Q: My husband has been having an affair with a Hindu married woman. This affair is going on for a while now and she travels alot. He has changed and hits me and denies it. He even threw me out but doesn't want to break this haraam relationship. I have a son 11 years old and we are married for 20 years. I need a dua to destroy this enemy.
Q: I am unable to adjust with my in-laws. The moment I decide to have a family feeling they taunt me for my work done and my mom's family related to dowry. I don't want to have any hard feelings on them please suggest me Islamic way to deal my relationship with them and my husband. Going to be a mother soon please suggest me some things to do to have a obedient child.
Q: I am married to someone whos already married. He promised to give me the same in due time. He hasn't told her because shes got 3 kids and shes gonna leave and doesnt want to lose his kids. He opresses me now after 2 years of sticking by him. He says that he doesnt even know if our nikah is proper when it is. He also says that I'm not his wife. I am really angry and I want to tell the first wife, but I dont know if I should. Now he is telling me that he doesnt want it anymore because his family, his dad and sisters, mum has found out. What do I do?
Q: Is it wrong to be angry at my husband? It has been nearly two years of marriage. We have a 9month old daughter. I'm 24 and he's 36.Whenever a problem arises between us, I'm always the one to ask for forgiveness just so we can move on. I heard it is not advisable to sleep over such problems because it escalates so I try to talk to him before going to bed. What hurts is that whenever I go to beg him, he doesn't pay attention. He's either on his phone or facing the opposite direction. When I was pregnant, due to so much stress, I would become moody at times but it didn't mean that I would disrespect him, a particular night I was cooking and I became moody so he came back from work.the way i acted wasn't the normal way so he got angry . I then realized I had to beg him and so I went to him knelt down and asked for forgiveness but he didn't even acknowledge me. I was in that position for long because I wanted him to say it's ok, but he never did to the extent my food grew cold.then he looked at me and said I should stop behaving like a manafik...hypocrite. wallahi, it felt like I was stabbed deep in my heart. .I cried in the kitchen.the next day I went to talk to him and I couldn't control the tears...I really didn't want to cry but then my husband started imitating the my face as I cried. Then, it dawned on me that it wòuld be of no use. So I made up my mind never to cry in his presence again. This happened last year. Now we have another misunderstanding and he's mostly at fault . I had pains on my legs and send and he told me to carry out child and i said pls just leave her there he got angry and yelled at me if I was high on something. I said what do I mean high on something. And that was it. It's been two days and we haven't really spoken to each other. I cook, clean and do everthing as usual except eat and joke with him. I'm really angry with him beacause I went to talk to him so we could move on that same night but I literally had to beg him to even listen , he had his back to me the whole time. It felt like I was talking to a wall or myself. i said pls turn and face me so we could really communicate, He said is it not ears He uses to HEAR? I then talked to him and how I felt and I wanted him to say something but as usual I was ignored so I got upset left to the living room. My baby started crying; he just took her and dumped her where I was and went back to sleep. I'm just tired of his behaviour, I believe I deserve a better treatment. So I decided I won't talk to him until he is ready to apologise. He always says im a small girl, he treats me like I'm dumb and foolish just because I'm patient, hardly allows me to see my relatives except his own, holds my credit card,yells at me, says I should never complain of tiredness.He's never helped me with our baby at night only during the day,wen she cried he hisses and sends me to another ròom, so when I complain of tiredness, He said from today don't ever say you are tired. Is it because I'm too quiet? I know he has rights over me but I do too and I deseve better. How do I get him to even listen to me? I need a shoulder to cry on at times, am I asking for too much? He complains that I don't know How to beautify my self but wenever I take my time to do so he never compliments me, I yearn for things like that but I never get it.He said I can't get everything. He has his good sides but I feel this is important because it's really weighing on me and may cause me to start treating him differently. How do I change him? Please advise me.
Q: Me and my wife are currently seperated and waiting for the MJC to discuss the matter. My wife says she is done with our marriage but I feel there is still room for reconcilliation. The question I have is as follows.
1. I am being told that that my wifes decision and the fact that her mind is made up goes directly from her mother and eldest brother not to take me back. Please advise what I can do to as I want my wife back as well as my two kids. Even if there is a dua I can make to make things right between us..
Q: My sister got married last month. She was happy with her husband but since last week she is behaving very weird. She is telling that she is feeling depressed and having uneasiness. She is not even allowing her husband to come near her. Not praying namaz. Crying all the time and telling that I want to go somewhere. Please help me whether she is having some asarat of Jin. Should I consult a mufti regarding this?
Q: I am in desperate need of good advice. I have downloaded your app and been listening to your talks. I have been having marriage issues for a while now and my husband and I almost got separated about a month ago he moved out the house and after some time came back. We then left for umrah about 3 weeks later only to come back from umrah to find out he has been cheating on me for some time now. According to the girl it's been 2 years according to him it's from late last year his not sure exactly when but she has known him for 2 years now. I am hurting really badly I don't know what to do. I have forgiven him for it but it's not the 1st time I have found out about him doing this. We are married for 5 years now. How do I go about dealing with this issue? I feel I should let him go and move on as he causes me a lot of heart ache not only this buy many other things.
Q: I performed only nikah with a girl back in February 2016. Her elder sister is married with my elder brother. Now some problems happened between my brother and his wife and they even went to court for their personal matter solution. Her family started threatening us and told us clearly that they will not arrange to send their 2nd daughter who is my wife to our house untill we write any property or big amount on her name. We are not able to meet this demand and it was also not a part when nikah was performed. Now I have decided to divorce her immediately. But may be in future I still expect they might change their conditions. What should I do? If I divorce her, what will be the possibilities and how can I remarry her if any solution is done? Please guide me.
Q: I got married 4 months ago. It was under family pressure but I did say yes ultimately. After struggling for 6 years of saying no they finally convinced me. I was more inclined towards the other guy who was interested in me (There was no haram relation between us) I kept the option infront of my mother but she declined due to this rishta who happens to be my cousin. After 4 months or so I dont feel attracted to my husband at all and I am thinking of the other guy who was better looking, had a good job and everything was perfect, I never leave my salaah, I have seeked Allah's help but Im in misery as my husband and I are not bonding up due to my lack of interest. What should I do?
Q: My wife wants us to stay in the marriage for the sake of the kids. She does not trust me and I have hurt her many times. But I know she wants us to stay together for the sake of the kids. Also I know that she wants to abuse me mentally as she has done for the past seven years. I have done wrong and I admit it. However I know that all she wants us to stay together for the children, but I am 100 percent sure that she also wants to abuse me verbally so that I can be punished. Is this correct? I don't want to be with her anymore but everybody feels that I should not divorce her for the kids. I feel I will just be living a lie and I feel that if she does not care about me, why should I live with her. I am fully prepared to look after my kids following the sharia. Please advise, is she correct or do I have a right to get a divorce?