Those situations where Talaaq does not take place

Q: A wife accidentally told her husband that you are my father. Does this have any effect on the nikaah?

Q: I told my wife "If you ever work in that place again, I guarantee you it will break our relationship"

The intention when saying those words was in order to threaten her so she doesn't work there, but I'm not sure if I had the intention of actually divorcing her immediately if she started working there. It was in the context of that if she works there, it will affect our relationships trust. Thus it may lead to a break up, so she should be careful.

Q: My husband suffers from a serious mental illness. He has a bipolar disorder which means that he goes into both manic and depressive episodes. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist in Decembwr 2018 and is on medication for it.

We have been married for 6 and a half years, and we have 3 young children together. Our marriage was very good alhamdullilah until about a year ago when signs of his illness began.

When he is manic, he has lots of rage, he has no impulse control and behaves in a way completely out of character. He says strange things and treats everyone very badly. He can hallucinate and become paranoid. His condition has been getting worse.

A few nights ago, we had a big fight because he was saying terrible things to me by text and I was very upset. All of a sudden he said he will divorce me, if not tonight then he will do it tomorrow. He has never said anything bout divorce before. I was so upset I drove straight to his parent's house where he was and I went to him and said 'you want to divorce me? then ok, do it'! At the time he was sitting with his brother who said that he was saying strange things to him before I arrived which did not make any sense and he had been trying to calm him down. His family pulled me from the room before he could respond to me, but he went into a rage and ran in the room to me and then he said talaq 3 times. He was highly agitated, screaming at everyone and swearing at me going crazy saying things he has never said before. He went crazy at all his family and continued to act manic and agitated. This was at his parent's home in front of his family. I left the house.

Since then, in the last few days his behaviour and psychosis got so much worse he was having delusions and going completely crazy to the point he was taken by police and has now been locked in a mental health facility. They found out that he had stopped taking his medication about a week ago because he believed it was killing him, and also that his medicine dosage has been massively insufficient so they immediately doubled it. He has now gone into a depressive state and is crying constantly and talking about self harm.

Now I need to know if our divorce is valid or not. He was very obviously not in his right mind when he said it, he was enraged, off his medication and having an extremely paychotic manic episode at the time. He also previously never expressed any desire for divorce, but if it was a valid divorce then I need to know.

Q: The problem is, that my sister and her mother in law had a raw, and as the result, her husband got furious at her mom and my sister and got agressive and dragged my sister out of their house and wanted her to leave. When things started getting worse my sister said, "OK, I will leave". Her husband, still furious,(yelling at her) (first wanted her to leave) then put condition, if my sister will leave, he will say (Talaaq).

But my sister left, and now, her husband is calm, and they both want to live together. They have 2 children together.

This is very irresponsible behaviour from his side, thats for sure, but please advice us, is their marriage still sound? Will the marriage be broken if someone out of anger say's something like that? 

Q: One day me and my husband were quarreling. I said that, "you have ruined my life". Hearing that, he became angry and told me two or three times, "ok then, let's go to the Qazi and get a talaq". He did not have any intention to give me talaq or he did not say "talaq talaq talaq or I am giving you divorce". He just told me that to make me feel bad. In this case did the talaq take place?

Q: I had an argument with my wife on some issue two years back. During the argument she used the words cursed (lanat) for the nikaah. I am wondering if it has any implication on my nikaah.

Q: If a husband tells his wife, "you are my mother, you are my sister or my mother, my sister" without intending zihaar, what will happen?

Q: If a husband says to his wife "haraam or haraami" without the intention of divorce or if the parent's (husband and wife) say that their children are "haraam or haraami", is there any problem with this?

Q: If a person says to his wife "I am tired of this". Does that constitute a talaaq?

Q: If a husband says to his wife, "How can I live without you?" to express his love for his wife, is there any problem?