Advice

Q: My husband and I are not living together. He had me thrown out of our marital home when I was pregnant. He has also uttered talaaq and revoked it. He has since moved back to his ex wife who he irrevocably talaaq. He is aware they living in haraam and refuses to let me go. He has asked me for sex saying we can get a room to which I refused and he got angry. He doesn't see to any of my needs but expects me to have sex with him then he brings me back to my mother house and he goes back to his mistress. Do I have a right to refuse him. Because now he using the deen against me whereas he not living according to Allah laws.

Q: I work in qatar and I dont have family status to bring my wife and kids. I just got opportunity to work abroad. My brother works in dubai and stays with his wife and kids. My sisters husband recently got opportunity in saudi without family status. So my sister stays with my parents. Sisters husband also trying for family visa due to situtation, but his company not giving him and he is trying utmost level. Once he gets it he'll take my sister to saudi.

My wife was staying with my family members and after my sister comes home, my wife is upset due to my parents giving more importance to my sisters kids. Because of this my wife fought with me and now she is in her mothers house.

After continuous quarells with me, my brother got to know she had daily quarel with me, so brother called and shout her. So my wife got very angry and she informed to her parents and fight went beyond. Everyone knows in our society, how innocent my parents are, just because of they give importance to daughter kids, my wife got jealous due to this. She feels my parents doesnt care to take care my kids and they take care to my sister kids like that she feels.

We stay in rent house my things and brother things are in same rent house. In my house we have one big room and 1 small. big room my sister and parents sleep and small room me, my wife and kids. I knows its difficult to stay in small room due to small room, my wife fight daily with me to shift the house. During that time my finance was weak. Now al hamdhulilah i am earning good.

Now my wife wants separate rent house with my parents, she put the condition my brother things should not come, because my brother shouted her. My brother sasural family is from hyderabad, so we cannot send back their things, my parents will feel bad and brother sasural also feel bad if we send back their things. If we see two rents house, its difficult to manage to my parents, now they are old. My brother stay in abroad. I told my wife, please dont break brother bond, my parents cant take care two rent house and its difficult to maintain. But my wife is not ready to accept for this and she daily fights with me same. If i say my parents they feel very sad for this. Please advice me what step to be taken.

Q: My mother in law ill treats me through her tongue. Her words are harsh and hurting. My husband is very supportive and a pious man. He takes care of my every need. I am three months pregnant. I feel stressed out all the time because of my mother in law hurtful words. I stay silent when she insults me. But then I suffer from anxiety and constant headaches. Please guide me how to overcome this problem.

Q: I am married for one year. My husband is in Oman . I am with his father and mother. I have some problems from both. They are not allowing me to go to my family members. They do not like me to speak with my husband. They hurt me all the time. Is what they are doing right? What can I do? Do you have any advice for me? I am so depressed nowadays.

Q: I'm married for 28 years' my husband is going for HAJJ. Is it right for me to ask him to be truthful regarding if he had a sexually affair with the woman he had an affair with few years ago?

Q: I would like to know my husband's brother has accused me of interfering in is life about 12 years ago. He accused me of all sorts of unbelievable things then also accused my husband saying he is aware of what I do. We have asked him to bring the proof of his accusations but till today he can't. We haven't spoken to him since but every now and again he comes up with something new that I apparently did. We have chosen to forget about him as we have tried to resolve the issue many times but he would not listen or believe us and cannot prove anything. We have been accredited for hajj this year. Insha-Allah we have every intention on going I would like to know what do we do in this case with regard to greeting him. I am afraid that should I be the better person and ask for maaf as to clearings conscience incase I have hurt him knowing or unknowingly he might use this against me and say that I did do all those bad things to him and now admitted it and asked for maaf. Also this has caused a split in my husband's family with some believing me and some believing him. I really don't know what to do, I have made so much of dua for Allah to clear my name from the accusations. Do I have to greet him and what does my husband do in this situation. Jazakallah

Q: My question is regarding parents fighting and being separated. They have been fighting my whole life with as time passes fights have gotten uglier with lots of physical and verbal abuse. I am married now and stay a few hours away from them but they still drag me into their arguments and both expect me to say they are right and the other is wrong. I'm really tired and can't deal with it anymore. I just can't move on with my life and they keep dragging me down making me feel guilty that I am happy with my husband. What is the Islamic ruling on parents who do that. I don't want to be disobedient to them in any way because I fear Allah's punishment but I don't know what to do and how to deal with this.

Q: I have a very weird question and you may think I am being irrational but please hear me out. I am married to my husband of 4 years and we have a young infant. I have been noticing for the past year or so that my Mother has taken a liking to my husband. And it is not in a civil Mother in law way, she likes him romantically. I have thought I could be misled and confused but this is why its taken me a year to be fully convinced. I will explain some of the things she does to clarify my assumptions. Firstly i do not live with my parents I stay there every school holiday. My Mum has become very nosy if i am on my phone she comes to look at it. If i am alone in my room with my daughter and my husband video calls she would barge in and interfere (take note she pulls my daughter and gets on the video to him). She always takes my phone. When my husband comes she tries to get his attention she walks by him from the next room in a way where she cant see me but she looks at him. Another thing is she is absolutely furious when i tell her that my husband is loyal. Take note she is always trying to cause problems e.g. his family are bad to you. She wants me to tell him and it always causes us to fight and its silly things. She does this when nobody is around. She also tries to get him closer to my sisters. For example my husband eight now is on holiday so my mum asked me if hes enjoying it and i had told her that he is actually bored. The next thing i see is she rings my sister and tells her that my husband is bored he needs someone to talk to. Basically indirectly telling her to call him. She tries to make me jealous with my own husband. Bare in mind i think my husband knows this i am sure she told him things in my absence. He has told me that my mum is bad so i'm sure he knows. There are so many examples but those are basic things i have noticed. She acts like she is his 'thauba' wife because when my brothers want to eat she acts like it is not her job. She takes my daughter and acts as if shes here to visit. She doesnt like me bonding with my child. Please help me is there a dua or something i can read on her? I trust my husband but i feel like what if he listens one day. I hate to say this but she is acting like a shaythan always trying to come in between our marriage.

Q: My mother has selected a bride for my elder brother. He is not happy with the skin color of the bride however the girl comes from a good family and has good character. But my elder brother is not happy as all his friends have beautiful wives. Please provide an explanation so that me, my mother and family can convince my brother. Is there any salah or ayah to offer and fill my brothers life with piece and love?

Q: My husband often verbally abuses me and I have been enduring it for the past 1 year 6 months. I told his parents and they even advised him yet there is no change. What should I do?