nikaah

Q: I'm a high school girl and I have some questions about some things written in my Islamic studies book. There is a verse that goes "Whenever a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses and then he passes the night in an angry mood, the angel curses her till she gets up at dawn" It is also written repeatedly that a woman must be sexually submissive to her husband and she may not even fast without his permission because he cannot have intercourse with her while she is fasting. This greatly distressed me. Allah is the most Fair and Knowing and I know I couldn't begin to understand His reasoning. However I'd like if you could explain to me why there doesn't seem to be the concept of consent on a woman's behalf in marriage. The common claim that "men get more sexually frustrated" does not seem to be enough as I think that he should still take in account his wife's consent and if he is abusive because of this that is no excuse.

Q: In Islam, is it halaal to get married under 18 but by Law its illegal to get married under 18?

My question is: Can I do nikah but not get married by Law (I'm under 18 and the girl is under 18 too and we are in Europe... In my country like most of the countries its illegal to get married under 18)

Ma Sha Allah im 17 and she is 16 which means we have to wait 2 years... We both are muslims Ma Sha Allah, and she has a "wali" and everything else. Alhamdulilah its okay but that is the one and only problem.

Q:

1. If before giving the marriage consent in front of witnesses a girl takes an oath that if she does a certain thing her nikaah is invalid but she breaks the above oath when she is married ...is her nikaah valid?

2. If after giving the marriage consent in front of witnesses a girl takes an oath that if she does a certain thing her nikaah is invalid but she breaks the above oath when she is married ...is her nikaah valid?

Q: A girl and a boy used to like each other. One day, one of the friends of the boy asks the girl ‘Do you marry Zayd (the boy)?’ The girl replied ‘Yes’ in front of many people. Are they married now?

Note that the boy did not say anything nor appointed his friend to conduct the marriage. The friend just joked with the girl.

Q: If someone commits zina with a woman and later he commits zinnah with her daughter. Now he got married to the daughter. Is the nikaah or should he divorce her? What should he do?

Q: I am married and a father of one child. My wife is 4-5 weeks pregnant and we both are not ready for this child because my first child was born one month ago with c section and I currently don't have a job and we are in a lot of problems also. Can we opt for an abortion?

Q: Can a Muslim boy pray to Allah to marry a Hindu girl? For example he says like this "Ya Allah, give her hidayat so that I can marry her.

Q: If an Aalimah who wears full niqab and does not intermingle with men or watch tv movies etc. gets a proposal from a doctor whos a hafiz, which means he probably does khalwat with women and he watches football, would you even tell the Aalimah to consider him? He is praised for his akhlaaq. He also visits a female dentist.

Should the Aalimah even consider him. She has hope of doing amr bil maroof but fears marriage problems thereafter. Her grandfather (Allah enlighten his qabr) was a Shaikhul Hadeeth.

Q: Can a man or woman who don’t want to get married stay unmarried for the whole life?

Q: We are married for 5 years now but we still dont have any children. We want to adopt a newly born baby, please help us.