Q: I am 19 years old (male), staying in hostel for my studies. I am planning to wake up at 3:00am for reading tahajjud and not to sleep until completing my isha prayer execpt <60 sec nap after my lunch. My parents said you are young boy waking up alone in hostel room at that time my cause some problems, so don't wake up at that time, I think they are fearing of supernatural powers (jinns) etc... So plz give me suitable advice
Q: I am struggling with this issue for some time and would like to receive some good advice inshallah.
I have met a good Muslim girl (as is common these days) and wish to pursue a halaal relationship with her. Her parents are aware of me, accept me and are very welcoming of the idea. However, my parents are not aware of the extent of my relationship with her. After a brief conversation I had (regarding marriage, not regarding the girl) with them, they have two issues.
1. We are a Pakistani family and the girl is from a South African family. They are concerned regarding the effects of the difference in culture on our household. They are typical joint family people while the girl and I myself are not too fond of that idea. Nonetheless, the issue is that they do not prefer to marry outside culture, while I disagree as I believe the requirement to be Muslim, not Pakistani. Regardless of that I have spent 8 years of my 22-year life in South Africa and as such am a part of this culture as much as I am a part of Pakistani culture.
2. They do not want to even initiate a conversation about marriage until I have graduated and have a stable job. I completely agree with the idea, that they want me to be able to support and provide for her and I will accept no exception. However, that will take around 2-3 years and until then our relationship will either be haraam or non-existent. The girl's family will not accept me just dating her for the next 3 years and Islamically this is wrong also. I wish to know what to do about this situation.
Lastly, if I were to approach my parents with the idea of Nikaah, what would be the best and safest way to go about doing this.
Q: Me and this guy that I met had been chatting for almost a year. He phoned my parents to ask my hand in marriage and they said no because he has been married twice before. So we got married without them knowing. I had 2 witnesses present and a Moulana did our nikah. It has been 3 weeks since we got married and I am still staying by my parents house. Now I want to run away so I can be with my husband but not sure if I should first tell my parents that I am married or just run away and deal with the stress at a later stage or should I ask for a divorce?
Q: I lost both my parents within 2 years, both in Ramadan. What is the best way to send sawaab to them and how, as their child, can I still be dutiful to them?
Q: I want to marry a girl of my choice.. My mother and father both agreed upon this.. The girl's parents also agreed upon this.. But their will be a gap of a year as they agreed upon. But due to Islamic reasons and due to sins, we want to perform a secret nikaah to stop sins and to have the mercy of Allah SWT.. When the time comes we will perform nikaah before everyone. Pls guide me..
Q: Will I be cursed or saved from some difficulties in life if I can't forgive my mother? She already passed away several years ago but still I can't forget those times when she was alive that she never made me feel that she loved me, what I felt and feel right now is still HATRED from her, I'm even kind of happy when she passed away because she never made me happy, she always scolded me and more, I have 5 siblings and what she treat others is not the same on how she treated me. It's unfair for me and that's one of the reasons why I felt hatred for her. What I always heard about Islamic lectures is forgive your parents, love your parents especially your mother.
Q: Kia nikah ky liye larka khud wali hey? agar larki kay parents razi ho or lrka but lrka ky parents na razi hn to kia lrka khd shadi kr skta h?
Q: I am a 17 year old boy from Brisbane, Australia but orginaly from Pakistan and I was wondering if an Imam can advise me on a problem I am currently seeing happen with my own eyes.
There is a 16 year old muslim girl whom I know very well, you can call me her best friend pretty much. She is from India and like me, she is also in her last year of school in Australia and university will start next year. Me and her have been friends since last year and were hoping that in 3 to 4 years Insha-Allah we will tell our parents about each other and arrange a marriage for us Insha-Allah. Unfortunately her parents are very abusive and strict parents, I have heard from her about the many different cases of them beating her up everyday for little things like forgetting to wash the laundry. Wallah I am not lying this is all true. A few weeks ago her mum was beating her up and said the following words to her "you are my daughter and I can do whatever I want to you and you can do nothing but obey me because I own you." I was absolutely shocked when I heard this. Wallahi all of this is true she has been constantly getting abused by her mum and dad since she was a little girl and her older brother seems to join in when he wants to.
Recently, her parents told her that they want to get her engaged at the end of the year and she doesn't want this to happen. They have been forcing her to accept whatever they say and live with whoever they want and they made some cultural comments like no one else will be allowed to marry her except an Indian boy, no arab no pakistani no one except an Indian. She told me that she doesn't want this to happen and has been crying and feeling depressed from many days now. My question is, what is Islam's view on forced marriage and what can this girl do to avoid what her parents are doing because they have been abusing and forcing her to do as they say and she does not wish to get engaged to anyone by force and only wants to engage someone who she will accept with her heart but she feels like whoever her parents show her, she will only accept because of fear out of what they will do if she says no due to their abusive nature and not because she actually accepts the boy.
If possible, can you please advise me on what this girl should do and how she can seek help? What does Islam say about a scenario like this and what can this girl do to avoid forced marriage? I am looking forward to the Imam's advice Insha-Allah it will be greatly appreciated.
Q: Maine ik ldke se apne ma bap ko bina btaye ik nek ur shareef ldke se nikah kr liya.hm log sath me business krte the. ldke ki walida ki moujudgi me. Ur fir maine bad me apne ma bap ko bta diya to unhone mujhe ghr me kaid kr diya.meri ik bdi bahen ur 2 chhoti bahene hai.ur unki shadi nhi huyi hai.mere shouhr dosri biradri ke hai is lia mere walid ne shart rakhi hai ki jb tk tino bahno ki shadi nhi kr denge.hamari shadi nhi krenge.ur isi shart k 6 mahine bad hi meri sas ka intekal ho gya hai.ur mere shouhr ur ik unka bhai hai bs.ur koi nhi hai khana pkane k lia roz unki appi ati hai.ab mere shaouhr chahte h ki badi ldki ki shadi k bad meri ruksati kr den mgr mere walid nhi man rahe hai.ur mere shauhr mere riye bahut rote hai.mere shouhr ne kaha ki mere ghr chali awo mgr meri ma ne doodh na bksne ki dhamki di hai ur kuran pr kasam bi kilayi hai ki bina ijazt nhi jana hai.mera shuhr bahut presan hai. Mujhe kya krna chahiye .ma bap ka sath dun ya shouhr ka .mere ahouhr me koi burai nhi bs biradri ki wajah se mere walid nhi man rahe h
Q: My wife passed away leaving behind a son and me. I know I get 1/4 of her inheritance. Does my wifes parents each get 1/6 each before remaining goes to my son - as per Surah al Nisa. The parents were not dependant on my wife but do they still get their share of 1/6. Or does the 1/6 rule only apply to parents if their son dies. So in my case, my wife' s parents get nothing. Section 2, verse 11 refers to " his" parents.