Advice

Q: My question is that if someone backbites someone, then he wants to repent from this sin, then he'll have to ask forgiveness from that particular person for his towba to be accepted, because it is from huqooqul ibaad. But on the other hand to cause azia harm to a muslim brother is a sin also. So when he asks forgiveness from that particular person who he backbited, then he will be harmed by the fact that he did not know that he made gheebat of him before but now he knows so will be hurt by this news, as it happened to me a few days ago that a friend of mine who i used to have husne zan with he came to me asking forgiveness because he had made gheebat of me so I was hurt by this news. Even though I tell him not to tell me if he makes gheebat of me and that I have forgiven him for all that and what you may do in the future he still comes every second day asking forgiveness for his backbiting just because someone told him that its the only way to make towba. So is it the right way and isn't he making a bigger mistake by causing harm to me every second day by this amal?

Q: I have been listening since childhood that no matter what, we have to respect our mothers. But what if the mother is characterless? My mother secretly met a man and had very dangerous plans with eloping with him. I somehow came to know this and informed my father. My father spoke to her but she is not willing to stay back and marry the other man. How can I respect such a mother? She has no affection towards her children also. I have been suffering a lot past few months. Please guide me.

Q: A woman is married for 10 years. She claims to have fallen out of love with her husband. They have one child – who is still an infant. The husband feels that they should stay together, especially in the interests of the child. What recourse does the woman have in attaining a divorce? What should the role of the parents be? (on both sides).

Q: My husband downloads porn and explicit videos on the phone and ipad. I hate it and I am very unhappy. I feel insufficient and not good enough for him.

Q: Can I give my money to someone whom I may fear that he/she might use it to harm me? Either through bewitchment, spell or through physical harm? And what if he is your relative?

Q: My question is how do I keep patient with my husband who's always ill. He is Young in age yet he's unable to keep me happy in so many ways. We have children together but he does not show me any affection love or support. His family do not support me with anything either, neither do my family support me. I feel very alone and depressed, most days I do not want to continue living with him, what do I do?

Q: I am an 18 year old boy. I m 5ft 7inch tall. I got a strong muscular body and I am a very active boy. The problem starts when I am in school. I feel so shy that I can't even participate in different activities. Can't give my opinion in debates. Can't ask the miss a question if the class is quiet. Can't play sports because I think what others may say about me and I am a very timid boy in school. My friends are boys and I can't even mix up with them too. Socially my worth is nothing. Sometimes I look at people who are not good like me (I am not being proud but I am just saying)  even they are confident and make the class lively. Please help me out with this. Sometimes I feel so sad and depressed that I don't have many friends because of shyness and can't do what I want to do. Shyness has cost me a lot. Please send me a dua or something which will make me confident and will boost my self esteem. I don't like talking to girls neither I want nor I will but I can't even ask them about homework or just anything about studies or anything related to studies. I feel like my face is ugly so people don't want to talk to me and my friend often tells me that I got a handsome face. Its not about the face but when no one talks to me I feel like isolated and weird. Please help me.

Q: I have been constantly losing my belongings. I lost my diamond wedding ring, a couple of precious stones off my jewellery and have lost two cell phones now. I am wondering if there is some sort of dua that I can recite to help keep my belongings safe and protect me from any sort of nazar and black magic that may be associated with this.

Q: I have trouble getting over my wifes affair. I am trying so hard to get past it and I can't seem to forget. Im still with her but its so hard on me. I just can't believe she has done this. I know I must forgive and I have forgiven but I just can't move forward. What must I do?

Q: My husband keeps getting upset and stops talking to me for 3/4 days if I don't sleep with him in bed when I am in my priod. It's been happening for 15 years. I have explained to him so many times. One month if he improves then the next month he is worse. Please help out with any dua or prayer I can do to stop and understand him. If I don't let him have what he wants then he will get angry and stop talking to me from morning. It takes him at list few days or until I get better.