Advice

Q: The presidant of a masjid is living with his ex wife after divorce. We feel that this is against the teaching of Islam and therefore detrimental to the image of the masjid. Please advice?

Q: There is a man who is interested in me and we have been seeing each other which we are aware is very wrong. We are eager to make nikah. I am stable in my career but he is younger than me and is just starting out. We have had a meeting with both our parents. His mother is only willing to accept the marriage after he has completed two years of study which he hasn't even started. My father is happy for us to make nikah but says we should not have contact for the two years.

My first question is, would it be permissible for us to make nikah without our families knowing? They are agreeing to the marriage just not at this point in time. My concern about this is that we know we will not be able to stay away from each other and cannot continue in this relationship for another two years.

The second question is, would it be permissible for a nikah to be performed again after the two years? We do not want to continue doing wrong or be deceitful but we've made istikhara which was positive for us both. We care for each other very much and also don't want to hurt our parents.

Q: I am a Muslim girl but not a good Muslim. I started chatting to a hindu boy. Now we love each other but today I am ashamed of my deeds. I started wearing purdah and praying five times a day. I made dua and apologized to Allah from my heart. Now the hindu boy is in love with me. but I cant leave Islam. What should I do now? He is not embracing Islam. Should I stop talking and chatting to him ven if he gets hurt?

Q: My son started hifz class in September 2017. Before he went into hifz class he already did 4 juz at home. He started from juz 1 at the mosque as he is the youngest in his class and he was nervous. Alhamdulillah they has never been a complaint about him regarding tajweed or anything else. I feel he prays proper at home with full concentration. Would there be anything wrong in teaching him at home?

Q: I have two wives. I want to be just between them as much as I can. But my first wife in hindering it by getting annoying. Time and again giving me reference of Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)'s reaction of finding out the intention of Hazrat Ali to marry second time. Giving me reference again and again that you cannot be just between two wives. Asking me questions again and again why I married second time. Bringing the topic of second wife again and again. Asking me the same questions again and again for which i have answered. When i decline to answer and choose to keep quiet, so matters dont get out of hand, she does not tolerate that. The last incident again, i came home late from work tired. and after an hour or so. she said i want to ask a question, which i immediately sensed will lead to argument, so i said, if the question is baseless then should not ask. then she started giving arguments to which i chose to remain quiet and the end she said, you attitude with me makes me doubt you. At that i went to the other room and slept. I am trying my best to be fair as i can. But she infuriates me time and again, intentionally or unintentionally i do not know. What can I do to solve this.

Q: Repeatedly I am failing in my exams despite my hard work and wish to pass the exam. Currently I am doing Cost and Management Accounting. I just want to ask if there is any luck factor that I am failing? I used to pray and make duaa also to pass the exam. If there is a luck factor involved, please give me a wazifa or amaal.

Q: When my brother in law's wife was pregnant, I said that if she gives birth to a baby girl I will pray tahajud namaz everyday. But later I felt guilty about this and few days later she delivered baby girl. 2 months later I became pregnant and till I maintained tahajud namaz I was safe. When I did not pray tahajud the next day, I had to undergo major surgery. It was ectopic pregnancy my tube was ruptured. I think that God punished me. I sad sorry from depth of my heart because I took tahajud namaz lightly. Will Allah forgive me or not? Will I be punished my whole life if I don't pray tahajud? 

Q: I finished school and I've decided to do Aalim course. I've told my family that this is what I want to do with my life and many disagreed saying that how will I provide for myself and family. I am in a state of sadness because of the lack of my family's support and I don't know what to do.

Q: I am in a very discomforting situation in my life. I don't know who to ask but I think Allah SWT guided me to you. In my family, only my mum does Shariah Pardha. In my Dad's side of the family, it is a norm to get married in the family as well as to talk to your cousins.

A while ago I communicated with my male cousins but I realised it is wrong. Therefore when I went back home I only spoke to them if there was a dire need. I don't do Shariah Pardha at the moment but I hope to do so.

Anyhow, I got engaged to my uncle's son whom attends jamaats etc. He tried to communicate but I ignored the messages. Later he spoke to my female cousins, therefore I responded and explained that I don't find it appropriate talking to you. But he doesn't understand.

My parents think it's okay for me to talk to him if I talk within limits. However, I don't want to talk to him and I have explained a couple of times, however he does not understand. I don't know what I should do.

Q: Our son aged 21 smokes weed and refuses to read salah most days, (we and siblings do read salat). He is applying for a job and he refuses to be tested for weed. What shoudl we do Islamicaly? Can we ask him to leave the house, etc.?