Q: I finished school and I've decided to do Aalim course. I've told my family that this is what I want to do with my life and many disagreed saying that how will I provide for myself and family. I am in a state of sadness because of the lack of my family's support and I don't know what to do.
Q: I am in a very discomforting situation in my life. I don't know who to ask but I think Allah SWT guided me to you. In my family, only my mum does Shariah Pardha. In my Dad's side of the family, it is a norm to get married in the family as well as to talk to your cousins.
A while ago I communicated with my male cousins but I realised it is wrong. Therefore when I went back home I only spoke to them if there was a dire need. I don't do Shariah Pardha at the moment but I hope to do so.
Anyhow, I got engaged to my uncle's son whom attends jamaats etc. He tried to communicate but I ignored the messages. Later he spoke to my female cousins, therefore I responded and explained that I don't find it appropriate talking to you. But he doesn't understand.
My parents think it's okay for me to talk to him if I talk within limits. However, I don't want to talk to him and I have explained a couple of times, however he does not understand. I don't know what I should do.
Q: Our son aged 21 smokes weed and refuses to read salah most days, (we and siblings do read salat). He is applying for a job and he refuses to be tested for weed. What shoudl we do Islamicaly? Can we ask him to leave the house, etc.?
Q: I like a girl very much and i am of marriable age. I told my parents about her and they went ahead and visited the girl's house. When i asked my dad if he liked the girl he said he didnt like her but if i persist with this girl he doesn't have a problem and will accept her whole heartedly. My dad has taken this talk forward and it is in the final stages but since this topic has started my dad has almost stopped talking to me. I stay far away from my town because of my job, i try calling my dad multiple times a day he doesn't receive any calls from me. If somehow i get to talk to my dad through my mom he doesn't show any interest in talking to me. I have asked my dad if he is upset or angry on me because of the decision i took he says "No I am not angry on you". I never knew that this would be my dad's reaction after my decision since at the starting itself he said he will accept any decision happily otherwise i wouldn't even have think about this girl ever again. I don't even know if his reaction is due to this decision or because of something else. I tried talking to my mom as well she says that i should keep calling my dad someday he will pick it up. I asked my mom if she can talk to dad and ask what exactly is the reason but even she says that dad isn't angry but i can get to know that there is definitely something wrong. I dont want to keep my dad angry or upset because of me, please tell me how can i solve the issue when my dad isn't talking to me at all ? What do i do when i know he is upset but keeps saying he isnt? Is there any specific dua or wazifa by which can help me in this matter?
Q: After the death of one's father, what can the children do for their father? My father died last Thursday. I saw him without any clothes and I am worried about him.
Q: I am a 21 year old Muslimah. My father wants me to start hifz with him at home (he is an aalim and haafiz). Am I obliged? I feel overwhelmed
Q: I am married with my wife for almost 15 years and we have 3 children together. We have had a lot of problems before and I except the fact that most of the time I was to be blamed for the problems, drugs was 1 of the biggest problems in our marriage.
Recently I was set up by some cops and got locked up. In that time my wife got hold of my phone and listened to some voice notes where A and I was chatting. The chatting all started when I get into bed then my wife will turn her back to me and go sleep. Thats how it came that I was chatting to another female. When I came home after I was locked up then I was put out of the house becoz of the voice notes and me being locked up. I moved out but that wasn't enough for her. Becoz its my moms house and I'm my mothers only child.
After I slept in my car for a few nights already I got a msg from her saying that she dont know how to face me but shes moving out. I got at home with in about 30 mins and all her and the kids stuff was packed in boxes already she was just waiting for a truck to cum and load her stuff. I went back to work while she was still at home after work when I got home, the place was empty. She just left without saying anything; where shes going or whats going to happen. Becoz her mother stays in a different area now, shes telling me she got the kids into schools close to her mom which means to me that she's not intending to come back home and leave me for good.
Firstly, is she allowed to leave the house that we were living in without my permission irrespective the issues?
