Advice

Q: What duas can I read and what can I do so my exams become easy? What dua can be read to strengthen my memory?

Q: My husband is working in Jeddah in a telecommunication company for the last 4 years. His job is good but the problem is that he has technical experience and he was recruited for a technical role. After he got recruited he is doing a non technical job for the last 4 years without any promotion and salary increase. He is worried about his future because his technical growth has stopped and he is not getting a technical job offer for the last 4 years. Could you please tell us something to read so that he can get the technical job he wants with career growth. Alhamdulillah both of us try to pray regularly. Please answer my question, I can not see my husband upset.

Q: My husband is talking to another woman. I have seen his messages on his phone and it makes me very uncomfortable. He goes to see her and talks to her everyday. Once I confronted him and he accuses me of asking for a divorce. At times I struggle with this but then I remind myself Allah has a plan for and sabr is the key. This is not the first time he has done this but I forgave him every time but on this occasion I cannot get it out of my head. I say to myself Allah is all seeing all knowing and Allah will show him and better him. But this does not satisfy my feelings. Please help.

Q: I have a few concerns. Recently I went for hajj and decided to change my life. I started praying and observing most of the fundamentals of deen. I recently got involved with a girl with the intention of marriage. We decided to communicate for some time and had met each other. I am however very strict on Deen and did not want to touch her. Through my weakness and the effort of shaitaan, I had committed zina with her. I had slept with her a few times. I am really sad about what I have done. I have repented and did not do this again. I am however still in communication with her because I want to marry her. I understand that I had committed a major sin and defeated the purpose
of marriage. I have also realised that pre-marital relationships before marriage is not allowed and this will take the blessings out of the marriage. I accept my wrong and I know that Allah is the most merciful and will forgive me. I had made taubah that I will not do that sin again. However, I am still  in communication with her preparing to get married. Please understand well what I have said. My questions:

1. Understanding very well that I had defeated the purpose of marriage, what do I do now? I know the correct thing is to get married so I do not fall into this sin again. Because the blessings has been take away now, do I still marry this same women?
2. I accept that I really messed up. I asked Allah to guide me. Since I defeated the purpose of marriage, how do I repair the situation. 
3. Also, if I do marry her does this mean that no blessings will be in my marriage now?
4. What is the solution? Also understand that I cannot just leave the girl and marry another women. I should marry this girl. I have made istikhaarah many times. I just need to know the way forward. Should I marry her or not? Because I already defeated the purpose of marriage. What if I do marry her, then does this mean my marriage will suffer and have no blessings?

Q: I had an argument with a friend of mine regarding some of his Islamic views and now he has decided to cut all links with me because I do not agree with some of his views and beliefs. His first view was of the coca cola company which he says is funding the Israel state which is the biggest enemy of Islam. Being cautious of myself I asked him to prove it and he didn't give out anything saying it was owned by Israel or was started by a Jew and he asked me to consume pepsi products if at all I can't do without coke. We researched this with him and both are American owned firms and not Israeli as he said earlier. Secondly we disagreed on our views about a group of people by the name Alshabab who recently carried out an attack in Kenya and they claim to be using Islamic laws and anyone who disagrees with them is not a Muslim and is put to the sword. He supports them and I am against them by all means because they misuse Islam for their own personal gains. You can all search about them to see what type of people they are if you don't belive me. Now my friend says "I loved you for the sake of Allah but your religious stands on Muslims and Islamic affairs are worth hating and the prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said the one who hates his friends for the sake of Allah will be under the shade of the lord. Today you lost my love untill you change your views on Islam. I may not even greet you when I see you in the street and we should stay away from one another". There is a lot in what he said but I can't say it all here. My question is did I do any wrong by merely disagreeing with his opinions and is the step he is taking towards his views and also me right Islamicaly? What is the next step for me?

Q: I am a married women for 13 years. My husband has been having lots of problem with his erection/sexual problem he has been like that for about 8 years. The doctor can't see a problem and said it could be blood flow problem to his penis and thats why he can't get an erection at all. The doctor has given several medications but no good till one injection they gave did work most of the time but not every time. Its been about years with this problem but now because of all my husbands problem I am very depressed and always got migraine/headache and now its been few months i have negative thoughts like going to sleep with a very close friend of mine and I cant stop my feeling for him now because of my depression. I don't want to think like that but I don't know why I do as I never cheated on my husband and don't want to! But why I am a feeling like that I prey to Allah to help me but I am still losing and bad thoughts are getting deeper? What would my punishment be from Allah if I did go and sleep with another man?

Q: I need your help with something. I am 20 and I share a room with my 17 year old brother. Last night around 3 am I woke up and I saw a tall black hooded figure with his hands together palms touching in front of his chest. He seemed to be looking at my brother while sleeping. What does this mean?

Q: I am muslimah who really wants to change my life for the better as I am not a good Muslim right now. But I do not know where to start or when I do try its only for a few days then I'm back to where I started. I try reading more Qur'aan and books and listening to lectures but it seems unfortunately nothing touches my heart. I know my heart yearns to get closer to Allah before it is too late but nothing is happening and I fear I am losing hope which I know is not a good thing. Please advise on what I may do or read?

Q: 

1. I would like to know what falls under haraam fantasising. What would be regarded as haraam thinking in Islam?
2. Whenever the subject of jima' (intercourse) comes up then I get a weird feeling in my body and with that a discharge comes out and I feel a need to use the bathroom. Dose this discharge make ghusul waajib. I am very worried about this as I am a 15 year old girl. This also makes me feel that I won't be able to get married because if the topic of jima' (intercourse) comes up and this happens to me then what will happen when I get married. Will I not be able to satisfy my husband and all similar questions. Please advise me on what I should do. I haven't told anyone about this. Please help and advise.

Q: 

1. Give me a duaa for my father who is old in age.
2. I have debts
3. My daughter is not well. She always coughs. She is 18 months old.