Rights of parents

Helping one's mother run her business

Q:

1. I currently live with my mother who runs a business from home, many a times after I return from work she requires that I assist her with her business and this takes up my time for ibaadat and serving deen. Am I sinful in refusing to assist.

Note it is not household chorus but business related.

2. I intend getting married and my mother demands that I should come by every night to assist her with her business, am I sinful if I refuse in this regard as it will take strain on the marriage.

Helping one's parents if they are in need

Q: If parents have the financial means and large amounts of savings, do the parents have the right to pressurise their children to provide free meals for them - and save their own money or give their own money to Pakistan.

We know that we have to be kind and should not say uff to our parents but do parents have a right to do this? Even with their daughters who are married? Please could you let us know.

Father wanting the son to go to university

Q: I don't know why my father wants me to further my education after using several years in secondary school. I believe that the years spent by me while in secondary school is too much, and I know that in Islam we don't have enough time to waste because death approaches someone suddenly. According to the word of Allah Ta'ala (الموت يأتى بغتتا).

With this, I believe it time for me to face my Lord and seek forgiveness, but my father wants me to go to university and I am not interested. I am confused. Please advise me.

Responsibility of taking care of old parents

Q: There seems to be a growing trend amongst our Muslims to pass on the responsibility of taking care of elderly parents to the daughters. Sons are evading the responsibilities although they inherit 2 shares and daughter in laws are afraid to accept that's it's the husband's responsibility and use hundreds of justifications on why the daughter should look after the elderly parents. Although knowledgeable about Allah's wisdom in choosing the sons, but are in total denial. In some instances, daughters are battling financially but are bullied into taking over the responsibility of the sons. Please advise and also have this as an ongoing discussion because people are conveniently stuck in their thinking about this issues because it doesn't serve their needs or are in huge denial although clearly spelt out in Allah's commands.