Secondly, can her mother just accept her like that just by listening to her side of the story and not mine? Uptill this very moment, not 1 of her family members contacted me in any way to find out what my side of the story is.
Thirdly, shes now sleeping almost a week out of the house. What can be done about this situation?
Q: Give me most powerful dua to increase my knowledge and memory.
Q: My father was a hardworking man all of his life. Due to poverty in his homeland he went to a European country and worked there in a factory for 25 years. Never being dependent on any government help system. I have a few questions on what he did and would like to get answers from you about that so I can help my father by any means.
1. He took a few times loan from banks in order for his brother or his father and paid interest on it in order to get forgiven does he have to give the equal amount of money of the interest to a charity or to people for charity?
2. He got laid down from his job in 2008 and got dependent on government help system that is they paid him on a monthly basis. He could work a little but he had back pain but anyhow as he was old he did not get any job anywhere else. As we did not have any money our father was in Europe and we here in Pakistan, we were in a tight spot. Here was a chance our father could be gone into the disabled program that is the government gives the money to people who can’t work and they give it to his family as well.
We did many khatams and dua for this but every time when we made dua we asked ALLAH if its halal give it to us and if not then don’t.
What happened is that my father got accepted, but it is the way that he got accepted that worries me. They asked him a few questions to which some he answered honestly and to some not that he lied and cheated to them. Moreover he got 140000 dollars in pension which had to be used first by the authority after which they start paying us, what my father did is that he told them that he lost the money in gambling. He did this by going to a casino playing a few rounds showing himself to cameras and telling them he lost the money by which he then bought a home and some land. He got accepted and we started receiving a sum from a few months after.
My father as he was 55-57 years old could not get work or anything started to take the money and came back to homeland land and we use the money ever since. The money is given every month on a basis that the children must be studying and must give proof. All my brother and sisters study and we regularly send them proof which they want plus they give a fixed money to my father but not mother. That money is a little much for us that is we eat drink do our needs with it and can save and with the money we saved we bought land.
I married and we did some business but we usually lost money that is we always lose money in business. Now I want to repay the money which we took which brings me to another question must we repay the government from which we took the money or is this money halal?
Whatever we bought with the money the land or house has now increased in value do I have to pay the increase as well or just the sum taken?
My father cant repay them because he is old so I want to do it for him as he sacrificed all his life for us. I want to ask should I sell everything and repay the government?
Another thing is that can I START a business with that money earn enough and pay the government back will this profit be halal or haram. We do not have money to pay them back except by selling our properties and then we will have nothing and by doing job even in Europe paying back 5-7 hundred thousand dollar is hard very hard.
My father is a good man but he thought this is best for his family he knew he lied but he said that I worked for my pension and why should they give it to me in installments. He has back problems and has some anger issues but he is a good man prayes 5 times PRAYES NAFIL FOR HIS PARENTS EVERYDAY 20 RAKATS gives zakat gives sadaqa helps poor buys materials for mosque went 2 times hajj.
Please guide me I know my question is lengthy but here some molvis do not understand me. I want to pay back this money by any means. So to wrap it up do I HAVE TO SELL THE PRPERTIES TO PAY THEM BACK BECAUSE WE DO NOT HAVE ANY OTHER MEANS OR CAN I START A BUSINESS AND WITH THE PROFITS PAY THEM BACK? THE ZAKAT AND SADAQA ETC WHICH HE GIVES/gave IS THAT QABOOL OR NOT QABOOL IN ISLAM My father thinks maybe this money is halal but I do not think so and we do not have other income but as soon we have some business or money we will leave it he says and pay them back please help cheating to non muslim government is that also haraam?
Q: A few days ago I've seen a cousin of mine stealing another cousins watch. And I complained to his mother because this cousin of mine is going astray. He got angry with me. Now I feel bad, thinking I've committed a sin by complaining. So did I actually commit a sin
N.B It's not the first time he stole.