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Being attracted to a girl

Q: I like a girl who is 17 years old and my age is 19 years. We both are classmates. I Would like to marry her. But I am not independent because I am still studying. And she also wants to study. I told her I will approach your guardian as soon as I finish my engineering. The problem is that her guardian is  hurrying for her marrage. And alhamdillah she has very good deen and taqwa. But when I said to her I want to marry, she said my guardian will do my marriage quickly. And alhamdillah we only used to talk. We never met alone. But now what should I do? Shall I say to her guardian that I will marry her after 3 years or as soon as I get independent? What should I do? She is telling me that bring your proposal before I get married. I don't want to show that I did love marriage. Pretend as if you didn't even know me before. Now what should I do?

Choosing between two proposals

Q: There is a boy who's character is very good and praised by all but he doesn't wear topi, jubba and all. He wears normal clothes, he has very humble character and has the desire to learn more about Deen as he has little knowledge about it. On the other hand there is another guy who is a very strong tableeghi boy. He dresses according to Islam, he has Deeni knowledge also, but his character is normal (not so rude not so humble). Whom should a girl prefer to marry?

Getting married after being involved in premarital affairs

Q: I'm 27 years old. I'm basically from India and working in this country. My family has arranged a girl for me who is a local Muslim girl born in this country and she's 19 years old. I went to see her few days ago and it seems like both of us are interested in each-other. The families are happy too. Now what's bothering me about her is when I ask her about her past life, she said she has been in a relationships few times. And she did sleep once with a guy. (which I appreciate that she didn't lie or hide) Now after knowing that I'm like almost heartbroken. I also had couple of relationships and I was also engaged in all those haraam acts which I regret now to the core of my heart but I never had sex which I told her. I often watch porn and masturbate. And I only had oral sex. Please help me out. Are we both in a same boat? are we equal sinners? Should I go for her? I have seen she's really sorry about her act. And she's Willing to change.

Wife changing her surname

Q: Respected Ulama. This message below is circulating on whatsapp and other social networks. Please provide a fatwa with daleel(s) why is it correct for a women who gets married to change her previous surname and keep the surname of her husband?

