Women's Issues

Q: My question is regarding mazi and mani. 

1. Is mani thin and yellow for most women? I've read from many good sources that mani is thin and yellow for women, but can be white if the woman is strong.

2. How would I know if my mani is yellow or white in my case? There are three other characteristics that can also classify if the discharge is mani or not, such as, if it smells like pollen, comes out after feeling pleasure and spurts out. But how would I know if the mani I experience is thin and yellow, or just white. The reason is because I have seen mani come out yellow many years ago, but have only been seeing white see through discharge since I've been unwell. I would classify myself as weak because my health is not up to normal standards.

3. Can I say the white discharge I get is mazi and not mani?

4. Can, feeling extreme excitement without physically touching of a man release mani? I didn't know that a person could climax without sexual intercourse. 

Q: If a woman who is going through menopause bleeds for just one day after about 6 months of no haidh, what is the ruling? Can she make ghusal and read salaah or should she wait?

Q: Could you please provide evidence from the Quran and Sunnah why niqaab is waajib in the Hanafi School? I’ve read that “The awrah of a woman infront of a non-mahram consists of the whole body except the face, hands and feet” - Raddul Mukhtar p531. v9

Q: Can a women sleep without covering her hair and also go to the washroom without covering her head or is it haram?

Q: I have been recently hearing that it is against the sunnah for ladies to attend wedding functions, especially waleemahs. There are certain ideologies that believe women attending wedding functions is haraam altogether, and is not a sunnah: even if the functions are completely segragated and simple!

Kindly advise because I recently attended the weddings of 2 very religious relatives and everything was according to sunnah and within their means. Commenting on another religious Muslims efforts, calling them haraam, propagating women cannot attend waleemahs or wedding functions, isn't this an innovation? 

Q: My grandfather passed away a few months ago and my grandmothers iddat will be completed on Sunday insha'Allah, is there any specific procedure in which she must "break" it? 

Q: I am 31 years old and been married for 7 years. From the first day my husband was unable to consummate the marriage because of his mild autism and anxiety issues (his father was very strict and abusive which according to doctors have resulted in his personality disorder). I tried to resolve the issue with the help of psychiatrists and urologists. He was barely able to perform under very high doses of medicines. He never came near to me until I requested him that we have to do intercoarse for having kids. Otherwise, It happened several times that we lived without intercoarse for 9 months to 1 year.

Later on I came to find out that if he does perform he still can't become a father because he is infertile too (with great difficulty and several attemps at clinic, he was enabled to deposit semen for test).

Now I have decided to take the divorce as I am tired of this nursing and unfulfilling life. For about a year we have never come closer. We practically sleep and live in different bedrooms.

My question is, if he agrees to sign the divorce papers, do I have to complete the time of iddat? My periods are fine and regular and it is very clear that I am not pregnant.

Secondly, I work as a research officer in a university which won't give me leave for three months. It is very important for me as I am financially dependent on this job. Moreover, can sit in iddat (without marrying another person) while going out of the house to work? 

Q: I got married to a girl who wears niqab which I don't prefer, but before marriage I requested her to remove the niqab and she agreed to it and we got married. Now my questions are:

1. Is it a sin to remove the niqab?

2. Did we both commit sin?

3. Is it mandatory to wear niqab?

I personally do not prefer niqab because I am from Sri Lanka which is not a Muslim country, and I currently live in Qatar.

Q: I’m 24 years old and I was born with Cp. Basically I’m in a wheelchair and I can’t really do much like change, bath, et. My mum does all of that for me! I come from a pious family Alhumdullah but I live in the same yard as my uncle and he has 3 sons, all of age. When my foi’s come to visit they also have sons and I’m the only girl! All of us are unmarried. Alhumdullah besides this condition of mine my mind is fine.

I’ve been wanting to go into pardah for many years now especially because of our living conditions and now that we are all grown up! When I expressed my desire to my mum she said that wearing a cloak and pardah will be too difficult for her to carry me because cloaks are slippery and she refuses for me to wear it! The best part of this is that my mum comes from a pious family and her entire family is in pardah!

I tried explaining to her that this is the order of Allah. If I wear it Allah will make it easy for her, but to no avail! She’s extremely stubborn. My mums family is full of Ulema and I tried to get them to talk to her but they just say “Allah knows your intention”.

I see how my cousins look at me and I don’t buy into this whole cousins are your brothers story! I reached out to my grandparents, my Daadi doesn’t like pardah at all so I didn’t get anywhere with her and I won’t try. My naani says that I must make life easy for my mum as it is it’s so difficult! We are living in times of great finah. I don’t know what to do. Please advise.

Q: My cousin has been divorced from her husband and he has had a vasectomy many years ago. What is the fatwah on that regarding her iddah period (as the purpose is to determine pregnancy) and also, in regards to him seeing to her financial needs for the three months of iddah knowing that he has had a vasectomy and having the legal papers to show that he has had one?