Ambiguous words of Talaaq

Ambiguous statements of talaaq

10 years ago By admin

Q: I still don't understand about ambiguous statements. I know that wanting a divorce is not the same as issuing a divorce, so how come if a husband says "I don't want to be with her" falls under kinaya statements of divorce when the statement is referring to the future? Nonetheless, if husband says to wife "you'r free" or "you are free", how come this is considered as a revocable divorce and not irrevocable divorce? If there is a difference of opinion on these two matters is it permissible to follow the one that is easier due to hardship reasons?

Husband telling the wife to leave the home and never come back

10 years ago By admin

Q: If the husband tells his wife after 2 years of their marriage that he doesn't love her he doesn't feel anything for her anymore after every little argument, and also he doesn't fulfil her huqooq and taunt her all the time, if wife is quite everything is fine but if the wife ever says anything to him about his attitude towards her than they have a fight and he tells his wife to leave the house and never come back. He also threatens the wife that he will re marry to someone else. In this situation what should the wife do in Islam point of view. Please help.

Husband saying "Tum Azaad ho"

11 years ago By admin

Q: If a couple are having a discussion on the fone on various issues including divorce then the husband says "you are free to do anything" by which he intends regarding wife's career, then will nikah be affected? Like in Urdu if you say "tumazad ho" then sareeh divorce happens. The couple are pakistani, live there and had the discussion in both urdu and english.

Saying "I do not want anything to do with you"

11 years ago By admin

Q: I married a women who had become Muslim from Hinduism some months earlier. She knew I was married Islamically to another person and knew the family. People doubted her sincerity as a Muslim but I gave her the benefit of doubt. Soon after she became Muslim we started having problems. We agreed that she would not disclose the marriage to anyone as it may create problems, from her Hindu family and my side. During one of our many arguments after she was shouting abuse, I said 'I do not want anything to do with you - it is finished' Is this a divorce ? After a week we made up. Then we had another bust up, in a park after she started shouting abusive things about my wife - I was fed up and said 'I do not want anything to do with you and said something like I divorce you.' She went hysterical and started shouting abuse in front of people in the park. A day or so later, I was driving with her in the car, and did not speak as I was listening to the radio. I thought it would be better to stay quiet to avoid arguing. She proceeded to take some pills and as I reached my destination, she said I have taken these pills and you will now suffer. It was to attract attention, and I said I am going home to see my family and kids, to which she started swearing filthy words and other abuse. At that time I said I do not want anything to do with her and wanted to finish. That same day she had passed the Nikah details to her sister who confronted my first wife who was distraught. Two days later she visited my wife and told her secrets of the private love life and my wife was distressed. I suspected this was an attempt to get my first wife to leave me, which she did not. Then during Ramadhaan she went back to India to her Hindu family - which given that this was to be her first Ramadhaan was a surprise. During communications, I wrote 'every door has been shut'. I even wrote to one of her texts 'look we finished Islamically so many times. You destroyed that finally.' A few days later we began texting in a less confrontational way as there are feelings of much warmth despite the issues . She texted 'Am I still your wife' She went on to write 'According to me you are my husband'. I wrote back 'If that is what you believe that is good...but it is very complex....is there 1 divorce, 2 or 3...if it is 3 its over ...if its 2 its not...2 means final chance....it is that important we make it right.' I went on to write ...'it may mean going to mufti..' 

Taking away the fact that there are bound to be jealousies, and agendas, and suspicions about the motive of becoming a Muslim and marrying me. At the end of the day there is love and whatever she has done has been I believe out of uncontrollable love. I feel obligated to help her and care for her because of her commitment, but then I do see that nasty angry side which has led me to react the way I did over time. Is the marriage still in tact?

Does the words "Its over" constitute divorce?

11 years ago By user2

Q: On sunday my husband packed up my bags and came and dropped me off at my mother's house, he told me that he feels suffocated in the marriage. He came, left some of my stuff, went back to our home, loaded more stuff, came back, sat with my brother, I was shocked so I wasn't paying much attention to what they were saying but according to my brother, he said ''its over''. I asked him last night what did he mean by saying its over, to which he replied, nobody should come to conclusions and assume what I meant, if any Moulana wants to know why he brought me home, they should contact him and not come up with fatwa's that are not true. My question is, does this count as a talaaq and should my iddat have begun on sunday or is it not counted as talaaq. He did not use the words I divorce you.

Husband telling the wife "meri taraf say azad ho"

11 years ago By admin

Q: I want to know about a problem which has effected me and my life a lot. My husband converted from shiaism although Masha Allah he has improved a lot in Imaan but still he is not acquainted with all sunni procedures. He is a high blood pressure patient and at times he says that please do not make me angry. I become mad in anger and do not know what to do, now the question is that one day on phone during fighting I was telling him that as you during our days of engagement used to say meri taraf say azad ho now do not use such things as it causes separation but he was insisting that Islam is not that tough that in anger if I say so without intention we would be separated, he said when I have to leave you I would use divorce word, we were still fighting that I asked him to let me talk to my mother in law who is still a shia and she said to me that no talaq never happens like this I was talking to her and in the background I heard my husband saying meri taraf say azad hai he was in anger and I think that as to repeat in anger he said this meri taraf say azad hai azad hai I asked my mother inlaw, you heard what he said? She said no I heard nothing he is in anger he talking to himself. I told her the words she said no I heard nothing like that I asked my husband he said I did not say any word to get you separated he said he was in much anger but he swore to Quran and Allah that he had not said azad words and he said he never had any intention of divorce if he had used divorce words. Then I cried and hang up. He called and said do you have Quran with translation and read Ayat 227-230 and said tum bakwas karte ho in Quran its word talaq for separation then he said you just fight for nothing i love you and i do not want to leave you then he gave Quran to aunty who read ahead and told him that in Quran it is allowed to marry 4 yateem girls he told me then i said even halala is also a solution in Quran he said in extreme anger that phir mein tumhein farigh karta hoin phir tum karlo halala. I asked what is yours intention he said shutup you are my wife and i am in anger i do not want to lose you I told him his words he said no i said to phir dafa hojao aur karo halalay and that too so that you shut shut up he swore upon Holy book that he never want to leave me or divorce me he said he was in much anger but he knew that talaq word would separate us thats why he didn't use it. Please tell me my husband says he never said words of separation and even my saas says she had not heard it now what is my condition what about talaq?

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