Marital Issues

Q: Last year, my girlfriend became pregnant. I tried to make things right by making Nikaah (I did not make Nikaah immediately). Unfortunately, things got complicated and I think under the influence of her mother and family members, she wants nothing to do with me and doesn't allow me to see my child. In fact, she has taken out a court injunction against me so I cannot make any contact with her or the child or else I will go to prison on the premise that if I see the child she fears that I will abduct the child and take the child to Pakistan. Her family is adamant that they do not want me to have anything to do with her or the child! I have tried to talk in an amicable manner with her but to no avail. I have not seen her or the child for about 3 or 4 months now. I send things for the child via a third party. I wanted to know Islamically, what can I do about this? What advice can Hazrat give me? Do I divorce her? How can I get to see my child again? I am aware that I have made a terrible mistake and I have asked Allah for forgiveness but I am struggling inside. My heart is burning because I cannot see my child.

Q: I recently got married to a man I thought I knew. But I have found out he is not the person I thought he was. He will chat different women on social medias. It used to bother me then. I got over it and tried to over look. For the past two months I was happy and we never argued as he continued doing what he always does. Then the other day he put a picture of him and a woman he met on social sites on his whatsapp. I couldn't believe my eyes. Me and him come from the same circle I felt really ashamed like he could do such a thing. When I confronted him he told me that's his page he can put what he wants. This really got me angry because I felt he has disrespected me. I decided I can't deal with him and just to ask for a divorce. My question is will my reason be valid or I will be committing a great sin. I don't want a divorce but he is pushing me to call it quits.

Q: My husband was forced to divorce me due to my not conceiving and his parents never accepted me due to past history. I was finding it difficult to conceive and they made my husband divorce me. He didn't carry out with it however we knew it would be inevitable that he will remarry a girl from India or through the marriage sites that his parents will be advertising on. During the 'separation' I conceived subahanallah and naturally. However they in the meantime did find a girl that accepted to marry him and his parents and him promised marriage to the yateem girl from India. Now that I am pregnant which he was always hoping I would just fall pregnant his parents are not allowing him to be with me as they are furious that we lied and kept seeing one another. My husband wants to know if it is wrong to refuse a yateem girl's marriage after promise had been made and to call it off against his parents wishes and want to know how does he seek forgiveness for deceiving his parents.

Q: What does the shariah say about "swinging", "swinging couples" which we now see is creeping slowly into our own Muslims in S.A.? What if both partners give permission and are happy with it?

Q: I have some questions that are concerning me greatly. I am my elder sister's wali. My sister has received a marriage proposal from one of my cousins. However he doesn't read all 5 prayers, he only reads Fajr Namaz and attends jumah, he also listens to music, free mixes with non mahram relatives like cousins etc. I should let you know, my sister was negligent with prayer before but she does read all namaz's except fajr and she has also started trying to read fajr as I have continued to encourage and advise her. I feel my sister fears Allah now and is a good girl. Do you think it is wise for us to accept this marriage proposal? My mother has said perhaps my cousin could change after marriage and read all the prayers.

My other question is to do with myself, I have been trying to implement Islam fully into my life and because of this I have stopped conversing with non mahram women even those who are related to me like cousins, I don't speak to them, neither do I look at them, I have stopped watching TV for this reason as well as the fact that it is full of filth. My mother has said that, I have to talk to her friends when they come over to our house and I have to greet them with salam however I have told her I don't wish to do this, as some of her friends who are in their forties/ fifties however wear lots of perfume, make up and tight jeans and I refuse to talk to them but my mother says this is not allowed as they are her friends and is rude and that they are like my mother my mother also says I have to talk to my elderly female neighbour who doesn't wear hijaab and is a Christian, is this allowed Islamically? Also my mother and sister don't wear hijab is it permissible for me to go out with them? I have tried encouraging them to wear Islamically appropriate clothing, but it has not made a difference to them?

Can I go shopping, visit relatives, family with them?

I am working currently and my mother also has a job , she helps people with special needs and down syndrome with their shopping, tidying and the down syndrome man she works with understands girlfriends and relationships and she has to stay and help him in his home alone, she also buys musics cds, haram movies, haram food for him. Is this a halaal job? Please try to answer my question as soon as you can as I am very worried about these issues.

Q: I am married for almost three years and its mostly been unpleasant. My husband verbally abuses me. He insults me, my family and late husband all the time. He also has a drinking issue. I have three kids from my previous marriage. I was a widow. I would like talaq as I cannot continue under these circumstances. I am financially independent and he does not do much for me or my kids. I would like to know how I should go about obtaining Talaaq as a female. These conditions are not healthy for my kids well being. I would also like to keep the house which he insists that I sell as he will not leave. Please advise.

Q: I have problem with premature ejaculation, hence I am not able to satisfy my wife. Shall I give her divorce?

Q: Are we as Muslim women allowed to marry a married Muslim man. I like my boss. Everyone says he is married but he never told me he was married. I really like him and I think he likes me too. Is it wrong if I tell him how I feel towards him and pursue him?

Q: Me and my husband just came to know that I am expecting our third child and I am 7 weeks pregnant. This is a unplanned pregnancy and Alhumdulillah we were satisfied with our 2 kids and were taking precautions but with Allah Ta'ala's will I am expecting our third one, but my husband wants me to terminate the foetus. He has worldly reasons time and money for better upbringing. I understand his anxiousness but I am really confused whether to follow my husband or to the laws of our creator Allah Ta'ala. Please advise.