Advice

Q: My wife was abandoned by her father when she was 15. and then sought by her father again when she was in her 20's. just because of the reason he was sick. Since then he has been regularly taking money from her. Recently he sold the family house and did not give her anything, and moved to another city and bought a house, knowing well that she cannot come to that city often , because it is far and also because of her job. but her father is regualarly pressurizing to come to that city and also regularly taking money from her. I would like to emphasize that he gives the money away which he takes from her and also the money from the sold house he had left over he is constantly giving that away too. This has been going on before i got married to her. she has three children from her previous marriage. Her father has never treated her as a daughter, but only as a source of money.

Now my wifes daughter is sick and her father is telling her to come to his city. In this scenario who should she prefer, her sick daughter (who is 12 years old) or the father. Her father is again blackmailing her that he is sick or something. I would also like to point out that his father also has his wife with him (who is my wifes step mother) and also relatives in that city. But he insist her to come every month and along with giving him money he demands gifts from her.

Also whenever he calls her or when she goes there, he demands from her to get a divorce from me, because i am abroad. This a brief scenario, Am i within my rights in the light of Islam to forbid her to go to him?

Q: I need advice for a girl. Basically she got pressurised into marrying this guy. She didnt really want to get married to him but anyway she married him to make her father happy. Anyway, shes been married a month and she says that she is not attracted to him at all. I think people pressurised her coz his a mufti himself, his dads a mufti and the family are full of aalimahs.

When they first met they put a shart of safeguarding her niqab and her family expected it as the boys family are ulama.Hhowever, from her wedding day, respect was not shown to that as his cousins just freely walked upstairs and went in the same room as her.

Its very cold where she lives so her niqab was getting stuck to her face so her husband goes to her to put a scarf around her face instead. She thought that he is a mufti so she must just listen to him but when she is in some shops he would tell her to take off the scarf from her face and once, he even pulled it down. When they went to eat, she kept on covering her face because of the men but he was laughing at her and was implying that there is no need to cover her face when they go out to eat (like everyones eating and not looking at you).

No one in the family is strict on sharee parda and she fears safeguarding her parda if she moves in with his family. They want her to live in a joint family sytem and it does not seem that living seperate is an option. When she raised the issue about niqqab (this was at the same time when she had told him she was pressurised to marry him), he said this was just a petty masala like she was bringing up an excuse to get out of the marriage and he says that his family are very strict on niqab (which they clearly are not). She doesnt even feel attracted to him. What should she do?

Q: My husband does alot of maintenance work at the masjid. He does not care for his service. But everytime he does something, some of the members says something like it should be done like this not like how you did it. This happens all the time. He is hurting alot. If he stops doing the maintenance, will it be good for him?

Q:

1. I would like to know what is the punishment for a man who does not treat his wives equally?

2. Also a man has taken a second wife. She is a divorcee and her first husband was having an affair with a woman of disrepute. Now the first wife is very concerned about herself with regard to her H.I.V status. Does she have a right to request that the second wife take a test and that she is shown the results before continuing relations with her husband?

Q: Can Allah forgive a person who has committed blasphemy even being a Muslim?

Q: There's a thing that is troubling me a lot. I'm a person who has not much knowledge of Deen and is also stricken with waswas. My waswas were in the form of really complicated questions, about Allah's attributes, whether something is in Quran/Hadith or not, whether this thing is attributed to the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) or not etc. I used to note these down in my phone so that I'd ask someone about these, and that caused the questions to increase that I have this answer in my mind, what if I have done kufr. Then I used to say that Ya Allah if any of this is kufr, forgive me. Is that the right thing to do? Also should I delete all these questions from my phone or seek answers for them in case I have unknowingly done kufr?

Q: Is it wrong for me to stay away from my wife because she will not wear hijab? I told her that she should wear hijab nicely and I encourage her by teaching her how important it is. After I realized that she does not want to change, I stopped seeing her.

Also, before marriage she told me that she would do it. Alhumduallah I have changed a lot since marriage and I don't want to support her sins as I am responsible for it. Since I stopped seeing her, she got upset and now she likes to ignore me at times.

Also is it wrong for her to be very close to and hang out with her male cousins? She also sends them pictures without hijab daily with sweet text messages. I asked her to stop and she won't. 

Q: My neighbour is a 2nd wife and has 2 boys (13 and 15). She lost her older son 2 years ago. She was in pardah but started getting out of control. She brings strange men in her house that take her childrens phones, games, playstation only to mention a few. She is on drugs and started drinking alcohol. She comes home in the early parts of the morning leaving her kids without food most of the time. She swears and shout at them when she is home. I have contacted her family who are good people. All her sisters are in pardah. They are also fed up with her but my concern is the boys.

My question is, from an Islamic point of view, am I allowed to let the child welfare know about this or is it wrong? I just feel these boys will be better off without her because she is traumatizing them. I have spoken to her and she said she dont care about them as this is her life now.

Q: I'm a mum and my daughter went to marry a guy behind our backs and it's her second marriage. We were not happy about it but she says that she's very happy. She only told me this yesterday and her father doesn't even know yet and I'm very worried what he's reaction will be. I have disowned her. Have I done the right thing? There two little grandchildren of mine which I have disowned too and it's hurting me very badly. Please advice. 

Q: I have accepted Islam by saying the shahadah only. I want to practice Islam completely but I am not able to get in it because my family is against Islam very strictly. If I tell them about it, they will not think twice about killing me. I am not scared of dying, my fear is about this that I have not been able to perform salah and I am unable to do such things which are farz for a Muslim. If I died like this, then Allah will punish me alot, this is the reason, I fear death. I tried to explain to my household that they should abandon idol worship, but they became very angry and I did not tell them further about Islam. I am trying to change them for the last 1 year but nothing has happened till now and I have to go to the temples even though I don't want to go with them to do some Hindu rituals. I have some questions for you:

1. Is it justified to leave the house because of this condition for me?

2. I have heard that any person who says "Subhna Allahu wa Bihamdihi" 100 times a day, all his sins will be forgiven?

3. If I die here accidently, before leaving my family, without completely getting in to Islam, will Allah forgive me?

4. According to you, what should I do at this point in my life?

You are welcome if you want to give me more advices regarding to my life.