Advice

Q: Can you please give me some words of advice on:

1. How to attain the love of Allah سبحانه و تعالى

2. How to attain the love of Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم

Q: Is it OK for a husband to keep putting off the topic of having a baby? Even though I expressed my feelings about wanting a baby and he doesn't seem to take it into consideration.

Q: I have a bad habit of talking excessively. Alhumdulilah, after I began going to a girl's madressah and we did the ahaadith about talking excessively I began to talk less. But after I began doing this I began feeling depressed. Please advise me what to do.

Q: I live in a joint family with my 2 kids and husband. For the past few months my behaviour towards people has changed alot. I am speaking too much which I never used to. I am always finding faults and just losing my identity in my family. I try to stay good and calm but something just tends me to do wrong. Please advise me.

Q: My father is committing a major sin. I have known this for a very long time but I don't know what to do as I am only 13 years old. If I tell him then I'm scared of my family going into pieces. This is not the first time because he has been caught before before and he says that he has stopped but I am the only person who knows that he hasn't stopped this sin. My father was the nicest person ever until he started this sin. He still is loving and caring but he still commits a very bad sin.

Q: I am so frustrated in my life. I don't have any peace in my life. Please help me.

Q: I am severely depressed due to acne on my face. For so long it won't get cured and due to it I have many phycological problems and mental disorders like ocd, anxiety, immense stress depressions and suicidal thoughts.

When I try to stay positive and forget about it, someone comes and passes negative remarks and reminds me of it again and how bad it looks. I am extremely depressed and can't even face my family. I have extremely low self esteem and and feel caged in my body. Its' on my mind 24/7 and can't do anything because of it. I am also failing in my studies due to it , and am failing in deen and dunya. Please help me.

Q: I am overwhelmed with soo much negativity. I don’t believe in myself at all - I’m unable to learn or understand and worried my kids also have the same. Everyday is soo hard for me as I am so useless at everything. I’m worried my kids will be the same. I am taking medication with no effect as my stupidity is true - I don’t know how I can live with such a useless mind. Because how I feel, I am so intimidated to spend time with other mums and their kids as everyone is so bright and we are just so dumb. I have been praying and making dua for the last 2 years but nothing can help if I’m like this. I feel like I should end my life as I can’t live like this. I’m just not good enough to live in this world and don’t think I’m strong enough to look after my kids.

Q: I am suffering with terrible negative thoughts - all my life I have struggled with learning and understanding and I’m not good at anything. I have only realized how stupid I am now. I am a mother of 3 kids but now, because of my negative thoughts, I have been put on medication which is not helping. Everything I am saying is true because I am absolutely useless. I don’t see the point of living. I am clueless and so are my kids. I feel so so low. Please advise.

Q: Is it haraam for a woman to meet her fiancé before nikaah in the presence of his entire family but without any mahram from the woman's family?Actually, I want to know if it is totally haraam or just not permitted in Islam?