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Marital problems

Q: I am a 27 year old girl. I am marrid with 2 children. My husband is 35 years old. We have been married for 9 years, of which the first 8 years we were back and forth from eachother because he was in Pakistan and I was here. He has been here now for 1 and a half years approx. The 1st 6 months were great but this last year has been really hard for me. I dont know how to say this but he doesn't sexualy please me at all. he acts totally dead when u say anything. I really dont know what to do. I am doing sin because of him. What am I supposed to do?

Marital problems

Q: Meri shadi ko 2 saal hogye hn or mera ak beta hai ak saal ka. Mere shohar shadi se phele hi ak shia ladki se milte the 10 saal se us se talluk rakha huwa hai. Parents ki zabardsti se mujhse shadi to karli lakin ab wo mujhse koi talluk nhi rkhte. Wo larki unko force krhy hai k mujhe chohr de wo. Lakin apne parents k dar se wo mujhe nhi chohrte. Mre susral wale b unko kuch nhi kehte q k wo unse b battamizi krte hn. Mujhe mera koi haq nhi dete. Or us larki se har tarhan ka relation rakha hua hai. Mujhe bataen k me kia karon. Kia me apne shohar ko chohr don?

Premarital relationship

Q: There is a man who is interested in me and we have been seeing each other which we are aware is very wrong. We are eager to make nikah. I am stable in my career but he is younger than me and is just starting out. We have had a meeting with both our parents. His mother is only willing to accept the marriage after he has completed two years of study which he hasn't even started. My father is happy for us to make nikah but says we should not have contact for the two years.

My first question is, would it be permissible for us to make nikah without our families knowing? They are agreeing to the marriage just not at this point in time. My concern about this is that we know we will not be able to stay away from each other and cannot continue in this relationship for another two years.

The second question is, would it be permissible for a nikah to be performed again after the two years? We do not want to continue doing wrong or be deceitful but we've made istikhara which was positive for us both. We care for each other very much and also don't want to hurt our parents.

Premarital relationship

Q: I am a Muslim girl but not a good Muslim. I started chatting to a hindu boy. Now we love each other but today I am ashamed of my deeds. I started wearing purdah and praying five times a day. I made dua and apologized to Allah from my heart. Now the hindu boy is in love with me. but I cant leave Islam. What should I do now? He is not embracing Islam. Should I stop talking and chatting to him ven if he gets hurt?

Teaching one's child hifz at home

Q: My son started hifz class in September 2017. Before he went into hifz class he already did 4 juz at home. He started from juz 1 at the mosque as he is the youngest in his class and he was nervous. Alhamdulillah they has never been a complaint about him regarding tajweed or anything else. I feel he prays proper at home with full concentration. Would there be anything wrong in teaching him at home?

Marital problems

Q: I have two wives. I want to be just between them as much as I can. But my first wife in hindering it by getting annoying. Time and again giving me reference of Nabi (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)'s reaction of finding out the intention of Hazrat Ali to marry second time. Giving me reference again and again that you cannot be just between two wives. Asking me questions again and again why I married second time. Bringing the topic of second wife again and again. Asking me the same questions again and again for which i have answered. When i decline to answer and choose to keep quiet, so matters dont get out of hand, she does not tolerate that. The last incident again, i came home late from work tired. and after an hour or so. she said i want to ask a question, which i immediately sensed will lead to argument, so i said, if the question is baseless then should not ask. then she started giving arguments to which i chose to remain quiet and the end she said, you attitude with me makes me doubt you. At that i went to the other room and slept. I am trying my best to be fair as i can. But she infuriates me time and again, intentionally or unintentionally i do not know. What can I do to solve this.

Failing exams despite working hard

Q: Repeatedly I am failing in my exams despite my hard work and wish to pass the exam. Currently I am doing Cost and Management Accounting. I just want to ask if there is any luck factor that I am failing? I used to pray and make duaa also to pass the exam. If there is a luck factor involved, please give me a wazifa or amaal.