Oaths & Vows

Q: I made an oath to fast for a month but stipulated in the oath that if I felt unwell, I could break it. So, about a week in I had some discomfort in my chest, and felt that I should stop, so I did. (I did not break a fast). Does this mean there's no expiation? Because I gave myself some leeway in the oath I made.

Also, is it permitted to pay a charity to fulfill the kafaarat yameen on your behalf? If you make the expiation you are forgiven for breaking the oath by Allah azza wa jal?

Q: I'm trying to remember if an oath I made in the past contained multiple parts or just one part. What I remember is that I said to Allah, "I promise or wallahi, I will not do this sin again" (I did commit the sin recently, and I made the kafara already).

However, I think I may have said in the same oath: Protect me Allah, and wallahi I will not do this sin again (1) not not do a different sin (2) and not do the other sin (3))

If all 3 sins may have been mentioned in the same oath, would I have to make 3 different kaffaras ? Or just making the one kaffarah for all 3 is enough?

I made the intetion at the time for the kaffarah to cover the one thing in my mind and whatever else I may have forgot... I dont remember if I made the oath including the 3 sins or not, but I do remmber making an oath about the one sin specifically. I made these oaths when I was making tawbah to Allah when I was in a very emotional state.

Q: What is the ruling for the one who had the habit of putting her finger in her private part and satisfying herself. To get rid of this habit she took a qasam that she will not do it again, would the qasam break if her husband does it when she gets married?

Q: After certain disappointments, I told my husband that I make qasam by Allah that I won't expect anything from you in future. However, I do expect things from him. What is the kaffara of my qasam?

Q: I was married and sometime ago I have done a 2nd nikkah to another lady while my 1st wife was still in my nikkah. Before the 2nd nikkah my 1st wife took an oath on Quran from both of us, me and my 2nd wife that we will not have any sexual relation until she allows us. Now it is almost 1 year that has passed but she is still not willing to allow us. Is there anyway we can get rid of this oath? Please help us as we both husband and wife are too scared to break our oath which was done on Quraan.

Q: I am a 15 year old boy.

1. Once I was playing an indoor game with my family and lost. In anger I sweared upon Allah that I will never play this game. Now can I play the game? Is there any expiation?

2. Similarly I once went to a relatives house where I had an argument. I then sweared upon Allah and Holy Quran that I will not go to that relatives house.

Please guide me regarding both the cases. 

Q: When doing kaffarah to break an oath, can you break the oath when you make the intention for kaffarah when you doing it or after it? Whether it be fasting 3 days or feeding or dressing a poor person.

Q: If a person says,"La ilaha il lallaho Muhammadur Rasulullah I will do something (or not do something)", will it be a vow(qasam)?

Q: Years ago, I broke an oath (I vowed to give up a sin then later committed it again) and then came to find out expiation is due upon me. When I found out expiation was due, I looked at the options I had. First, feeding 10 poor people. At the time I intended to offer expiation, I had a debt to pay off, so I could not afford to pay to feed ten poor people. My next option, clothing 10 poor people, is where I fell into doubt. I own more than 10 abayas -roughly 15 - and most of them are brand new and very sentimental to me as they were recently gifted to me by my parents. I also own roughly 11 scarves, and my mother owns many more and I know if I were to ask her for more she'd happily give me some of her's. I have relatives in Pakistan who I know could distribute my clothes. However, I didn't consider this option because most of the clothes I own, I wouldn't really consider them my own since my parents gifted them to me using their money. If they were to look in my closet and see them gone, they'd be flabbergasted as they recently spent a good deal of money buying me these new clothes. Also, if I were to use 10 of them for expiation, nearly 2/3s of the clothes I wear on a week to week basis would be gone. As such, I went on to fast 3 days of oath expiation. Was what I did correct?

Q: In my past I have made vows to Allah saying that I would not do a "sin". For example if I stole something and felt really bad I would repent and say I promise I won’t ever steal again to Allah. The reason I emphasized "sin" is because some of the promises were just misconceptions meaning the "sin" is not really a sin I just promised not to do something thinking it was sinful but in truth it was not a sin. For example if I felt bad that I would delay my prayers I would promise to Allah that I would not delay the prayer ever again. Delaying prayers is not a sin but I made the promise thinking it was a sin. these misconception promises are really hard to keep and I am having a hard time living with them. So, I need to make these promises I made to Allah void or make the promises not count anymore. Is that even possible? How can I do it?