Advice

Q: I am a Muslim woman and I would like to know in Islam if a father hits his daughter who is married without valid reason and my husband tells him to stop with respect and he then hits my husband and uses excessive vulgar languages in the open public.

I, the daughter have held my dads clothes to stop him from going to hit my husband but he continued to slap me wildly infront of many people.

He does not like my husband because my husband is not well to do and is very simple and calm . He has a quite nature and never argues with my parents from the time I have been married . On a daily basis my father insults him tries to put him down infront of other people uses languages to him infront of me all because in life my dad out of his own will had paid for my hospital bills. But that was on his own will as my husband could not afford it and I have agreed that he couldn't afford a private hospital rather government which I was very happy to go to.

He insults my husbands parents and put them to value infront of many people . He shows off to people what my husbands parents position is and disgraces them all the time .

My father is very nice but his attitude and pride of money is very bad . If he pays anything out of his own will for me or my children he will insult and tell the public he paid for that and he says it in such a way that makes my husband down in the public eye.

I am a very blessed woman to have such a great husband . Allah has given me the best man as my partner and I dislike when I see him getting insulted . I cannot take it anymore and I do not know what to do . The only thing I have asked my father is to guide my husband in business but my father rules his life and wants to fight for everything.

Q: I am struggling with this issue for some time and would like to receive some good advice inshallah.

I have met a good Muslim girl (as is common these days) and wish to pursue a halaal relationship with her. Her parents are aware of me, accept me and are very welcoming of the idea. However, my parents are not aware of the extent of my relationship with her. After a brief conversation I had (regarding marriage, not regarding the girl) with them, they have two issues.

1. We are a Pakistani family and the girl is from a South African family. They are concerned regarding the effects of the difference in culture on our household. They are typical joint family people while the girl and I myself are not too fond of that idea. Nonetheless, the issue is that they do not prefer to marry outside culture, while I disagree as I believe the requirement to be Muslim, not Pakistani. Regardless of that I have spent 8 years of my 22-year life in South Africa and as such am a part of this culture as much as I am a part of Pakistani culture.

2. They do not want to even initiate a conversation about marriage until I have graduated and have a stable job. I completely agree with the idea, that they want me to be able to support and provide for her and I will accept no exception. However, that will take around 2-3 years and until then our relationship will either be haraam or non-existent. The girl's family will not accept me just dating her for the next 3 years and Islamically this is wrong also. I wish to know what to do about this situation.

Lastly, if I were to approach my parents with the idea of Nikaah, what would be the best and safest way to go about doing this. 

Q: My husband has a friend thats always intruding, but my husband does not see this as wrong and its causing problems in our marriage, what do I do?

Q: My husband has been having an affair with a Hindu married woman. This affair is going on for a while now and she travels alot. He has changed and hits me and denies it. He even threw me out but doesn't want to break this haraam relationship. I have a son 11 years old and we are married for 20 years. I need a dua to destroy this enemy.

Q: I invited a Christian business aquaintence to Islam. Below is his reply, how do I answer him?

"Jesus appears more than Muhammad in the Quran. Find out why and tell me. Who made the blind see and the lame walk in the Quran? If you give me an honest answer. I will embrace Islam. Peace be with you."

Q: I am from India.We are two sisters living with our parents. Today morning when I was going to take my cloth from Almirah, I saw two equal size marks of red Lipstic on my Almirah. Is it a sign of something going wrong in my home. I enquire with everyone on my home, no one was aware of this mark. Please help me.

Q: I am unable to adjust with my in-laws. The moment I decide to have a family feeling they taunt me for my work done and my mom's family related to dowry. I don't want to have any hard feelings on them please suggest me Islamic way to deal my relationship with them and my husband. Going to be a mother soon please suggest me some things to do to have a obedient child.

Q: I am a male, 26 years old and newly married (7months). My wife and I are very good humans with average Islamic knowledge but very happy. I provide almost every common thing she needs and she is very happy in today's era, a car, house, clothes, food hangout, movies etc. very good and my parents are really happy with her. I have been a a bad human before and only Allah can forgive for the sins but I hate the past and very happy with present and looking for a better future.. Since I have had multiple sexual relations before and everything, I don't have a high sex drive anymore and my wife is pretty much a virgin as I know her family background and since I know women alot, I can tell that after living for 7 months with her... The thing is she is not interested in sex and because I have done so much bad in my past I also feel fine and I am never upset or sad when she gives me excuse if I try... But I am just scared since I want to be a nice Muslim. If this is my duty to satisfy her or if angels or Allah is angry at her bcz of me? I don't want sex from her if she cannot give me and I want her to go to heaven and that's why even if I have 1% sad feeling about sex I just say Allah I am happy and not upset with her I swear dont be angry on. But on my part I am scared if she curse me for not giving her sex? Since as I know women well but in this case by grace of Allah I am very nice husband overall so I have no doubt she is happy with everything else also the other thing I am scared is if she doesn't find me attractive? Since I'm not a handsome guy compare to average but women do get attached with guys if together so that shouldn't be issue.. My question is is it ok if we r happy and we don't sex at all or is it a must to have sex also i dont want kids now aswell so sex for pleasure is the only thing I'm worried about her the most.

Q: I recently said "Allah is equal to someone, and that person is no one." Is that shirk? I am a good Muslim and I do good deeds. Please respond.