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Leaving one's pregnant wife to perform nafl hajj

Q: My husband did hajj last year. I am pregnant and I have 2 little children. His parents who are fit and fine are going for hajj this year with his friends and family who said to take care of them. But in india no 1 is ready to take care of me and my children as the doctor suggested that I should rest. He is taking a business visa and going for hajj. Is it permissible?

Age gap in marriage

Q: I pray you are well. I wanted to ask a question about my situation. I have a proposal for marriage from a man I like and respect. My family met him and liked him and his deen and character. However, after they found out his age at the 2nd meeting they refused without asking me and saying they decided its best. He is 14 years older than me but in good health and looks masha'allah that it is not apparent and we probably look about 8 years difference. I am 24 and he 38. Also he is pakistani and I am indian which my family were initially ok with but then changed when they found out his mother cannot speak english and mines urdu is broken. His family were concerned about the age gap to start with but have said if we are both happy and I am mature and understand what marriage entails they are happy. I want to meet the family again because I like them and can see myself amongst that family despite the differences even tho my family feel I will not be happy and that I will struggle as I will have to do everything because of the age gap and have a hard life. Can my family refuse due to age and ethnicity when they were happy with his character, personality and deen. Are they right in saying i will have a hard life because he is older and so I will have to take care of any kids we have and him in his old age as they are saying he will look like my father and a kids grandad soon and have health issues. But I do like him and we are similar in terms of personality and character and i know if he was even a few years younger I would say yes and theage gap only came to my mimd after my family started saying things because I was ready to accept because I feel he as a person is perfect for me and similar to me. And he keeps himself fit and healthy and masha'allah looks younger than his age. I would appreciate your guidance on this matter.

Abusing and cursing people

Q: How would have our Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) reacted to those people who would hurt his parents if they were alive. Hurting to the extent destroying their social life, giving physical pain, etc. Can we pray for there destruction who have troubled our parents so much. Except dua we have nothing