children

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I have been reading up on Hurmat Musaaharah and had the following questions:

1. If a boy touches his sister with lust, are their children, etc. allowed to marry each other?

2. If a boy touches his cousin (parents siblings children) with lust, are their children allowed to marry each other?

Husband not interested in having children

Q: I want to know about azal in Islam as my husband don't want to have children from marriage up till now, which is 8 years already. He don't want children  for the next 5-6 years and is insisting that I take family planning medicine but I dont want to take it because it is affecting my body badly and I get sick very fast from them. What is the right of the wife in this situation? Should I live with him or separate?

Awlaad ki tarbiyat

Q: Mara eman o aqeeda per ha ya abhi thori dair pahlay ki baat ha ma so rahi thi meri beti ju takreeban 5saal ki honay wali ha meray pass leti or bachu ki zuban ko kuch perna start ho gayi ma so b rahi thi or uthi b hui thi iss condition ko pata nahi kaya kehtay hain lakin so b rahi thi or uthi b keh ly ab wo apni zuban mein kuch per rahi thi or kuch uss me Allah ka b naam ly rahi thi lakin kuch pata nahi kaya per rahi thi mara dil mein ya ayya k kahun (bakwas band karo) lakin sirf bak kaha or ussay aik tapar mara mujy khayal ayya ky uss mein Allah ka name b lay rahi thi issi liya ya baat nahi ki ab mujy uss waqat ka dil mein dar or fiker sa ha k mara eman o achay amal iss tarha sa zaya tu nahi ho gaya or mara nikah ma buht prashan hon baat app ko email mein porie likh di ha maray sath aisay hi hota ha ma kuch b iss tarha ka ho jaiya tu apnay oper sawar ker leti hon or wo sara dil mara tention or prashani mein guzarta ha plz mujy bataye mary moun mein khak naouzbillah me Apnay Allah ko kyn kahun gi koi b zee roh jis mein thora sa eman ho wo jan bhoj ker Allah ko nahi kahy ga kuch b

Sirf larko ko hadiya dena

Q: Ek mashwara kerna tha ka, ek shaks ha jis ka do larkay or ek larki ha ab woh admi chata ha ka larakon ko alag ker don itna wasail nahi hain woh apna gar bache ker 20 lakh ake or 20 lakh dosray ko dena cha raha hain .Is main 2no bhaion na walid ko mashwara diya ka hiyati main wirsa to hota nahi ap yeh hamain gift ker dain kun ka hamari zaroorat ha . Phir baad main jo gar aap ka ha us main sa ham saab bant lain ga .aab masla yeh ha ka yeh to gift la lain 2 no Bhai to ap ko nahi lagta ha larki ka sath na insafi ho jaye gi .Or 2no bhaion ka apna apna alag kam kertay hain walid sa alag ha.

Husband refusing to have a child

Q: I am 33 years old and have been married for 11 years, no children. My husband refuses to start a family with me saying, I can't force him to have a baby. Im afraid I'm getting too old. The longer we wait and the older I get, the more I resent him. He is distant and selfish, and lacks compassion and understanding. We have intercourse once every few months and he insists on using protection.

Providing for one's father's new wife and her children

Q: My father has married a young woman who has brought three young children with her and a grandson. My father does not work and he is almost seventy now. He has no pension whatsoever and his only source of income is the money me and my siblings give him. This is his third marriage. The first was to mother who passed away, he got divorced in the second marriage and he was living with my elder sister until now. Then he got married and decided to move into the unfinished house we were building for him. The question is, me and my siblings do not have well paying jobs and still we tried our best to care for him but now he has brought a woman and 4 children that will need support from him. As a Muslim, is it my duty to care for his family? It was already hard to care for him alone and just how are we going to manage taking care of 6 people including him and his wife? Will Allah Ta'ala be angry with us? Because when we send him money now its never enough and we also have our own lives to care for.

Placing one's trust in Allah

Q: I wanted to know how would a sister who no longer wants any kids due to clinical depression and who’s had health issues for over 6 years which affects her daily life, search for a spouse? She is not living a normal life as it is so she can’t take on the responsibility of a child and doesn't want any anyway despite loving kids all her life and knowing it’s a Sunnah. She’s going on 27 and has been wanting to have a companion for years if not a child. It will change her in good ways and help her lower her gaze.

She doesn't have time to go from person to person and and keep mentioning not having kids and being rejected. Also due to some men being desperate to get married, some just agree and say yes it’s ok for the sake of it but have no idea what they are getting themselves in to and how it would affect them in the long term when they see their friends have kids and when their parents start forcing them to have kids so she needs someone who isn’t influenced by people and is sure that they are ok with NOT wanting kids. She's not ever planning to be a 2nd wife either so this sister is making her self very clear before hand and needs to be taken seriously. She doesn’t mind accepting older men who are divorced and already have kids if they can accept to NOT having more otherwise if they do then that's a problem.

There are more people out there now that don’t want kids but it’s hard to find them or brothers who have a medical problem and can't have kids, there is no help to bring these people together.