Q:
1. I am a 30 year old married woman. It is 7 years since I am married. There has been marriage issues between us. Now he decided to divorce me. We have a 5 year old daughter. But I dont like to get divorced as it is a major sin. If he does so, is there any sin on me?
2. Also, can you send a dua to me to avoid a divorce. I am very depressed.
Q: There is a girl I really like so I told my parents about her and finally my parents met her family. Now the situation was to take the final call. I asked my parents about their opinion and they said that since they met the girl and her family just once they might not know much about her and they asked me to take a decision. They also said that they are neither opposing her nor forcing me to marry her but they mentioned one point saying that I might get a better girl considering the fact that the girl and her family has little less knowledge and teachings of Islam and they also said that they wouldn't have preferred the girl. But again they said that they are OK with the girl if I select to go with her. So I am really confused right now. I dont want to hurt my parents and I dont know if they get hurt if I decided to go with this girl. Please help me.
Q: My first wife has said to me that if I go abroad to meet my second wife then I must give her (my first wife) divorce first. She is already living in a separate room from mine. She has had many outbursts before. The latest outburst came when she saw my passport. I have pleaded with and asked her in every way to be patient for the sake of the kids, but it seems that she does not see anyone besides herself. I have talked to her father but he has given up also and there is no one further I can ask to interfere and bring some kind of reconciliation between us. I do not want to divorce anyone.
Q: I have two wives, my first wife is here with me and second wife is abroad. My first wife has not come to terms with my second marriage. Instead of paying attention to her house and children, she was always prying about what im sending to my second wife and when I contact her. I had many times told her, that do not think of that, it is not your concern. Just concentrate on home here and children. But she went on it on and off, resulting in irritating me. I started to leave the room when she started so that the matter should cool off, as per instruction of my mother. But the last time i did that..my first wife followed me and misbehaved with me with strict words and i retaliated back. After that she has separated her room. I am being normal with her but she is persisting in her attitude, my mother has tried to tell her, this is not doing any good to home or children, but her answer is i have cut of all contact with him (me). I will just give him food etc. other than that i have no relation with him. I am not forcing or anything now. Just complying with whatever she is doing. Please advise
Q: What are the sources in deen which can be relied upon? If something was done by a righteous scholar which is not proved by sunnah or Sahaabah or fiqh, will it be part of deen?
Q: I have this housemates that talks about people. She had talked about me and I confirmed it that she did. Since then I dread her completely and never want anything to come between us but we do exchange greetings and if she needs assistance I render it if I can but nothing more. This keeps disturbing me because each day my dislike for her increases. What should I do?
Q:
1. I have married my husband with the intention of fulfilling my needs and after it to get a divorce from him. But now Alhamdulillah I realized that it’s very wrong and now I love him and want to be with him. So is our marriage valid?
2. Before marriage we did many things but not intercourse. So should I only repent to Allah?
3. Before marriage he gave me gifts like dresses, laptop, etc which I’m still using. So will it be permissible to use it now?
4. Few months ago he once said that you are divorced thrice but few minutes later he said it was due to anger. It’s been 2 years now but we still cannot do intercourse because I fear a lot. So is our marriage valid?
Q: I have been married for almost four months but me and my husband have been quarreling since our nikaah day. I have been feeling very insecure as there is a girl involved which I was aware of but my husband kept saying she was just a little girl seeking attention. It has now come to my knowledge that he was involved in a haram relationship with her before nikah and I have found several inappropriate sites on his email. He claims he didn't tell me truthfully at the beginning as he was worried How it would effect our marriage. However I have come to find out everything last week and now I am really lost and confused. I don't know if I can trust him anymore. Is lying for something of this matter even allowed in Islam?
Q: I am someone who used to masturbate and go all the way. This was before I found out it was haraam. I am now of a marriageable age and my parents are looking for a suitable partner. I am concerned because as a woman it will be quite obvious I used to do this. How does one deal with this topic when their partner asks them about it.
Q: I am 18 years old. Some years back my mom took a debt from someone on interest because we wanted money to get my elder sister married and she took this decision to borrow money because my dad is not responsible enough as he had been through alot of business failures and was jobless..Its been 4 years and my mother has been paying interest from a really long time and now when we have no money the money lenders are troubling us alot... They torture us so much that sometimes I start losing faith in life... They torture us to the core... They scare us by telling us that if we don't give them money then they are going to tell this to all the people around and also my sister's husband which will lead to a utter shame for my parents... They speak so cheap about us that sometimes I feel that dying is much better than seeing your parents in this condition... We don't have money at all and day by day the interest has increased. Please make dua's for the betterment of my family and please tell me some zikr or dua to get rid of this debt... I'm tired and at this young age I'm falling apart...