Oaths & Vows

Q: One day I had a fight with my wife regarding some sexual issues and unfortunately I told her "It is haram for me to have sex with you". I love my wife so much. Is there any kaffara for me?

Q: My wife made a mannat (vow) to Allah that "If I get pregnent, I will perform umrah". But I cant afford that and now she is pregnent. What should we do now?

Q: Some scholars say that if a person takes an oath saying “If I do this or do not do this, I will become a Kafir forever”. This would not necessarily result in that individual becoming a disbeliever upon the performance/non-performance of that act. The person only becomes a kafir if he or she swore the oath with the belief that he or she would adopt kufr upon its non-fulfillment. Is this true? 

Q: Me and my sister are co-owners of a flat. We agreed to sell it. Following a discussion between two of us over the fact that I will lose money, she said in a WhatsApp chat to me: “u will not lose money. Once it’s sold I will give you most of my share too. It has been my intention to give you the money all along.” Since then my sister has unfortunately fallen very ill and is in a coma. Her husband and children are now in charge of her affairs. Are they required to abide by the promise she made to me via WhatsApp once the flat is sold?

Q: About 5 years ago, I took an oath that I will not get involved with any female. If I did, then my nikah with her will terminate. Presently, my wife treats me badly, we do not share a bed. I am told to sleep in another room. I want to know, if I can withdraw my oath, as the scenario has changed? I am told to just issue her with her freedom, as she has been unhappy for the past 25 years.

Q: I made an oath that I won’t do a particular thing in my life ever again at any time in the future. If I do, I will become a kaafir. In the Tamil language any time gives the meaning of whenever, anytime in the future also used instead of whenever. I don’t know exact what I meant. Some times I feel like I might have used whenever word also. Now how can I be free from this oath. Does that mean I will become kaafir whenever I doit ?

Q: If I made a promise to Allah and decided to break it. But I didnt break it so is there any punishment for this?

Q: I made an oath that I won’t do a particular thing ever again (anytime in the future). If do it then will it be considered as shirk? Now I broke it so does that mean whenever I do it again it will be considered as shirk even after I broke the oath?

Q:

1. If a person promises something to Allah without verbally uttering it, is the promise binding? If he/she does not fulfill the promise will he/she be sinning?

2. If someone says to Allah that I will do such and such, but he/she did not say the word ‘promise’ to Allah and nor did he/she use the word ‘vow’ or ‘oath’. In this case, if the person does not do such and such action, will he/she be sinning?

Q: I made a niyat of doing a sacrifice. If one of my problems is solved then I will sacrifice this thing in front of Allah. But I want to take that back before my problem gets solved because I think I will break this niyat or promise after my problem is solved.