Advice

Becoming closer to Allah Ta'ala

Q: I am muslimah who really wants to change my life for the better as I am not a good Muslim right now. But I do not know where to start or when I do try its only for a few days then I'm back to where I started. I try reading more Qur'aan and books and listening to lectures but it seems unfortunately nothing touches my heart. I know my heart yearns to get closer to Allah before it is too late but nothing is happening and I fear I am losing hope which I know is not a good thing. Please advise on what I may do or read?

Haraam fantasising

Q: 

  1. I would like to know what falls under haraam fantasising. What would be regarded as haraam thinking in Islam?
  2. Whenever the subject of jima' (intercourse) comes up then I get a weird feeling in my body and with that a discharge comes out and I feel a need to use the bathroom. Dose this discharge make ghusul waajib. I am very worried about this as I am a 15 year old girl. This also makes me feel that I won't be able to get married because if the topic of jima' (intercourse) comes up and this happens to me then what will happen when I get married. Will I not be able to satisfy my husband and all similar questions. Please advise me on what I should do. I haven't told anyone about this. Please help and advise.

Husband ill treating the wife

Q: A lady is often taunted by her husband on various matters, his favourite taunt is "You are a Jahnami". This upsets her because she tries her best at being a good wife, she does not do anything or go anywhere without his permission, she looks after the family and home, she prays all her salahs regularly and she prays the Quran every day as much as she can, but her husband is never happy and always looks for excuses to embarrass her in front of other people, sometimes he pushes her to the limit, and when she's praying he tells her that she shouldn't bother because non of her ibaadat will be accepted. When she's in sajda, he tells her to stop doing that because she's wasting her time,whilst he does not pray namaz at all. He only goes to pray 1 juma in a month. When she tells him to pray namaz, he tells her to mind her own business. He deliberately makes her look for things that he knows are not there, he will first look in the fridge or the kitchen cupboards to see what food is not in stock, and then later he will ask her to give him that food to eat and if she says it's finished, he starts swearing at her, so she goes to shop to get it and then give it to him, but then he won't eat it because he will say he doesn't want it anymore. She has now had enough and is thinking of leaving him, but before she takes that action, is there anything she can pray, any wazifa that might make him a good husband and make him a namazi?

Shaitaani Khiyalaat

Q: Main bahot pareshan hun. Please yeh pareshani dur karne ke liye koi rasta bataiye. I am 29 year old unmarried man. My problem is that I have negative false thinking. From 6 months I have gay like feelings. My body is reacting like a female. I feel shy to talk with males. I am avoiding males touching me. ek ek din bahot mushkil se kat raha hoon. Mujhe ye female like excitement ki feeling hameshake liye door karne ke liye koi rasta bataiye. meri abhi shadi nahin hui hai.

Honouring one's promises

Q: My husband promised me that if I allow him to marry a second wife he will buy me my own house. We are living with his parents for the past 8 years. I accepted it because I knew that nothing is going to stop him from wanting a second wife and I have lived in his parents house for long a home of our own is something we dreamed of a long time. We started looking at houses same time he was looking for a wife. Any way he got married and after some time he told me that a Moulana told him he can't buy a house for me because if he does he has to buy the same kind of house for his second wife even if she doesn't need it she can rent it out. I know all about equality between wives etc but this promise was made to me before he married her. She has her own apartment which her father bought for her after her divorce. I feel cheated I feel very very very cheated. I don't think our Allah is a oppressor and I feel very oppressed right now. I share a room with my 4 kids. It's not fair on me this can't be fair.

Wazifa for husband to become caring

Q: My question is my husband used to take care of me so much when I came from Pakistan. Now we live together for 4 years with joint family. I have one baby boy and the second one is on the way but now my husband doesn't take care of me nor does he look after me. He sits with his mom and he fights with me. His mom reads and blows on him. Please tell me a wazifa that my husband will take care of me.

Disclosing one's past to the girl one is getting married to

Q: Suppose a boy has committed zina many at times with different girls. But now Allah has made this boy realise that it was very wrong and that boy has confessed for this to Allah and promised not to do it again. That boy is about to get married now. So should that boy disclose this fact to the girl he will be getting married that he has been physical with many girls or not? Because lying is also not allowed in Islam. Please guide me on this.