Advice

Q: Is it wrong for me to stay away from my wife because she will not wear hijab? I told her that she should wear hijab nicely and I encourage her by teaching her how important it is. After I realized that she does not want to change, I stopped seeing her.

Also, before marriage she told me that she would do it. Alhumduallah I have changed a lot since marriage and I don't want to support her sins as I am responsible for it. Since I stopped seeing her, she got upset and now she likes to ignore me at times.

Also is it wrong for her to be very close to and hang out with her male cousins? She also sends them pictures without hijab daily with sweet text messages. I asked her to stop and she won't. 

Q: My neighbour is a 2nd wife and has 2 boys (13 and 15). She lost her older son 2 years ago. She was in pardah but started getting out of control. She brings strange men in her house that take her childrens phones, games, playstation only to mention a few. She is on drugs and started drinking alcohol. She comes home in the early parts of the morning leaving her kids without food most of the time. She swears and shout at them when she is home. I have contacted her family who are good people. All her sisters are in pardah. They are also fed up with her but my concern is the boys.

My question is, from an Islamic point of view, am I allowed to let the child welfare know about this or is it wrong? I just feel these boys will be better off without her because she is traumatizing them. I have spoken to her and she said she dont care about them as this is her life now.

Q: I'm a mum and my daughter went to marry a guy behind our backs and it's her second marriage. We were not happy about it but she says that she's very happy. She only told me this yesterday and her father doesn't even know yet and I'm very worried what he's reaction will be. I have disowned her. Have I done the right thing? There two little grandchildren of mine which I have disowned too and it's hurting me very badly. Please advice. 

Q: I have accepted Islam by saying the shahadah only. I want to practice Islam completely but I am not able to get in it because my family is against Islam very strictly. If I tell them about it, they will not think twice about killing me. I am not scared of dying, my fear is about this that I have not been able to perform salah and I am unable to do such things which are farz for a Muslim. If I died like this, then Allah will punish me alot, this is the reason, I fear death. I tried to explain to my household that they should abandon idol worship, but they became very angry and I did not tell them further about Islam. I am trying to change them for the last 1 year but nothing has happened till now and I have to go to the temples even though I don't want to go with them to do some Hindu rituals. I have some questions for you:

1. Is it justified to leave the house because of this condition for me?

2. I have heard that any person who says "Subhna Allahu wa Bihamdihi" 100 times a day, all his sins will be forgiven?

3. If I die here accidently, before leaving my family, without completely getting in to Islam, will Allah forgive me?

4. According to you, what should I do at this point in my life?

You are welcome if you want to give me more advices regarding to my life. 

Q: I just wanted to know if a girl is pious, has good character and is from a good home, but she is not from the same caste (surti and non surti), is it a good enough reason for my parents to not allow me to marry her?

Q: My niece had a proposal fixed n kept meeting in my house.i ws not well yet i cooperated. But she n her mom came late n the boyside came earlier than scheduled time. my husband had gone for namaz. i panicked when she came it was late n i as a hypoglaemic lost my temper due to hunger attack n told her something loudly in kitchen which were insulting words to the boy which he heard in the hall and broke the proposed engagement.since then i m begging for forgiveness from niece her mother,the boy .offering gold n money n even sawab of my umra but my niece refuses to forgive me n has orderd my sister to break relationship wit me.she curses me n uses bad words n filthy language for me n my innocent girl. What should i do now? I m taking treatment for anger issue. I m feeling very sad and depressed.

Q: I'm a 31 year old Muslim girl. When I was 22, I fall in love and had sexual relations with a boy. I tried to marry him but he ran away. Now I'm getting married to someone my family chose. I'm confused whether I should tell my future husband about my past or not? He is 37 years old.

Q: I am so lazy that I don't feel like going to work or even to go for an interview. I only eat, sleep and pray salah at least once a day and recitation of the holy Qur'an after salah. My parents are worried that if I'm lazy then I won't do anything in life. Please make Dua for me and include my parents in your dua too. I recite often the verse from Surah Ibrahim ayat no 40 & 41. What can I do for my laziness?

Q: I divorced my wife 3 times not in 1 go. We are living in the same house as we have an 8 year old son. Me and my ex wife dont see each other in the house. If she is upstairs I am downstairs and vice versa. Its a rented property. She has said after her iddah she wil move out. Is it ok that we are living in the same house? Will we be sinful? Our son is becoming a hafiz so thats why I have not moved out from here as I wake him up in the morning and sit with him whilst he prays. He is used to being with me. He doesnt learn properly with his mum.

Q: I got married 3 months ago and got to know that my wife got raped when she was 13 and got harrased by her cousins once too. Now I started feeling bad and have a sense of hate for her. What should I do? I love her more than anything. I feel that I should do the same what she did so I could balance out the feelings on both sides.