Advice

Q: Me and my husband have been apart for 6 years. He has not supported me and our daughter. I have given him an ultimatum to choose before we got seperated because he was abusing me physically and emotionally and financially. He became violent and started to disrespect my family and me. The Imam of our town said the marriage can be claimed void due to the fact that we have not been in any contact for 6 years and also if we can find out if he converted back to his previous religion. Can you please tell me if it is possible because I want to move on with my life and the Imam is dragging the whole process.

Q: I am married for 3 and half years. I stay with my in laws but its very difficult to stay with them. I want my husband to take a seperate house. What is the process and how can I do it?

Q: My husband has been having a sexual relationship with my sister for the past 6 months. When I found out about it, I left him but he did not divorce me yet. So my question is am I still in his nikaah after he had a sexual relationship with my sister and that has been confirmed? I am so confused and I dont want to live with him anymore.

Q: I am 27 years old. We are married nearly 2 and half years now. I am struggling to conceive due to imbalance of hormones and irregular periods. My husband has higher desire of sex compare to myself. I am trying my level best to meet up to his requirements but he is not happy and believing that I disobey him. I know and accept in Islam that a wife must show up when her husband calls her to bed otherwise she is sinful. He gets angry and frustrated with me and tells me that I should change my religion because I refuse him in bed. It is really quite worrying my life, I see no fault of myself if naturally I have less desire compared to him. But I am being scolded most of the time. My question is that what should I do in this case? Am I still sinful? How should we behave in this aspect? How should my husband treat me as I am naturally less desiring and most of the time I am meeting his requirement. I can say 90% of the time I do meet his desires. 

Q: How can one stop regretting past choices. I am young and fear the future because of my past bad choices.

Q: My husband is having an affair with,a cheap evil white woman. I caught them twice. He is a doctor and feels he can get away with anything.he feels he can punish, me, because I found out about them.he walks around with arrogance, and pride that he is not answerable to anyone. Question is, I have given this my marriage my all. I am consumed by the injustice of it all, and consumed by revenge. I am praying Allah brings this man down,humiliates him,and, makes him regret,for destroying so much, and doing zinna. He has lost his Emaan,and still so proud. Problem, is, I can't wait for him, to be punished, because Iam hurting so so much.

Q: I am a doctor and know a patient/girl has a mental illness which is serious enough to harm a relationship and her condition can be stable on lifetime medication. My friend is interested in this girl for her son's marriage as her son likes her too. Should I inform my friend?

Q: I am a revert alhumdulilah. I am in a dilemma regarding visiting my mother who is Hindu. My husband does not allow my kids to visit her because she has a temple in her yard. It's not like the kids play outside. My family has a lot of respect that I am a Muslim and they have never forced us into doing anything unlawful or haram. My mother is now heartbroken as she can't be with her grandchildren and I feel bad visiting her without the kids. Her tears are haunting me. I know that a mother holds Jannat under her feet and to make a mother cry is the biggest sin. I can't take this anymore I'm miserable and how do I earn Jannat one day in sha Allah if my mother is hurt. So please advise as I can't hear or see my mother cry anymore.

Q: We can do isthikhaara for divorce?

Q: My father is in a relationship with his brothers daughter (which is haraam). We came to know this two years back...when we confronted him...he left us...he is not ready to leave her...he is committing zina. Last two years he is not in contact with anyone from the family...in these circumstances what is to be done? Is the nikaah still valid between my mother and father? When he left he said that he will send papers to my mother...but till today there is no single word from my father... He is not accepting halal relationship?