doubts

Q: I have doubt about oath. I am in doubt if I took an oath that I will not go to a particular place. Now I am very depressed whether I took an oath or not? Also it may be possible that I took an oath not verbally. I am very confused that should I go to that place or not?

Q: I remember making something napaak a while back and I also vaguely remember cleaning it and this was almost a year ago but now I have started thinking about it again and I can't remember whether I cleaned it or not. Shall I clean it again or shall I ignore the doubts?

Q: Does doubt break wudhu?

Q: In our local shopping centre there is a small prayer room. Three of us entered to pray zuhr salah and decided to pray in jammat. I was chosen to lead the prayer. We finished salah and went our separate ways. My question is this, after salah and returning home I kept feeling I prayed only 3 rakaats. I just couldn't get this feeling out of my mind. When we finished the other two never mentioned I only completed 3 rakat, so to tell you the truth I do not know whether I completed 3 or 4 rakaats. What must I do or should have done?

Q: I read here that wudu must be done in a way that water flows on the parts of the body we wash. I make my wudu in the toilet that is used by non-Muslims that have incontinence and use pieces of clothing to secure their underwear from urine. They use these clothes in a mutual sink. Before wudu I wash toilet sit, try to wash floor every time I see strange drops there, but I don’t wash think, I hope when they wash those clothes, the contamination of urine that occurs is then being washed away with water. However I still doubt that sink, but cant spend so much time every time to wash it too, what I do is, I use a dipper for my wudu. I put a hand inside and then lift it up with some water in my arms, let that water flor on my hand till elbow, this doesn’t happen till the elbow as water isn’t enough and I just help with another hand, I take some water and kind of wipe my hands with it. I try not to splash too much water on a sink to avoid drops on my clothes. Is it ok in shaa Allah?

Q: I am the only Muslim at home and I eat what I separately cook (halaal meat, etc). My non-Muslim family cooks meat I have no information about, they also eat salami that contains pork, etc. When the cook meat splashes of fat can fall on kitchen appliances (kettle, oven itself, etc). But what bothers me the most is that it splashes also on a kitchen towel, because it hangs on an oven hand. They can also touch this towel after touching meat or other haram products and then they use the same towel to dry dishes after washing them. When I use kitchen appliances I wash them 3 times under the water as I was told. Now I have some questions to you. Please don’t answer any of questions out of pity. JazakAllahu khairan

1. Do I need to wash dishes before using them 3 times? Is holding them under the water for a while enough or a hand must be used to wash them 3 times?

2. If I know my mother cooked some soup or dish with no meat and haram ingredients, can I eat it too knowing that she didn’t wash anything 3 times as I do or I have to make myself something simple, like boil pasta, fried egg, etc? Hunger is not a problem for me, just want to make sure all is halal in shaa Allah.

3. As in 2., if there is nothing else except bread to eat, can I eat that food? Eating just bread is no problem for me, just want to make sure I am not overacting and not making life difficult for nothing. And if there is no bread as an option?

4. If I see how my family cuts salami and then with the same hands touch bread, the box where we keep the bread or other objects, a) can I eat that bread too afterwards? Obviously they touched it and cut a piece for themselves, but what about the rest, is it contaminated for me now? B) do I have to always wash my hands after touching objects that I saw them touching with najasa hands? If yes, then should soap be used always or if I feel that the fat is being washed away with just water will it be enough in shaa Allah?

5. If I feel no fat on the object, but it’s an object from my suspicious list of objects they touch every day, is water enough or soap must be used?

6. If there is nothing else for me to eat and I know that this particular dish is cooked with products that are A) suspicious or B) clearly having some ingredients haram (like alcohol or animal fat), am I allowed to eat it or better to stay hungry? Is haram allowed only when you are dying from hunger or also when there is nothing else to eat too? Please answer for A and B..

7. Soon I will leave my job in shaa Allah due to mixing with men and will have to eat what is bought on my family’s money, does it mean I have to avoid suspicious dishes (with no meat) and cook pasta or eggs, for myself all the time? I don’t want my family to say that I use products when there is a dish to eat and that Islam makes me do strange things (for their understanding)

8. If I wash dishes that were used to cook haram meat, and splashes of water mixed with fat and liquid soap fall on my clothes, should I change it for salah, should I wash it under the flush (water jet) or rubbing a place 3 times with wet hands is sufficient in shaa Allah?

Q: I used to eat haraam meat astaghfirullah. The najis meat was mixed with najis meat sauce and came into contact with plates, glasses and cutlery, therefore making them najis too. I cannot remember if I cleaned the plates/glasses/cutlery afterwards. However, I don't think they would have been left unwashed because plates glasses and cutlery are regularly washed in my house, especially by my mother. Additionally, it's been around 3-4 months since the plates/glasses/cutlery came in contact with najis (because I've stopped eating haram meat alhamdulillah) and in that time many of them have been used and washed several times by people in my house. Please bear in mind that I have many plates, glasses & cutlery in my house, and I cannot be sure which exact ones came in contact with the najis food. Do I assume them all now to be tahir, or najis? Will najis transfer on my hands and mouth through wetness, or if I eat wet food like curry off them? Please don't say "if there are no traces assume purity" because I've already come into contact with these items through wetness or eaten things like curry off them without checking for traces of impurity beforehand. And after eating wet food off the plates, my spit came into contact with some of my clothes. Additionally, what I may perceive to be traces of the haram meat could be remains from the halal meat cooked by my mother.