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Q: My husband is a pilot and works for an airline. The airline filed a case against him and gave him a show cause notice since he has a fake graduation degree which is true but at that time he had no other option because he had to enroll in an exam otherwise he would have waited for 2 yrs to enroll again. Now his job is at stake and its been 2 yrs and the case is still pending. Due to the show cause notice, all the privileges like free tickets has been taken away. The issue is that my husband travels alot, sometimes twice a month for 1 week but I am not able to travel frequently with him because due to the show cause notice I have to pay for a full ticket and it really makes me feel sad and I cry. I don't have kids and I want to be with my husband most of the time. My father in law is a captain and he travels all the time with my mother in law and I feel all alone. I know he made a mistake and now he realized that but this is not my fault. What dua should I read? Should I pray that my husband's case ends?

Q: I am mother of 3 little kids and I am working very hard. My hubby is not working because he is addicted to drugs. He can’t even help me. I am staying with my in laws and one of brother in laws is in house. We living in a 5 bedroom house. My 3 sister in laws are married and they are all loaded. They come few times weekly and I don’t mine at all. But one of my sisters in law keeps telling me to move out and she keeps saying that I am not allowed to stay in the house where there is a ghair mahrum (which is my last my brother in law). I told her that I dont have anywhere to go. She keeps saying that I must buy a house on mortgage and move. She also tells this to my in laws and they remain quiet not saying anything to me or her. I told her that if, in Islam, it is not right to stay in the same house with a brother in law then how is it correct to take out a mortgage loan? Isn’t this dealing in interest? Then she didn’t say anything.

Then she came again and said to me that my kids are growing up and they are sharing a room which is not permissible (2 boys who are 13 and 8 and a little daughter who is 6). I told her that I don’t have anything and my hubby is not working either and not saving. I am working to feed the kids and pay their school fees and covering all the expenses. She started a fight but my in laws never say anything to her.

She always abuses me mentally and emotionaly but they dont ever say anything to her. My hubby doesnt even take my side because he is always drugged. She started calling me an animal and this and that. I stayed with my in laws for 14 years and never be a problem with them but my brother in law and sister in law always fight with me and abuse me but they always right and I am wrong. They all on one side and I am alone with my 3 little kids.

I moved out of the house with my kids and hubby never helped me with anything. She is brain washing all of them and I am going through a very hard time to live with 3 kids as a single mum. Is that right the way they are treating me. Now they all happy and I am really sad. Allah Ta'ala knows that we dont have everything and the kids are even missing their grandparents since I was working and they were looking after them. Make duaa for me and kids.

Q: I know my question is very strange but I am 21 year old female.. I had the option of either doing a root canal or pull my tooth out. I decided on pulling it out. And since I pulled it out I've been crying out of regret cause I can't just replace it due to other complications. I am sad because it's gone. Can I say this was Allah's plan or was it the consequence of my own choice?

Q: I want to be a good person and a better Muslim, please help me. I keep making the same mistakes in which after doing them, I realize that it was wrong. I want to be a good Muslim.

Q: Will applying for a busary be regarded as a form of begging? I am unemployed but not disadvantaged or financially needy. The busary will be given based mainly on my academic performance. The busary may be paid back voluntarily - I will not be obligated in any way.

Q: A married woman with 3 chidren (7, 6, 2 years) has been cheating her husband and was in contact with unknown men for the last 6 years through internet facebook, whats app etc. She posted her pictures on facebook with makeup and even semi nude pictures in body fitness workout dress. Finally she committed zina after inviting one of the men to her home at the time her husband was at work. She repeated the zina at least once. She does not seem to be repentful. She used to lie, cheat, tell others that her husband is cruel. From clear “qaraa’in” she stole cash whenever she could. She used to spend hours and hours on internet and would go to her neighbours and spend time there chatting on internet and will then leave to cook food and will leave her home unattended. With all this, and her written confession of zina. Now her husband has cancelled her visa and has sent her back to her parents. Children were happy on her leaving because of her bad behaviour. She was so cruel she used to order the six year old son to iron the clothes though a maid would come for five days a week.

Now the questions:

1) is it jaiz that the husband and close relatives explain to children that the mother is not good has bad habits and not suitable for them to get together. If not done so, the children when become a little older will fight with the father with sympathy for the mother.

2) Is it jaiz to tell people when they ask about her that she committed zina and other bad things. Otherwise people have all the sympathy for the woman and blame husband

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My husband and I have been having major difficulties in our marriage for a number of reasons for the last year. However last week we had a terrible fight. In this fight he told me that I must F... Off. I have been advised that this counts a one Talaq. Is this the case?

My 2nd questions is that my husband is impotent. I have asked him many times to seek medical assistance as this has been going on for many years. He however says that he is scared and doesn't want to go. To be honest this is a major source of unhappiness for me and a major contributing factor as to why we cannot overcome our difficulties. We no longer have a connection. I feel terrible resentment towards him for not even as least attempting to get help. When we have our fights and I say I am leaving he always says he is going to commit suicide and I get scared and decide not to leave. But this is now affecting my health and I feel oppressed and don't know which direction to go. What are my rights regarding this.

Q: I want to know if I can sell my wife's gold set? My wife is not happy that I sell it. Does Islam give me permission to sell her gold set since we are have financial issues.