Advice

Q: What is the solution for negative thinking, inferiority complex, drowsiness, irritation?

Q: Is it recommended for children to obey parents in marriage as they are opposing the children?

Q: I am 27years old going on 28 soon inshallah and am not married and my parents never talked to me about it and I never asked too. My question is that can I ask them why they never said anything to me about it and did they ever try to find someone or should I just keep quite and don't ask because I am really confused and this is upsetting me?

Q: I have one of my known she is a non muslim. She is married and have a kid also. She have asked a question that what should one do if one's husband is not fulfilling his responsibilities like as in he is busy in his job and life busy with gadgets mobile laptops. Now the lady has in laws and her kid to be looked after so ultimately all the responsibility comes on her looking after kid, in laws and managing all household chores and everything related to relatives and all. He doesn't also gives money as per the requirements so that lady has to do job also. I suggested to her to embrace Islam because that is the only way one can get solutions for everything and one can be successful in this life and the life of the hereafter. So I want to have an answer from you so that I can pass on the correct thing to this lady.

Q: I want to discus something very important. My brother wants to marry a girl whose from another country and of a different caste. My parents are not willing. I want some quranic verses so that my brother can agree to marry a girl of the same caste?

Q: Some people are backbitting me and teasing me on my shortcomings and let each other know about my ayaibs, when they meet me this thing hurts me and causes severe pain to my emotions. I am generally a quite person and don't say anything or reply, this is a kind of fitna which I am going through. Please Advise me on this matter.

Q: We have a family doctor who is a female. My wife is satisfied with her treatment. She is qualified and taking care whenever we need. I am also satisfied with her but since she is a female and sits with us in order to administer the treatment when we get sick, and during conversation I have to face her which is hard to avoid, I am hesitating and concerned about the Shari'ah, what it directs us in this matter? Should I find another male doctor or I can continue with her? Please Advise me in this matter?

Q: I am married for 24 years. About five months back I noticed my husband was not controlling his gaze. The situation reached to an extent that I was prepared to leave. My husband has now made taubah and insha allah, has changed his ways. However, I need some advice:

1. I am extremely hurt, how do I overcome this?
2. Many times I feel depressed, especially upon awakening.
3. I suffer with anxiety attacks and headache before going out to places where there will be females around. We live in Madinatul Munawwarah and I find it extremely difficult to go to the haram etc.
4. At times I cannot handle the stress and think of ending the marriage.
5. My husband is trying to be good to me, and I try to hide my feelings from him, however, how do I build the trust in my husband again?

Q: My mother in-law is a non Muslim and is a lesbian, she lives with another woman. I don't allow my 10 year old to sleep over because I don't want to expose her to that life style as I am totally against it. They also use alcohol and I don't like going there is it wrong if I tell my husband I don't want to go with him and that I don't want my children to go there a lot. Shuran for taking the time to read my question. 

Q: I have been married since 2008. During my first year of marriage, my husband hit me, swore me, smashed the wind-screen of my car and used drugs. I went back home for nine months trying to get my talaaqs from the jamiatul-ulema. They said we should reconcile. We did reconcile and I fell pregnant. My husband started using drugs and got hectic, straight after I gave birth, he went to rehab. When he came out, we went for counselling and soon afterwards, I suspected he was using, but he said it was only weed. I fell pregnant again but had a  miscarriage. I refused to go back unless he signs a conditional talaaq valid for six months. In that six months he broke two of the conditions. We then went for marital counselling. He still abuses me mentally and verbally. He doesn't physically abuse me as bad as before. He
just pushes and pulls here and there. I got a faskh granted on this basis from an Imaam who is an Islamic minister at a certain center and began sitting my iddat. Now he says that he has found out from Ulama' that my faskh is not valid. Is my fasgh valid and who can issue a fasgh? I do not want to go back.