ﺟﻮ ﻋﻮﺭﺗﯿﮟ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮨﭩﺎ ﮐﺮ ﺍﺳﮑﯽ ﺟﮕﮧ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﺍﭘﻨﺎﺗﯽ ﮨﯿﮟ ﻭﮦ ﻏﻮﺭ ﮐﺮﯾﮟ ﮐﮧ ﯾﮧ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ﮨﮯ۔ ﻣﺎﻥ ﻟﻮ ﮐﺴﯽ ﻋﻮﺭﺕ ﮐﺎ ﺷﺎﺩﯼ ﺳﮯ ﭘﮩﻠﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﻓﺎﻃﻤﮧ ﻣﻘﺼﻮﺩ ﻋﻠﯽ ﺗﮭﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺷﺎﺩﯼ ﮐﮯ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﮐﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﯿﺴﺎﺗﮫ ﺟﻮﮌ ﮐﺮ ﻓﺎﻃﻤﮧ ﺳﺎﺟﺪ ﺭﮐﮫ ﺩﯾﺎ۔ ﯾﮧ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ﮨﮯ۔ ﺍﺱ ﮐﯽ ﺍﺟﺎﺯﺕ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﮐﮧ ﮐﻮﺉ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺑﺎﭖ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮨﭩﺎ ﮐﺮ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﮯ ﺁﮔﮯ ﻟﮕﺎﮮٔ۔ ﯾﮧ ﮐﻔﺎﺭ ﮐﺎ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮧ ﮨﮯ۔ ﮨﻤﯿﮟ ﺍﺳﮑﻮ ﺍﭘﻨﺎﻧﮯ ﺳﮯ ﺑﭽﻨﺎ ﭼﺎﮨﯿﮯٔ۔ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﮐﯽ ﺣﺪﯾﺚ ﮐﯽ ﺭﻭﺷﻨﯽ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺩﯾﮑﮭﯿﮟ -: ﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻢ ﮐﺎ ﺍﺭﺷﺎﺩ ﮨﮯ " ﺟﺲ ﻧﮯ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﻮ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﮯ ﻋﻼﻭﮦ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮐﺴﯽ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﮮ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﺟﻮﮌﺍ ( ﺟﻮ ﺍﺱ ﮐﺎ ﺑﺎﭖ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ) ﺍﺱ ﭘﺮ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺍﺳﮑﮯ ﻓﺮﺷﺘﻮﮞ ﮐﯽ ﻟﻌﻨﺖ ﮨﮯ " ۔ } ﺍﺑﻦ ﻣﺎﺟﮧ ﺣﺪﯾﺚ ﻧﻤﺒﺮ {2599 ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺍﺑﻮ ﺩﺭ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮧ ﻧﮯ ﺳﻨﺎ ﮐﮧ ﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻢ ﻧﮯ ﻓﺮﻣﺎﯾﺎ " ﮐﺴﯽ ﺁﺩﻣﯽ ﻧﮯ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﮯ ﺳﻮﺍ ﺍﭘﻨﯽ ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺖ ﮐﺴﯽ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮐﯿﺴﺎﺗﮫ ﻣﻼﺉ ﺍﺱ ﻧﮯ ﮐﻔﺮ ﮐﯿﺎ۔ ﺟﺲ ﻧﮯ ﺍﺱ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺳﮯ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﻮ ﺟﻮﮌﺍ ﺟﻮ ﺍﺱ ﮐﺎ ﺑﺎﭖ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﻭﮦ ﺍﭘﻨﺎ ﭨﮭﮑﺎﻧﺎ ﺟﮩﻨﻢ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺑﻨﺎﻟﮯ " ۔ } ﺑﺨﺎﺭﯼ ﺷﺮﯾﻒ ﺣﺪﯾﺚ ﻧﻤﺒﺮ {3508 ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺳﻌﺪ ﺑﻦ ﺍﺑﯽ ﻭﻗﺎﺱ ﯾﺎ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺍﺑﻮﺑﮑﺮ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻨﮩﻤﺎ ﻧﮯ ﮐﮩﺎ ﮐﮧ ﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻢ ﻧﮯ ﻓﺮﻣﺎﯾﺎ " ﺟﻮ ﯾﮧ ﮐﮩﺘﺎ ﮨﮯ ﮐﮧ ﻭﮦ ﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎﻥ ﮨﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻭﮦ ﮐﺴﯽ ﮐﯿﺴﺎﺗﮫ ﺧﻮﺩ ﮐﻮ ﺟﻮﮌﺗﺎ ﮨﮯ ﺟﻮ ﺍﺳﮑﺎ ﺑﺎﭖ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﯾﮧ ﺟﺎﻥ ﮐﺮ ﮐﮧ ﻭﮦ ﺍﺳﮑﺎ ﺣﻘﯿﻘﯽ ﺑﺎﭖ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ : ﺟﻨﺖ ﺍﺱ ﮐﮯ ﻟﯿﮯٔ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ﮨﮯ " ۔ } ﺑﺨﺎﺭﯼ ﺷﺮﯾﻒ ﺣﺪﯾﺚ ﻧﻤﺒﺮ {4072 ﺍﺱ ﺳﮯ ﺯﯾﺎﺩﮦ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮐﯿﺎ ﻭﺍﺭﻧﻨﮓ ﮨﻮﺳﮑﺘﯽ ﮨﮯ ﮐﮧ ﯾﮧ ﮐﻔﺎﺭ ﮐﺎ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮧ ﮨﮯ۔ ﺣﻀﺮﺍﺕ ﯾﮧ ﮐﻔﺎﺭ ﮐﺎ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮧ ﺗﮭﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺁﺝ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﯼ ﺑﮩﻨﯿﮟ ﺑﮍﮮ ﺷﻮﻕ ﺳﮯ ﺍﺳﮑﻮ ﺍﭘﻨﺎﺗﯽ ﮨﯿﮟ۔ ﯾﺎﺩ ﺭﮨﮯ ﺑﺎﭖ ﮐﺎ ﺭﺷﺘﮧ ﮐﺴﯽ ﺑﮭﯽ ﻧﮯٔ ﺭﺷﺘﮯ ﮐﯽ ﻭﺟﮧ ﺳﮯ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﭨﻮﭨﺘﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺍﻭﻻﺩ ﮐﯽ ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺖ ﺍﻭﺭ ﭘﮩﭽﺎﻥ ﺍﺳﮑﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﺳﮯ ﮨﻮﮔﯽ۔ ﺍﮔﺮ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﻟﮕﺎﻧﺎ ﺟﺎﺋﺰ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺻﺤﯿﺢ ﮨﻮﺗﺎ ﺗﻮ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﮐﯽ ﺑﯿﻮﯾﻮﮞ ﻧﮯ ﺑﮭﯽ ﺍﭘﻨﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﺑﺪﻻ ﮨﻮﺗﺎ ﮐﯿﻮﻧﮑﮧ ﺍﻥ ﮐﮯ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﺗﻮ ﺩﻧﯿﺎ ﮐﮯ ﺍﻓﻀﻞ ﺗﺮﯾﻦ ﺷﺨﺺ ﺗﮭﮯ۔ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ خدیجہ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ﮨﻤﯿﺸﮧ خدیجہ ﺑﻨﺖ ﺧﻮﺍﻟﺪ ﺭﮨﯿﮟ۔ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﻋﺎﺋﯿﺸﮧ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ﮨﻤﯿﺸﮧ ﺗﺎ ﻋﻤﺮ ﻋﺎﺋﯿﺸﮧ ﺻﺪﯾﻘﮧ ﺭﮨﯿﮟ ﮐﮧ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺍﺑﻮﺑﮑﺮ ﺻﺪﯾﻖ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮧ ﮐﯽ ﺑﯿﭩﯽ ﺗﮭﯿﮟ۔ ﯾﮩﺎﮞ ﺗﮏ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﮐﯽ ﻭﮦ ﺑﯿﻮﯾﺎﮞ ﺟﻦ ﮐﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﻔﺎﺭ ﺗﮭﮯ ﺁﭖ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﻧﮯ ﺍﻥ ﮐﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﺎ ﻟﻘﺐ ﺑﮭﯽ ﮐﺒﮭﯽ ﺗﺒﺪﯾﻞ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﮐﯿﺎ۔ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺻﻔﯿﮧ ﺑﻨﺖ ﺣﯿﺎﯾﮧ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ﮐﺎ ﺑﺎﭖ ﯾﮩﻮﺩﯼ ﺗﮭﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﮐﺎ ﺟﺎﻧﯽ ﺩﺷﻤﻦ ﺑﮭﯽ ﺗﮭﺎ۔ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﺍﻟﺴﻼﻡ ﻧﮯ ﺍﭘﻨﯽ ﺑﯿﻮﯼ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﺻﻔﯿﮧ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ﮐﯿﺴﺎﺗﮫ ﺍﻥ ﮐﮯ ﻟﻘﺐ ﮐﻮ ﺑﺪﻟﻨﮯ ﮐﮯ ﺑﺠﺎﮮٔ ﻭﯾﺴﮯ ﮨﯽ ﺑﺮﻗﺮﺍﺭ ﺭﮐﮭﺎ۔ ﺟﻨﺖ ﻣﯿﮟ ﻋﻮﺭﺗﻮﮞ ﮐﯽ ﺳﺮﺩﺍﺭ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﻓﺎﻃﻤﮧ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮩﺎ ﮨﻤﯿﺸﮧ ﻓﺎﻃﻤﮧ ﺑﻨﺖ ﻣﺤﻤﺪ ( ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻢ ) ﺭﮨﯿﮟ۔ ﺍﻧﮩﻮﮞ ﻧﮯ ﺣﻀﺮﺕ ﻋﻠﯽ ﺭﺿﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻨﮧ ﮐﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﮯ ﺳﺎﺗﮫ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﻮ ﮐﺒﮭﯽ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﺟﻮﮌﺍ۔ ﮔﺰﺍﺭﺵ ﺟﺲ ﺑﮩﻦ ﻧﮯ ﻏﻠﻄﯽ ﺳﮯ ﺍﯾﺴﺎ ﮐﯿﺎ ﮨﮯ ﯾﺎ ﮐﺴﯽ ﺷﻮﮨﺮ ﻧﮯ ﻻﻋﻠﻤﯽ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺍﯾﺴﺎ ﮐﯿﺎ ﮨﻮ ﻭﮦ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﮐﮯ ﺣﻀﻮﺭ ﺳﭽﯽ ﺗﻮﺑﮧ ﮐﺮﮮ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻭﺍﻟﺪ ﮐﺎ ﻧﺎﻡ ﻭﺍﭘﺲ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻧﺎﻡ ﮐﯿﺴﺎﺗﮫ ﺟﻮﮌﮮ۔ ﮨﻤﯿﮟ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺍﻋﻤﺎﻝ ﮐﺎ ﺣﺴﺎﺏ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﻋﺰﻭﺟﻞ ﮐﻮ ﺩﯾﻨﺎ ﮨﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﯾﮧ ﺳﺮﺍﺳﺮ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺍﺱ ﮐﮯ ﺭﺳﻮﻝ ﺻﻠﯽ ﺍﻟﻠﮧ ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽ ﻋﻠﯿﮧ ﻭ ﺳﻠﻢ ﮐﯽ ﻧﺎﻓﺮﻣﺎﻧﯽ ﮨﮯ۔ ﺣﻀﺮﺍﺕ ﺍﺱ ﭘﻮﺳﭧ ﮐﻮ ﭘﮍﮬﻨﮯ ﮐﮯ ﺑﻌﺪ ﺯﯾﺎﺩﮦ ﺳﮯ ﺯﯾﺎﺩﮦ ﺷﯿﺌﺮ ﮐﺮﯾﮟ ﺗﺎﮐﮧ ﯾﮧ ﺑﺎﺕ ﮨﺮﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎﻥ ﺗﮏ ﭘﮩﻨﭽﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻭﮦ ﺍﺱ ﭘﺮ ﻋﻤﻞ ﮐﺮﮮ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺁﭖ ﮐﻮ ﺑﮭﯽ ﻧﯿﺖ ﺧﯿﺮ ﮐﺎ ﺛﻮﺍﺏ ﻣﻠﮯ۔