Three Talaaqs

Q: If a man says to his wife "I divorce you" three times as a joke and has no intention to divorce her and is unaware that simply uttering the words could lead to divorce. Is that counted as talaaq or is the nikkah valid. Also note that this occurred while the wife was in a state of purity, before menses, during which intercourse had taken place. Is this nikkah still valid? Is the talaaq valid? If yes is it counted as one or 3? This occurred between a couple that are very much involved and would be devastated by talaaq. And please advise what should be done after this.

Q: My husband in an extreme anger pronounced three words talaq, talaq, talaq on the phone. When he cooled down he returned home he behaved normal and didn't even know what words he uttered. He was reminded by people who was surrounded by him at that time. But he didn't know. He said I don't know what I said and what I did. My question is that in that case if a man becomes insane and he doesn't know what is he doing, is divorce valid or not?

Q: My husband gave me in my marriage of 13 years two talaaqs. But now he's claiming that he gave three and he says that is the reason why he is so lost and want to stay out so late. I'm confused. please advise.

Q: I have been married for the past 18 months. My husband lost his job after the first month of marriage. I had a job so therefore I supported him and his family (mother, 2 sisters). His father lives in another state and visits monthly. During the course of our marriage, I got pregnant and had a baby girl. His 2 sisters got married. He had tried to work but ended his job at a store and driving a car due to him thinking that people were after him and something was going on at home. Recently, he started losing weight and was diagnosed with gallstones and gastritis. He was treated with surgery. At this point, I had started working part time to take care of my baby and husband. But we were short of rent money. My husband was very angry 2 weeks after the surgery due to pain and shortage of rent money that he told me to leave the home at 12:00 at night with my 11 month old daughter. His mother succumbed to his anger and told me to take a taxi to my parents home. I refused and stayed because it was night. The next day, as he drove me to my parents home, he told me he would pick me up in a few days. Then as he left me and our 11 month old child their, he said he would pick me up when he had a job. Then he left and called me 1 hour later and said he wanted to divorce me and hung up the phone. A few days later, I called him and said I wanted to come home. Later that same day, he texted me the word talaq 3 times. He also wrote the same thing on Facebook messenger. Please tell me if this counts as irreversible divorce or not. He never spoke these words but wrote them. Now he is saying that it doesn't count because he never said it. Please help. I am currently living with my parents and thinking that I am divorced.

Q: I want to know about the ruling when one man gives divorce three times to his wife after nikaah before rukhsati but they want to remarry, Is halaala required? Or if after nikah before rukhsati, they met together and made romance kiss or foreplay but rukhsati did not take place and he gave his wife talaaq. In this situation what is ruling if they want to remarry? And last one after rukhsati husband made foreplay with his wife but not ful sexual intercourse. What is the ruling if he divorces his wife three times in one place, if he want her back as his wife, is halaala required?

Q: During a fierce argument with my wife, in the condition of extreme anger, I told her that I give you talaaq for one time. Later after about two months, again during extreme anger and in a hot argument I pronounced the word talaaq again two times. During both events, it was only me a my wife and no witness was there. Please advise if talaaq has happened.

Q: If husband in anger says talaak three times just talaaq nothing else with it. Is talaaq done from uttering these three words?

Q: I am married to my wife for the past 7 years and during these years of my married life I used to have heated arguments with my wife on her behavior and out of anger I have given her divorce in intervals but maximum number at a time was 2. We are still living together. Please advise if our marriage is still valid?

Q: I gave my wife 3 talaqs at once. On the Internet 75% of imams say marriage is over, while other imams say 3 talaaqs together count as 1. She told me Wallahi Internet is not accurate, & the imam said it counts as 1. I had intercourse with her because I believed she was truthful but I felt guilty. I have since given official shariah talaaq. Are we both sinful or does she carry the greater burden?

Q: The more I saw him act like that and hurt me the more my sihr took over and I remember repeatedly getting thoughts to hurt him more, something in my mind saying now is your chance to push him so hard that he will regret it. This came into my mind over and over and I got nastier and nastier I could not control myself either, this time I could not even stop, then all I remember was him coming up to my face saying 'if this is what you want then here take it, divorce, divorce, divorce. You asked and pushed for it now there you have it' I still went on not thinking clearly now more angry than ever, I provoked him more saying you going to regret this again and come crying to me tomorrow put it in writing you coward and he did, saying 'I divorce Fathima because of her family' I realized now that he was in such a state that if I put a gun in his hand as well and told him to shoot himself, he would have which he confirmed. That's how lost he was. I really believe without a doubt that he would and that’s the scariest thought! Even though damage is done to some extent I could not lose him forever. I love him for the pleasure of Allah and he is everything I ever wanted, I just wish this would stop! I then still went on and he still went on I knew he had lost it this time, lost his mind as he did not know the nonsense he was uttering. He then broke the dishes by slamming it to the ground, pieces flying all over and stormed up and down punching the wall and going mad. I kept wondering who is this guy he is insane! I told him you're a lunatic and he said yes that's who you've made me. After a while it hit me when I was normal again, I started to cry and then my whole world came crashing down. I did not know what overtook me.