Taubah and Repentance

Q: In the light in these few ahadith, what is the method of the zaalim in order to be forgiven with Allah and also with the person he has abused? Can the mazlum person ask forgiveness from Allah and that the zaalim without asking forgiveness with Allah can be forgiven? If my question does not make sense where it is wrongly asked can you please tell me what is the attitude of an zaalim in order to no longer be mean?

1. "When the people see a zaalim and they do not stop him from doing wrong then soon Allah Ta’ala will punish them all” Imam Tirmidhi (rahimahullah) has recorded this narration on the authority of Sayyiduna Abu Bakr As Siddiq (radiyallahu ‘anhu) and has declared the Hadith authentic. (Sunan Tirmidhi, Hadith: 2168 and 3057)

2. Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his reputation/honour or anything else should seek to be absolved by him before there will be neither dinar nor dirham. If he has right actions, they will be taken from him to balance the injustice he did, and if he does not have any good actions, the bad deeds of mazlum will be loaded onto him.” (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 2449).

3. Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Do you know who is a bankrupt person?” They said: “A poor man among us is one who has neither Dirhams nor any goods.” Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “The pauper from my Ummah would be he who will come on the Day of Qiyamah with Salah, fasts and Zakah but he had hurled abuses upon someone, slandered others, unlawfully consumed the wealth of someone, shed the blood of another and struck others. So his good deeds will be credited to these people. If his good deeds get depleted before he can settle, then their sins will be flung onto him and he would be thrown in the Fire. (Sahih Muslim, Hadith: 2581)

Q: I have done evil sins which no one knows about and sometimes when my friends talk about those people I feel uneasy in my heart and when I am reading the Quraan, a verse reminding me of the sin and I repented sincerely from the sin. How should I react? Should I pretend I never did it?

Q: I want to repent, for the sins I committed, in front of Allah Ta‘ala at the time of tahajjud. Can you please tell me what i should do to repent?

Q: Its been a while I'm having some confusion about my attitude whether its something one calls self respect or sort of pride or ego. I'm not able to differentiate between the two terms. I'm aware of the virtues of forgiving others and have positive thoughts for others yet at times, no matter how much I try, I cant let go off the feeling that somebody did that to me, hurt my sentiments, and how much I try to get away from such negativity, it comes back to my mind with even more potential. Like, I will think "Did you forget what was done to you? Do you still wanna go and meet them? They cant be your allies like the way they used to be before.

One thing I would like to clear, it's not that I'm an egoistic person, I forgive easily but maintain a distance, even if my heart is willing to get the same ties back. Is it a version of pride? I need advice regarding my behavior towards such attitudes of people, even of close friends!

Q: I've made gheebat of many people but now I have repented.

1. Is it necessary to ask them for forgiveness as they do not know that I've made gheebat about them?

2. If I've made gheebat about somebody many years ago and they knew about it at that time but most probably forgot it now, do I have to ask them for forgiveness?

Q: When I commit a sin, I seek forgiveness but I struggle to feel emotions of regret in my heart. Is it okay if I force my self to be regretful and does hating the sin qualify as remorse?

Q: Apart from making duaa, can one fast as a means of asking for forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala for a sin committed?

Q: Can we do tawbah in Urdu?

Q: I drank 2 small sips of beer that contains 6 or 8 % of alcohol but I didn’t feel any type of difference in my body. Everything was normal and no intoxication and nothing different in my behaviour.

My question is, can I go for payers to the mosque or I’m not allowed to enter the mosque for 40 days?

Q: When I was young and not baaligh I remember taking stickers from my young uncle without his knowledge which he didn't want to share with me. Now as an adult I realise the wrong of my action. Am I sinful? And if so, how can I recompense? I do not wish to answer for this wrong in the Hereafter.