lot of hate at school. When should I make the dua that I can get my friends to like me again?

Q: I would like to know if it is permissible to make istikara if you are still dating someone with the intention of going for a proposal. Are we supposed to read the istikara before? Or after the proposal?Can istikara be read before without a proposal? Just to know if that person is meant for you and no families have been involved.

Q: My brother's daughter has left home to be with a Christian man of the same age (21). This has brought great shame on her parents and despite pleading with her to stay, she left the family home. Until now she was very obedient but now she says she has no belief in Islam and does not want to be a Muslim. It pains us to hear this from her and her parents have made a decision to disown her. Her father has told us all that if we have any contact at all with her we will also be disowned. She is now living in a very poor and sad situation, missing her family but not wanting to return to the life of religion she had before. My question is how should we all, as a family, deal with this? It has torn her parents apart who have decided that in order to continue to please Allah they must not see their daughter any more. They have demanded her siblings end contact also. If she continued her relationship are they right to behave in this way? Or should there be contact and support in the hope she may return. If this man converts to Islam should she then be accepted back? Please advise - nobody knows what is for the best for this confused young lady. Surely Allah must judge for her sins and we must show compassion in the meantime.

Q: I'm feeling a bit depressed right now. I realized I have been committing a sin called eaves dropping a lot and I had forgotten about it during this whole time. I also have done a lot of looking inside of other peoples houses not on purpose though. I feel very depressed and I know that you can't lose hope in Allah but I'm already at the stage when you do durood that you get cursed back (I feel worse when I do durood). What am I supposed to do when a lot of these things are not repairable. (I don't remember everyone that I have done this to). I am also in a difficulty where I am not being able to do Salaah,(mental disability called psychosis). I have black magic being done on me all the time. My is mind and my knowledge is getting messed up and rectification is extremely difficult.

Q: I have found some YouTube websites for ruqya recitation on marriage issues and problems. Please can you advise me the best one to stablize the marital life with love, peace, harmony as much as possible and also that what time of the day and how many times in a day or week should we listen to the recitation of it.

Q: If a woman doesn't love her husband and her husband doesn't care for her and there is no reason to hold on to the relationship (no children) and the husband is lazy and there is no compatibility and she is not happy with her husband, what should she do? Is she forced to be with him in Islam?

Q: My husband drinks alcohol and me being a doubtful person feels that when he drinks my whole house and anything he touches will be impure. Like pillow etc if he drools after drinking. I keep cleaning the whole house and its very stressful for me giving me very wrong thoughts at times. Even if I have to wash an alcohol glass which I keep separate in the sink, I feel the whole sink is impure and I keep cleaning it and the side areas. Please help me it's driving me crazy as I feel everything has become impure including utensils ill wash in the same sink. Please help. My life is getting ruined and I'm having very wrong thoughts.

Q: I need some guidance. Every time I complain to my husband about his family's injust behaviour, he doesn't accept even though he knows that they are wrong. My husband doesn't say anything, not even one single thing that why do they do like this? If they hurt me, disrespect me, to whom should I complain? All the time my husband gives reasons of his own workload and then in the end he complains to my family that I'm against his family and I'm disturbing him. My family can't interfere so they consider me wrong. If I directly complain to my father-in-law, he doesn't accept that they can be wrong. f I avoid going to them, my husband doesn't accept. As a human being, if I find all doors closed for me, what can I do then? Doesn't that damage me?

Q: I can't seem to get over my wife's infidelity. This happened a year and few months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and I feel so hurt. My heart can't bare it. What can I do to get over this. I'm still with her and she is repenting for her sins. Is there a dua that will help me.

Q: Can my good deeds, charities, prayers and every ibaadah be accepted if my intention is only for Allah but my sincerity is weak? Due to satanic whispering and other distractions? Thanks.