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Q: When my brother in law's wife was pregnant, I said that if she gives birth to a baby girl I will pray tahajud namaz everyday. But later I felt guilty about this and few days later she delivered baby girl. 2 months later I became pregnant and till I maintained tahajud namaz I was safe. When I did not pray tahajud the next day, I had to undergo major surgery. It was ectopic pregnancy my tube was ruptured. I think that God punished me. I sad sorry from depth of my heart because I took tahajud namaz lightly. Will Allah forgive me or not? Will I be punished my whole life if I don't pray tahajud? 

Q: I finished school and I've decided to do Aalim course. I've told my family that this is what I want to do with my life and many disagreed saying that how will I provide for myself and family. I am in a state of sadness because of the lack of my family's support and I don't know what to do.

Q: I am in a very discomforting situation in my life. I don't know who to ask but I think Allah SWT guided me to you. In my family, only my mum does Shariah Pardha. In my Dad's side of the family, it is a norm to get married in the family as well as to talk to your cousins.

A while ago I communicated with my male cousins but I realised it is wrong. Therefore when I went back home I only spoke to them if there was a dire need. I don't do Shariah Pardha at the moment but I hope to do so.

Anyhow, I got engaged to my uncle's son whom attends jamaats etc. He tried to communicate but I ignored the messages. Later he spoke to my female cousins, therefore I responded and explained that I don't find it appropriate talking to you. But he doesn't understand.

My parents think it's okay for me to talk to him if I talk within limits. However, I don't want to talk to him and I have explained a couple of times, however he does not understand. I don't know what I should do.

Q: Our son aged 21 smokes weed and refuses to read salah most days, (we and siblings do read salat). He is applying for a job and he refuses to be tested for weed. What shoudl we do Islamicaly? Can we ask him to leave the house, etc.?

Q: I like a girl very much and i am of marriable age. I told my parents about her and they went ahead and visited the girl's house. When i asked my dad if he liked the girl he said he didnt like her but if i persist with this girl he doesn't have a problem and will accept her whole heartedly. My dad has taken this talk forward and it is in the final stages but since this topic has started my dad has almost stopped talking to me. I stay far away from my town because of my job, i try calling my dad multiple times a day he doesn't receive any calls from me. If somehow i get to talk to my dad through my mom he doesn't show any interest in talking to me. I have asked my dad if he is upset or angry on me because of the decision i took he says "No I am not angry on you". I never knew that this would be my dad's reaction after my decision since at the starting itself he said he will accept any decision happily otherwise i wouldn't even have think about this girl ever again. I don't even know if his reaction is due to this decision or because of something else. I tried talking to my mom as well she says that i should keep calling my dad someday he will pick it up. I asked my mom if she can talk to dad and ask what exactly is the reason but even she says that dad isn't angry but i can get to know that there is definitely something wrong. I dont want to keep my dad angry or upset because of me, please tell me how can i solve the issue when my dad isn't talking to me at all ? What do i do when i know he is upset but keeps saying he isnt? Is there any specific dua or wazifa by which can help me in this matter?

Q: After the death of one's father, what can the children do for their father? My father died last Thursday. I saw him without any clothes and I am worried about him.

Q: I am a 21 year old Muslimah. My father wants me to start hifz with him at home (he is an aalim and haafiz). Am I obliged? I feel overwhelmed

Q: I am married with my wife for almost 15 years and we have 3 children together. We have had a lot of problems before and I except the fact that most of the time I was to be blamed for the problems, drugs was 1 of the biggest problems in our marriage.

Recently I was set up by some cops and got locked up. In that time my wife got hold of my phone and listened to some voice notes where A and I was chatting. The chatting all started when I get into bed then my wife will turn her back to me and go sleep. Thats how it came that I was chatting to another female. When I came home after I was locked up then I was put out of the house becoz of the voice notes and me being locked up. I moved out but that wasn't enough for her. Becoz its my moms house and I'm my mothers only child.

After I slept in my car for a few nights already I got a msg from her saying that she dont know how to face me but shes moving out. I got at home with in about 30 mins and all her and the kids stuff was packed in boxes already she was just waiting for a truck to cum and load her stuff. I went back to work while she was still at home after work when I got home, the place was empty. She just left without saying anything; where shes going or whats going to happen. Becoz her mother stays in a different area now, shes telling me she got the kids into schools close to her mom which means to me that she's not intending to come back home and leave me for good.

Firstly, is she allowed to leave the house that we were living in without my permission irrespective the issues?

Secondly, can her mother just accept her like that just by listening to her side of the story and not mine? Uptill this very moment, not 1 of her family members contacted me in any way to find out what my side of the story is.

Thirdly, shes now sleeping almost a week out of the house. What can be done about this situation?

Q: Give me most powerful dua to increase my knowledge and memory.